I am 47 and have an intern who is 25. She is so eager to please me all the time. How do I cross the line? What is the best way to do that? I think about taking her to bed all the time. Someone have any good ideas? Strategy? We already have plans to go to a museum and then dinner next week. Pointers?? Thanks.
Hi Sandee. Thanks for taking the time to reply. Much appreciated. Okay, here are some more details and answers to your questions. I live in New York and work in a big organization. She has joined as an intern for four months, which has just started. I had a hand in selecting her as the intern. She is hot to say the least. She is young smart and ambitious. She is most likely not attracted to me in the sexual sense....yet. I am her boss and she is always seeking to please me, which is normal. Now, I need to try and get her loosened up a bit.....so a little alchohol may help. I guess I have to look for signs to see if she might be receptive to my advances, or should I wait for her to make the first move, which I think would be unlikely as she would be too scared to start anything. The issue is how do I break the ice to make the move. There must be something that if I try and it's totally not what she had in mind, then it can be like an "accident" move....Get my point? Ideas Sandee??
This sounds like a recipe for extreme trouble... like having your entire career blow up in your face AND losing the girl. You don't sound that experienced in creating attraction, I'm guessing, because you're not even sure where to start with this girl. So you're like a toddler learning how to walk at this stage. You're simply guaranteed to make mistakes as you figure out what the hell you're doing with women. Do you really want your first practice run to be on an intern at work? What if you come across as socially uncalibrated, freak her out, and she decides to screw you over? You will be SO FUCKED it won't be funny. Like taking a big black dick lined with sandpaper up your ass fucked. (Sandee, you should link to your own thread about the elevator girl at your work) Or you could just freak her out and make the situation really uncomfortable. OR let's say you DO get her, and then you end up fighting later. And THEN she decides to fuck you over. IF you had a lot of experience with girls, I'd say "okay". But since you're a newbie, you don't know what you're doing. It's like wanting to drive the Nascar car at 200 MPH around the track on your first drive in a car when you turn 16. In other words, really dumb. Also, consider this: young women in a new career are EXTREMELY wanting to be "liked" and be "accepted". They are very permission seeking, and trying to be nice to please everyone. This is NOT the same as attraction for you, and your brain is confusing the two. So if you start hitting on her, you will start to create a warped situation. Kind of like Dad trying to molest his daughter, the daughter who only wants to please him but the Dad confuses that for sexual love or attraction. I won't give you any advice on this, because I don't want to be responsible for possibly destroying your career. But what you do is your own decision.
Thanks guys for the interest in my situation and the thoughtful responses. Let me say a few things here: I am not a newbie by a long shot. Like I said, I am 47 and have had my share (or more) of women in my life. I am going to go out on a limb here and request that you guys do not judge me on my situation. I am a married man and have been married to the same woman for many years. We are "happy" together but I alwyas feel that there is something lacking in my life. "Is this it??" kind of questions have been arising. About 4 years ago I got into an affair, which i had not planned on, with a colleague of mine but someone who was working outside the US. We met frequestly as I travel a lot and we would plan to meet in various parts of the world. Sex was amazing and she was only 33 then. Inevitably, as there was no future for her with me (I will not leave my wife. Too much at stake with children and along married life), she broke it off after 2 years. I had a very hard time getting over her. Just after that, I again met and started an affair with another beautiful co-worker (although in another division) for the last one year. She is 35 and a mother. Again, she wanted more, and since I could not give it to her, she has broken off with me. I feel really hurt, although morally I am in the wrong (but tell that to my heart which does not listen). Anyway, we are still on talking terms and I am still trying to coax her into continuing our relationship. Sex with her is amazing!! So, to get to the point, I NEED DISTRACTION!! The easiest way is with someone in the office as it's easier to meet that way, as I cannot go pub crawling to find women. Therefore, this intern comes into the picture, and is perfect to alliviate my suffering from a broken heart. Now, I heed your advice and will not make any moves on her. We are still going to the museum on Friday and dinner afterwards. I guess I just have to behave and see what she does. I know nothing will happen if I don't make the situation where she feels comfortable in giving me some hints as to her availability. I have to say, I can judge women and what they feel quite well, but you know as well as I, that that is not a science and it's a hit or miss. So, that me!! Kill me or love me Guys, again, please no judgements on my morality. I have heard that too often, and would not be here if that's what I'll get.... Cheers!!
Guys, thanks again for your valuable inputs. FYI, the intern is 25 and not 33, so she is quite young. I am of course not going to try and get her to bed on our first night out on Friday. It just started out as "yeah, I am also interested in art. Why don't we go to a museum and maybe dinner afterwards to thank you for your hard work". So, maybe she does not see this as a date....yet. So, yes, eye contact, that always is a good begining. I am going to take it real slow. She needs to know that I am a gentleman and won't push her into anything uncomfortable. Usually, in my experience, a few drinks really helps to loosen up both parties. It gets easier then. Let's see. As for my wife and to make things more interesting with her. "refresh" as you mention, I need to read that Blissnosis!! What is that and where can I get it from? As for my ex-mistress, we are having lunch today. Let's see where that goes? Maybe we can come to some understanding of friends with benefits??? Will keep you guys posted. Again a big thank you!!
Andrew, here's the link to Blissnosis and all other courses Hey There, Welcome To My Website, Seduction Science! I re-recorded the program in 2011 and it comes with a huge ebook as well. I'm beginning work on a new version, but you get free upgrades upon request.
Gonna be frank here. DO NOT get with anyone you work with. plus there's tonnes of other hot 25 year olds out there, let this one pass.
