Ricky, your girl sounds like a keeper BUT most likely you'll have to do all the leading to make it happen. Women are very passive when it comes to getting with a girl, they want the man to do all the work and take the responsibility for being "sexually adventurous" off their shoulders.
Ricky; I am encouraging people to be careful when it comes to sexual activity. What I am and several other people are saying is to have a pre-sex talk with anyone you are interested in being intimate, with. The following suggestions may seem too complicated and will spoil the FUN. We are adults and adults are responsible for doing things in a responsible way. (It reminds me of the saying about using the head on your shoulders and NOT the head at the end of your dick, or the head of your clit.) :lol: Here it is: “JUST BECAUSE IT’S SEXY & SACRED, DOESN’T MAKE IT SAFE!” (Written by Sheri Winston, personallifemedia.com) 1. Check in with yourself before engaging in sensual and sexual activities. Be honest and take as much time as you need to be clear about what you want to do or not do. 2. Communicate with potential partners. Be honest, clear and overt. Don’t assume permission, ASK! 3. Make agreements about boundaries and then honor them. 4. Honor prior agreements with others. Tell the complete truth about your agreements. 5. Discuss expectations, intentions and commitments before engaging in behaviors. 6. If you’re all in agreement, have a Pre-Sex Talk. If you can’t talk about it, don’t do it. Remember, sex makes you stupid, so be smart and have this conversation before you’re highly aroused. Tell the complete truth! A Pre-Sex Talk Includes: a. Who are you currently being sexual and/or intimate with? Discuss current partner status and agreements. b. History of sexually transmitted diseases c. Testing history including HIV, as well as other STDs. d. What intimate sensual or sexual activities will you engage in together, now? What are your boundaries? e. What Safer Sex practices will you use? f. Contraception, if applicable. g. Anything Else? 7. Consider playing in the safer realm of sensual activities. There’s a lot of fun to be had without contact of your genitals and the surrounding skin, or sharing sexual fluids and the accompanying risks of disease. You can still have a great and erotic time. 8. Be responsible and respectful to yourself and to others. 9. Play nice. 10. It’s better to be careful than sorry!
Thanks! Well, we went out last week and tried to seduce girl on the dance floor. Girl was happy to dance with me first but I guess we should have spoken more and explain why the other girl (my gf) was joining us intensively for a sandwich type dancing too, rubbing her tits against the target girl and other similar action. Now when I think about this - we spoke way too little and relied on the dance language, but this makes me think that making my current GF as my housemate who is hanging out with me and is a bit tipsy so she is safe to dance and no need to worry about her playfulness, was the thing I missed out. But I guess it is hard to get instant bi female attraction unless you're in gay/lesbian bar. Now.. Been chatting with one of girls from different city this week, she's interested in me, but I've been talking different sexual things, e.g. a dream about her where I caught her with another girl before I joined them and then waked up before real action... and also been asking about her open mindedness, including girls and such. I got colder and warmer responses. The best one I liked was that: she likes girls, but she haven't tried anything more than kiss and has no interest in trying more. For me it seemed like, if you like girls, then right mindset, right attitude all could get results. Tonight been talking about that other girl for first time to my misses, and she of course feels awkward because it is more like set up, rather than random emotional moment. On the other hand been also trying suggest/explain why the dance floor one didn't work and some preparation is needed. So I think this seeds good set up and changes expectations to more realistic ones. So I think being in lead and chatting between both of them I could possibly unlock several things such as: - the other girl might not want to have experience with women but she admitted she likes them, so potentially there is a little window of opportunity - acceptance from my misses that I am doing things and arranging stuff, - and that it might take some time to know the person better before getting somewhere even she would prefer a moment without strings attached (i guess in part it could be guilt about their sexual fantasies); So yeah, something is happening in my kitchen, even if very slowly. anyways, I hate seduction.. it makes me experiment and want more and grow and develop myself; why I can't get enough with what I have? Does it ever ends? Also I think I have hijacked the thread... As per tequileman post - good call and I agree with you - safety first Hence I starting to think that it is better to develop this over longer period of time with persons you know are a lot safer.
"anyways, I hate seduction.. it makes me experiment and want more and grow and develop myself; why I can't get enough with what I have? Does it ever ends"? I think the thing that never ends is your growth and knowledge about yourself and your relationships.Having the intent to be friendly with people and if you find them sexually attractive, it's OK to bring things to higher levels. My intent is to enjoy life and encourage other people to enjoy their life. If it includes exploring TABOO sexual activity, all the better. (TABOO sexual activity can be called, Sacred/Spiritual sexual activity.) "As per tequileman post - good call and I agree with you - safety first Hence I starting to think that it is better to develop this over longer period of time with persons you know are a lot safer". Having a relatively closed circle of friends who do sexual activities together is considered wiser and safer. But, as Sheri Winston stated, and I agree with, exploring different kinds of sexual activity can be achieved by using safer techniques. Sensuous touching by NOT exchanging/touching body fluids can be very much FUN. (Most STDs are transmitted by contact.) Women are most knowledgeable about this subject about TOUCH. (I'll admit, I am VERY knowledgeable and have a lot of experience in this area.) :thumbup: Note: I am more than willing to tell you more about this subject. "Tonight been talking about that other girl for first time to my misses, and she of course feels awkward because it is more like set up, rather than random emotional moment". Yeah, I know what she means. Random emotional moments kicks-in the excitement and the anticipation of the Oxytocin Effect. It's your job to LEAD and to initiate the pre-sex talk. TM
No, it never ends. You're biologically driven to obsess over new pussy. The best way to get rid of that is to separate yourself and live in a cabin on a mountain. No temptation. Which is pretty cool too. As for getting two girls together, it's FAR easier to bring together two girlfriends that you're already sleeping with. Where BOTH girls have already slept with you, and you just bring them together. But trying to "seduce" a second girl with your current girlfriend in on it is very difficult, because to her it will feel forced which girls don't like. If you go out to a club with JUST the goal of having fun - with NO thought of "getting a threesome" - and you've got the game skills to makeout with LOTS of girls, you can get the girls to makeout with your girlfriend too. But otherwise, seduce the girls separately, and bring them together once you're both sleeping with each other.
