Forced myself out tonight, again, by myself. Felt tired, and like total shit before going out. I'm coming to just accept the fact that I may feel weird before going out alone, but I am usually fine once I get to the place. Great night, went to an outside bar that is usually low-key. It was beautiful and I was hoping to find classy girls and just mingle. I get there and the place has been turned into a total night club. Loud dance music, etc. Lots of jock-ish douchebags, lots of really glammed up, but not attractive girls. I warm-up by being social with the bouncer. Just joked about how he "upped the security" and was asking for my Bday and address on my ID. All smiles on the way in, tons of typical guys sitting around doing nothing, even some by themselves. I have come to realize that just smiling, even if you are not in a set is pretty crucial to success. It helps your state, and you seem comfortable/confident/friendly/approachable! Anyway, mostly banter with a girl about the poor service. Touch shoulder, "Wow, didn't know they let blind people bartend...she ain't gonna see us over here..." Girl invests. I go upstairs, bump into some people that I know. Talk a bit, had some cool conversations. Go back down stairs to search for some decent targets. Open the door for some hot girls, one has the exact same shirt on as me. I playfully tell her I like her style, but she should stop trying to steal my look. Go in, talk to another girl. She asked me how to get upstairs, I reply blandly "The stairs" She laughed, and her friend was like "wow you're a cold dude," I playfully teased them for a bit, about how it was my first time there and they picked the wrong guy for directions...blah So, I stay for about an hour before calling it quits. While I was there I focused on SUPER Breaking Rapport. When the bartender gave me my water, I bellowed "Perfect. Thanks." It was loud enough to cut way over the music, and the people around me turned and looked. Sometimes, though, it feels like I am almost screaming, as in to be heard, I literally can not go any louder in my speaking voice. Is there an appropriate volume or is finding the line between both being heard and having resonance more important? Basically, as long as you don't sound like some drunk frat boy ranting about "the big game." When I got home, some people we over, including a hot girl. I could tell I had good resonance, as I was pretty much talking over everybody and telling epic stories. People would try to speak over me, or add to the story (essentially trying to ruin my delivery, as it is a fine art...) Is it Alpha to both completely ignore and continue to speak over, and also lean back, let someone speak, then just make your point wayyy cooler? I did both, and when I let someone else talk over me, I shot the cute girl a knowing smile that basically said, Yeah, I know I'm cooler. But anyway, my sticking point seems to be both getting a good resonance that does not completely startle people (unless thats what you want, then I'm fine) And also, once I got to the bar, I got way into social mode and was not able to focus too much on Game. If I do not find girls I am attracted to, should I still be hitting on them? I am scared of attracting a girl I am not interested in and hurting here, merely for practice. What should I do?
