Relationships - it's not fair...

Well,

you could get a sex change, buy implants and take it up the....

Seriously dude, think about it! It is much better to be the one who chooses and picks the flower. Sure they get attention, so what. If the one you have is insulting to you in front of others then it is bad behavior. Don't put up with it. If she just flirts a little then build on it and make her feel sexy. Whisper in her ear that you notice guys looking at her and tell her to fantsize because you will fullfill those fantasies when you get home. It is well worth the little aggravations that come along with it.

It is just the way nature designed the sexes, actually I think it is great!

SHS

Maintain the power by giving them the power?

Karea,
HBs get hit on a lot, PUAs hit on a lot, and PUAs with HB GFS will definitely get hit on a lot.

There's a whole lot of hitting going on here that we need to call the police.

Seriously, the point is that anyone of quality will get hit on perpetually, but does that mean that she or he sleeps with every person who slips her/him a line? Of course not. He and her still have standards. When someone of high quality that fits your standards comes around, then yes, you end up taking the bait.

A PUA in a relationship is probably adventurous, exciting, well-put together, something that you come across as Karea. I don't see why you think your GFs would want to be with any other man. Are they really going to get from some chump what you have to offer her? That is why not all GFs sleep with every guy who makes a pass at them. The woman thinks: "Why would I give up what I have to get with this stranger?" If you keep it adventurous, exciting, and alpha, you won't have to worry about her cheating on you.

So what if she threatens you with "going with someone else." Tell her how it is: "Go for it, babe. See if you can find someone as good as me, who will treat you like I do, make you come like I do..." You get the picture. And she will too.

So in a way, you're maintaing power by giving her the power or choice to leave. You're giving HER the permission, which is really taking away her power of choice.

Recall in the movies when the bad guy hands the loaded gun to the good guy. The good guy points the gun to the bad guy's face. The good guy's trembling and sweating, while the bad guy doesn't even break out in sweat, in fact, he pulls out a cigarrette and lights it. Finally the good guy puts the weapons and the bad guy tells him, "Yeah, I didn't think so."

It's something like that.

J O E

Whole-world-destroyer ha ha!

yeah, style does that in bars, and he calls it the "whole-room-destroyer". So the way you put it, it's kinda the whole-world destroyer LOL...

Style does that? Really? What's his "whole-room-destroyer"? The same thing I said only it's "see if you can find someone better than me in the bar?"

J O E

I see your point men.

Yes, this happens all the time, guys hits on and on.

What I did, I said, I am not jelous, I don't worry too much. It is all up to you. But there will be no excuses if something or way back.

And altough she eventually reports that here and there some hits up. Once even there was a case like in center of citty some 35-40 yo man walks and ask 'how much'. Kinda, sadly I wasn't around, these guys balls crys after the kick.

Anyway, some girls will leave if they weren't the real one. Number games. These are just with six zerros at the end. Play smart

And a little offtopic: tell her you got the biggest penny around ;P

Ways to deal with the power struggle

My brother has a 8.1HB for a GF, who is outgoing to boot. After the first year or so of their relationship she would start to respond more enthusiastically to being hit on till eventually she would blatantly flirt. My bro wasn't so happy about this at first so he did the usual AFC thing (argue and make a big deal out of it). Now here is what he does with surprising results:

If his GF flirts and somehow he finds out about it (either he sees it, or hears of it) he says most seriously 'We're young, we're nubile and I want you to have a good time above all else. Just remember to wrap it before you tap it.' If she argues or pretty much anything he laughs and goes super playful then drops it.

If his girlfriend threatens to go with other men he says most seriously 'You're right, men want you. We both want to experience the world which can't happen under this constant threatening of nailing other people. I want you to be happy, so do what you want with other men, but if you so much as kiss one, love him, because you won't have me anymore.'

Funny enough, they haven't split up.

Vincent

Not surprising actually, your broo just showed some balls and guts, so she knows he is da man, da keeper, all others are just like few secound tests for a moment...

another great lesson from life

Why it will fail

Again, if you keep your relationship hot, there will be no reason for her to cheat on you. It's like the bad guy handing over the good guy a loaded weapon. They're not going to use it.

VV and Karea reiterate what I wrote about in "Grilfriend Extraction": if she's not happy and she's decided her BF is not the one, there is nothing he can do to keep her. It's all a matter of removing the constraint that is keeping her from leaving. Most times they just need "permission" from the BF.

Karea said it, keep using PUA techniques to keep the relationship on its toes and exciting.

J O E

Girls worry about this shit 2

Yeah,i was thinking about the same thing the other day!I think its always easier to accept(girl) than to have to go out and "hit" on a girl!(guy)Its kind of handed to them on a silver platter!But i agree with JOE.If you keep it hot and interesting she's not gonna cheat on you,its just when u have a serious argument and u feel vulnerable do u start thinking about shit like that and actually feel threatened!.And believe me,girls worry about this alot aswell!they really believe that girls are actively going out and flirting with their boyfriends.at the end of the day i would say the girl worries about it more than the guy!Especially if you come off as a very secure and confident person

Theriddler

Yeah if she's pissed off and she's drunk then u pretty fucked!

Eyes open & get awarness of what women try to do

Women say it's the other way around.

"Where are the great guys?"

LOL.Quantity is not quality.

Besides, women DO hit on men. It's just that most
men are blind to see it as they are to busy with
their fears, frustrations and limiting believes.

Keep your eyes and ears open and you will notice
women try to get your attention on a subtle level
so you will approach her. (Not that you need
those invitations)

Enjoy,


TVM

spot on

Great post tvm,perfect!

There's *'just'* one

More

Ah Karea, the girls were still interested in you. Didn't
you notice the green lights? (The Blueprint, chapter 2).

All you had to do is approach them again... That's all!

Serious, there is less 'competition' then you think, if any.
You are seeing your projections of your own fears.

There is only ONE fucking Karea!




TVM

Heads up Foolios!

TVM, I'm glad you brought these issues. Women are always asking about the "good guys" when in fact we know they are referring to AFC behaviors, which is what they reject. There is a conflict between who they think they want, and who they really want.

We must have connection going TVM b/c this morning I was thinking about how girls make passes at guys and we don't even it realize it. I was going to post a thread that would say, "Hey playas! Remember that once every ten years a girl will try to game us, so keep your heads up, Foolios!"

J O E

Connecting People

You were going to post a thread about it? What is
keeping you from doing just that?

Feel the connection


TVM