Alex Allman did a VERY good job by describing how to seduce a woman. It's about creating the type of response from her that will convince her to be sexual or stimulating her sexual imagination. He includes, by saying, that it's your TOUCH and your WORDS that are important. Here is his report: THE ALLMAN REPORT: How To Seduce Your Wife Or Girlfriend ***QUESTION FROM A READER*** "Great emails with sound advice. I have been married to a great girl and all is OK except our sex life. We enjoy most everything together but we are out of synch with our desires. I could make love everyday, but that is too much for her. Many years ago she said I didn't know how to seduce a woman. Maybe I should have left her then or maybe it is true. We are in love but that remark always sticks in my head. She backed off and said that isn't exactly what she meant, but enough was said. We almost split because of her lack of interest in sex but decided to stay together. We now program Saturdays as the day. Maybe that was the biggest mistake of my life. [...] She has orgasms or at least I think so but I don't think I have her sexual confidence and Sexual Trust. How do you seduce a woman? Maybe just being married is not enough. I am completely frustrated as the Saturday last has turned into Saturday today. In other words no dice for a week. I am also worried I lost my desire for her and her for me. If your book can answer some of these questions, you can be I sure I will buy it. Any help will be greatly appreciated." O. >>>MY REPLY: Why would a guy have to SEDUCE his own wife? Isn't the point of having a wife or a girlfriend so that you don't have to go through the hassle of getting sex? Yeah, right!. If only. Hey man, the first thing I want you to know is that the reason that I chose to answer your email is because the problem you describe is so COMMON. I get hundreds of emails on this subject and so by answering you, I'm answering a lot of guys who are struggling with the same reality. To answer your last question first, YES, my book answers ALL of those questions, so download it and read it. It will completely change your relationship and have her begging YOU to do it more often. But, as you know, I'm committed to bringing as much good information as I can to the men who read this Newsletter, so I'm going to do my best to answer as much of your email as I can right here. So let's jump right in by trying to answer the first question I wrote at the beginning of my reply... why would you have to seduce your own wife? Because, in a nut-shell, women's sexuality works VERY differently from men's. For us guys, if a reasonably attractive woman gets naked in front of us, we're pretty much good to go. Most of our sexual arousal comes from just visual and physical stimulation-- it's very centered in our physical body. But for women it's mostly in their heads and in their hearts. Even if you look like Brad Pitt, just getting naked in front of her probably isn't going to do it. She'll LIKE it... maybe even like a LOT (judging from how many women ran out to see "Troy" just to get a peak at Brad's ass...) But while very few single (or married for that matter) men could ever resist an offer from a naked Angelina Jolie... Most women would not just jump into bed with a handsome naked guy just because he was offering. Women just take more work. But I have 2 great pieces of news for you that I hope will brighten your day (and your relationship)... The first is that you can LEARN how to become a master seducer. The second is that, once you do, your wife is going to want to make love A LOT MORE THAN ONCE A WEEK. So let's take a quick look at 3 facts in your email that are all very directly related (and if you are reading along, let me challenge you to see if you picked these things up-- because understanding how they are related is VERY important). 1. Years ago she told you that you didn't know how to seduce a woman. 2. You nearly broke up with her at that time. 3. You feel you do not have her Sexual Trust. Here's how I put these things together... First of all, in all likelihood, she is absolutely right and you don't know how to seduce a woman. There's no shame in that, VERY FEW men do. And, in fact, many of the guys that do are just "players" that your wife would not have wanted to marry anyway and most women want to avoid. The problem for women is that it's so hard to find a guy that is loyal, kind, respectful, and "marriage material" who ALSO knows how to seduce her... When you become one of those guys, you become such a rare commodity that a woman will do almost anything to hang onto you. The other thing that I really want you to consider for a moment is that, even if she said those words in anger, think about how much GUTS it took her to say them. Okay, let's move on... the second thing is that you nearly broke it off at that point, and, boy, I am sure glad that you didn't... Because this is totally fixable, and because (given what you said about everything else being great in your relationship) it is totally worth fixing. A great relationship is very hard to come by and you guys have shown huge commitment to each other by sticking this out. That says a lot. Now, the first fact and the second fact come together to create the third... that you don't have her Sexual Trust. Can you see why? When she had the guts to tell you that she wanted something more from your sexual relationship, she opened up a very hard conversation. Honesty like that is very, very hard. No woman wants to say something like that, and for SURE, no man wants to HEAR something like that. Communication with the person you love can be so much harder than communicating with people we don't give a rat's ass about. And so, obviously, you were hurt. This stung your pride and made you feel less masculine. And sure, the first instinct you had was to tell her right where she could put her opinions of your seduction abilities. And that's when she realized that you were never going to give her what she needed... in fact, you weren't even going to try. And that's when you lost her sexual trust. You communicated to her that your ego was more important to you than her Sexual Trust. And that's all it took. She told you what she needed to feel good about your sexual relationship... And whether you knew it or not... you rejected her. And so she started building a shell around herself. And that shell has resulted in the only-on-Saturdays schedule. So why is seducing her so important? I mean, you said that she is having orgasms when you make love-- and yet she STILL doesn't want to do it more than once a week. I know this is hard for some guys to make sense of... Because, again, for a woman, the most important part of making love is what happens in her head and in her heart... so even though you are doing the right things for her body, she is left unsatisfied. You're not giving her anything a vibrator couldn't give her. Being seduced is the FUN part for women. It sets the stage for everything else that follows. It puts her in the right emotional state to receive sexual pleasure. And, here's something else that you might not have thought of... It proves to her that you still GIVE A SHIT. That's right, making the effort to seduce her makes her feel special, it makes her feel loved, it makes her feel valued. She doesn't want just a few strokes on the tits and then a good shagging. Seducing her, ESPECIALLY after years of marriage, is the most flattering thing you can do for her. It's WAY better (and much less expensive) than buying her flowers or jewelry. (Though, let's face it, you can't go wrong with flowers). So why do men stop seducing their wives (or their long-term girlfriends)? More to the point... Why do so many men never bother to learn to seduce them at all? Well, mainly because they are afraid it will be embarrassing. You kind of have to put yourself out there a bit to go through the motions of seducing a woman. It's so much easier to just nudge her and say, "you in the mood? No? Okay," and just roll over and turn off the light. Or just put your hand on her breasts and see what happens. You can't really blame guys for doing these things, because, after all, that's what would work on us if a woman was trying to get us into bed. So... What works for women? >>> YOUR WORDS <<< The most important part of seducing your girl is to remember that you have to create some romance, some drama, even some story if you really want to get her going. It's important that you understand that it's not just WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. Your voice tonality is an extremely important part of a great seduction. Keep your voice low but powerful. Any sense of being tentative is going to be obvious in your voice first. But by speaking with quiet authority you will send shivers up her spine. Speaking softly in her ear is a very good idea as well. For an idea of exactly WHAT you should say, I very strongly recommend you pick up a women's romance novel from your local bookstore. Or at least browse through one. Large bookstores have an entire section devoted to these books, and inside you will find not just some very weird and cheesy dialogue... but the substance of women's fantasies. These books do for women what pornography does for men. Basically, seductive talking involves building a fantasy using a lot of description. You're going to have to learn to use a lot of adjectives. Here are some examples: -->Tell her what you are going to do to her (or what you would like to do to her). "...I'm want to run my fingers over inch of of your bare, soft skin... first very gently so that you can barely feel it... so that your skin blushes and comes alive and aches for more..." -->Tell her the story of the last time you had really great sex-- remind her of every detail. "...Remember the way I reached below you and I was holding your hips and going deep inside of you over and over again, and I felt it so intensely because you were breathing right by my ear, and the smell of your freshly washed hair was all around me..." -->Describe her body and how it makes you feel. "...When your hair catches the light like that it shines like some kind of metal-- it reminds me of being 13 years old and being so awed by the shiny hair of the cheerleaders and being so blown away by how beautiful and sexy a girl's hair could be, and just wanting so badly to touch it... to run my fingers through it, and now as an adult..." -->Build a scene or fantasy "...I'd like to make love to you outside in a garden during a summer rain, when the air is heavy and warm and the drops that come down are big and heavy and they splash on our bodies as I push inside of you, and the air is heavy with the smell of the flowers and that earthy rain smell, and the sound of your screams are echoed in the distant thunder..." Does the language have to be so flowery? No. Do you need to use a lot of description like that? Yes. Don't be afraid to draw it out, to build the scene for her. Whisper in her ear exactly how you'd like to touch her breasts and how it will feel for her, how it will turn you on, how it will make your cock hard... and then reach out and touch her exactly as you described it... Sound too risky? Send her an email about it right before you leave the office and let it do some of the work for you while you're on the way home. >>> YOUR TOUCH <<< Seducing her with your touch is not foreplay and it's not sex... it's seduction, so don't treat it like it's foreplay or sex. For example... Caressing her breasts is not seduction, it's a part of love making. Seduction is gently touching her fingertips, it's running your fingers through her hair, it's giving her a gentle massage from behind and then softly kissing and then biting the back of her neck... It's caressing her face with the back of your hand... and then TELLING her how you would like to kiss her... That's right. You want to use your words and your touch at the same time. Remember that the tone of your words is more important than what you say... so if you are using TOUCH to seduce her, sometimes all you need to say (in a soft and seductive tone) is: "...mmmmm..." That's pretty easy, right? I don't think you'll have trouble remembering that dialogue. Try gently running your fingernails along the inside of her arms, or tracing her ear-lobes with your finger-tips, or giving her a whole-body hug from behind and letting her feel your breath softly warming her neck or the side of her face. Or how about a foot rub and then working your way up, gently caressing the backs of her legs and behind her knees, while gazing meaningfully into her eyes... >>>YOUR GAZE<<< Experiments have been done that show that the human face is capable of literally thousands of expressions and that a huge amount of human communication happens through facial expression alone. Your words can have completely different meanings based on the look on your face. Actors can make us laugh or cry based on their facial expressions. And that is just the big, obvious stuff. It turns out that many more subtle communications happen between humans based on facial expression that we are not even aware of-- things that affect us on an instinctive level. A huge amount of what makes you successful in seducing a woman has to do with the things you communicate in the way that you look at her. A pleading look, a joking look, an insecure look, a hopeful look... none of these are going to excite your woman. A confident look, a "knowing" look, a mischievous look, a sexually dominant look, or an openly LOVING LOOK... These are all things that women respond very strongly to. So how EXACTLY do you gaze at her with one of these looks? Well, this is the good news and the bad news. The good news is that all you have to do is FEEL one of these emotions and your face will do the right thing AUTOMATICALLY. The bad news is that this makes it very, very hard to fake. The key is simply to look deeply into her eyes while FEELING confident, mischievous, sexually dominant, or openly loving towards her. If you can blend any of those emotions and look into her eyes, you will need nothing else to seduce her... But if you do that and also run your fingers along her neck while describing how you would like to kiss her naked body outdoors on a sunny day... She just might like that. For Passion, Alex PS, If you enjoy this kind of sophisticated approach to mastering every aspect of love making, from seduction to giving her mind-blowing multiple orgasms, you might enjoy my 6-Part, downloadable audio program: Sexual Mastery
