Let's face it, i think it's an important step in the development process to know where you are heading.. so what kind of man you want to become.. or more clearly what kind of man i want to become... because if you have a direction you have a goal and with a goal everything is easier... I thought about all this stuff for a long time and know now, who i wanna be and who i do not wanna be... and by thinking about all this stuff, i came to two big areas in my life: Friends and Clothes Friends: I have a lot of (let's call them) AFC Friends which don't know how to speak to woman and maybe will never know... actually only two of my old friends have girlfriends at all... and to come to the point i am not really seeing them in my future, it is not only the girls thing.. it's more like the over-all-picture and what they want to do with their life and what i want to do... but on the other hand their fun and i have a good time with them e.t.c.... but also I know that my progress would be 10 times higher if i wouldn't meet with them any longer, because on the one hand i am always falling back in my old habits if meeting with them and on the other hand the five people with which we interact the most influence us the most.. and well to become what i wanna become they are not a very good influence, i think ... Clothes: It's just a little bit the same like with friends... I have tons of old clothes which are not really bad, but not really good either and i am just thinking about throwing away everything what's not best quality... so throwing away everything i am not seeing me with in the future... All in all: I am just thinking about deleting everything out of my life, which i can't see in the future for me... and well by writing this post I came to the conclusion that i will do that (writing seems still one of the best alternatives to clear up the mind)... even if this could become very hard in the beginning But however, I just wanna ask you, what you are thinking about it or what experience did you made with your old friends e.t.c.? What you are just thinking or if you have a cool tipp..:thumbup: thanks for reading and have a nice day
Falling back into old habits blows. When I am around certain friends, I can feel myself going back to old ways, or running out of things to say. The interactions just aren't the same as they used to be. People grow apart. That being said, if you like your friends and they are fun, I think ditching them would be pretty AFC of you. Why not help them out or go out to different places with them? I would never ditch my friends unless it had to do with some sort of drug problem or something crazy beyond my control. But, my experience was the exact opposite of you; all my friends have been naturals and always had girls, I was the AFC. One thing I noticed now is that I am so busy with my own life, that at times it feels like I literally have NO friends. But when I actually get time to go out, it makes seeing my friends and meeting new people way more exciting. Maybe you just need to buckle down and get busy. For the clothes, I would donate that shit and hit up an American Eagle or H&M. They have cheap but stylish gear that you can mix n match (I just dropped $75 and got 6 shirts and 2 pants!!!) Good luck dude
Wow, 75$ for 8 clothes is really good...* To the friends subject: You know that was exactly the same i also thought for a long time and where i had my fight about it... And for one thing you are right, i have to get more busier... Because than i wouldn't even had time to meeting them... But still they would call me and because i am working from home it's hard to say always no... Without making a real cut... A decision! And sure it sounds like an asshole behavior to ditch old friends, but i think to be a nice guy is not an alternative either... Just two questions to your situation: Are your friends social connectors (so they intodruce you to new people?) and do you see yourself meeting your friends in 2-5 years? Just asking because may be that's the difference between your and my old friends... Thx for your reply earl and good luck you too
Good questions, Iam. Thanks, Earl, for your feedback. It would be GREAT if more people made comments about these subjects. I have my own thoughts about friends, but, they may not apply in this situation. TM
I stay in touch with come of my old friends but rarely hang out, because it is very time consuming and they offer very little value back. I've got old friends that are in their 30s and still live with their mom and stuff, for example. Most of them feel like victims, complain, and do little with themselves. The fact is, most of your old friends will choose the very lazy path. You don't need to burn bridges are cut them out completely, but there's thousands of cool guys out there who are doing cool things and will help to bring your forward, if you make your new hobby in life to be social and meet new people. By the way, I've found that Kohl's is a great place to find some really cool shirts and jeans at a reasonable price.
It seems like it is about 1 in 500 (?) men who can benefit you in your growth. The majority of men have decided to travel the road that our society has told them to travel. From where I stand, they decided to take a path that leads to unhappiness and unfulfilled desires. The term, quiet desperation, may be the term that describes their condition. But, being like men, the ones who can benefit you will NOT be all that open in talking to you and sharing their lifestyle. This Forum will provide you with a platform to communicate with men who are willing to guide you. TM
Hey thanks for your replies... i will check out kohls.. If i can ask: do you mean you call them or write and email with them, but not really meeting them? just share them, i would like to hear them, may be they are not helping me in this situation, but maybe in the future.. no one knows.. ^^ Wow your text sounds a bit like an advertisment for this forum.. hehe i like it... unfortunately for most men it seems to be true... wish you all a great day
Quote: I have my own thoughts about friends, but, they may not apply in this situation. just share them, i would like to hear them, may be they are not helping me in this situation, but maybe in the future.. no one knows.. ^^ Iam, I don't claim to be the best person to address this issue. There may be a lot of truth in the idea that, a person who has 1 good friend is very lucky..a person who has more than 1 good friend is extremely lucky. So many friends have disappointed me and I have disappointed many friends, also. It's the ones who stick by you through thick and thin whom are your good friends. he, he...that is a good advertisement for SeductionScience. It's something I firmly believe in. TM
Yep... just call to see how they're doing from time to time, sometimes also short visits to drop by and say hello. Depends on the person, if I'm in the neighborhood, and so on.
