What's her age? Do you still keep in touch with her? Do you still see each other as friends at all? Does she still have feelings for you? How long were you together for? How long have you been apart for now?
Re:Getting ex back What's her age? she's 31 Do you still keep in touch with her? Yes, she works in a bank which I used. Do you still see each other as friends at all? Yes, she still believe we are friends, but I am seething inside Does she still have feelings for you? I Don't know. How do you find that out? How long were you together for? Two years, living together but not marry How long have you been apart for now? Almost a year now
Isaq; OK, Isaq, I see that you are seething inside. You're pissed-off about something. What is it? I just read a few articles about, Forgiveness. I believe in living in the moment, enjoying each moment and forgetting about things that someone said or did, that was hurtful, when I am with him or her. When it comes to family or friends, I am usually more forgiving. But, when a person is obnoxious, physically/mentally abusive or just an asshole, that is where I draw the line. To continue to be with a person who is POISON, reflects a bad relationship. Our society tells us to forgive and forget...I believe, if the subject is minor, forget it. But, if there's some serious relationship problems, I DON'T forget, and I will avoid the person as much as possible. So, tell us what happened... TM
You are very perceptive, which explain ur success in this area. I was married before I met her. Somehow through her (personality) charm, I ruined the marriage to be with her. Economic downtown came and my finances became stressed. it was this time she got her job through my help. My mistake. Next she eloped with this guy. I wouldn't have mind if she chose to go to a far place where I wouldn't be able to see her. But right under my nose. I am o.k financially now. As I told you, she worked in a bank that I am using. So I have to run into her. In other to get over her, I have initiated no contact system (got from internet). I know I am evolving, but I just have to get to her and possibly dump her too for me to be whole again. what do you think about that? Thanks for your responses
Isaq; It sounds like you want to get back with your ex-GF. Then, dump her to get revenge. Here's a question: Do you think about her, a lot? I mean, she is on your mind on a frequent basis? Do you come-up with plans on what you would say or do to get her back? TM
Yeah! Man, I think of her a lot. I have no solid plan on how to get her back. That's why I asked you. I think you may give me strategy on how to get her.
Yeah, I'm NOT sure if he is sincere, either. It sounds like, infatuation. To have an infatuation for someone indicates a dysfunctional relationship. We ALL have had this type of relationship with someone. Your best bet is to realize that things are fucked-up and avoid her as much as possible. There is a lot of truth in dipping your pen in the company ink well. Not much info is written about infatuation and it's draw-backs. TM
Its not healthy dude. You cant seduce your ex, just so you can dump her. Its not going to make you whole again, it will make you messed up, hurt and more confused. Tequila hit the nail on the head- its dysfunctional. I think its messed up that you want to seduce her, just so you can hurt her. Not healthy for you, not healthy for her. Seriously what good can come of this? MOVE ON!
I agree, MOVE-ON. Jobic- I like your responses and wisdom. I am thinking of changing my approach concerning advising men about, SEX and orgasms. I am corresponding to a woman who has a lot more experience and knowledge about this stuff. My beliefs and what I do, may NOT fit with what most people do or understand. (I will be revising my, Truisms About Women, thread.) I would appreciate any feedback. TM
Might be a bit late on this post but here's my 5c and I'm giving it to you for free. Its not difficult getting x's back, I've done it more than once. What is difficult is avoiding the same problems that you ran into in the first place. I've learnt two valuable things about history, the hard way. 1. It doesn't go away, the reasons you broke up will not be forgotten and will not go away, no matter what she says . 2. It has a strange way of repeating itself. I know you're probably convinced you can 'fix it' or 'change' , I've been down that road a few times and let me tell you nothing changes. We often forget about the negatives in a past relationship, my advice to you is to run for the hills and find a new girlfriend with whom you have no history with, and get right from day 1 and don't stop doing it right. Later.
