Hey guys, hope everyone had a good Xmas! I want to post briefly about something I caught myself doing...I think reading the spiritual books and inner game concepts has helped me observe this and not judge, as opposed to kicking myself. I was at the gym today and a hot girl came in. She was wearing tights and had an INCREDIBLE toned ass and legs, you could see her muscles flexing on te eliptical. I stared at her ass while working out to feel the fury. On my way out I walked by her and checked her out (it felt a bit creepy) I said "Have a good one" to test her responsiveness. While walking by, I told her she was in incredible shape and it was cool to see a girl "busting her ass instead of zoning out to Bravo." She laughed and kept talking, even tho I was on my way out and she was sweating like crazy. We chatted a bit more, while making my body language bounce between facing the door, and facing her. I asked for her name and introduced myself, she seemed flattered and seemed like she wanted to keep talking, even though she was going crazy on a machine. Then, for some reason I just turned and left. I have no idea why, she was clearly interested and I have pushed way farther without any IOIs, yet I had a green light and ejected. I observed that although I was not nervous or feeling strange, I may have been thinking Alright, she wants me, this is going good and then I leave before I give myself the chance to succeed or fail. Considering I spent most of my "Game Time" going out at night, the few Day Game I have done has gone way better. Without really knowing what I'm doing and just flattering the girls. How do I make a mental note of this to "Go For It" that I remember during the pickup, as my body language sometimes abrupty closes and in my head I'll be thinking fuck why did I just turn my back on her? I feel great, why did my body betray me? It's like a mental/physical incongruence that has happened before. I am not going to beat myself over it, as I have been noticing people being more open to me (guys and gals) just for being myself, and maybe this is the next stepping stone. Logically, the paradox it creates is a lose-lose situation. You don't get the number/date/lay/girl and the girl is left feeling confused and rejected wondering why didn't he take my number?
I have found myself doing that occasionally mate especially during the day. It starts with me with my mind on something completely different and then in that moment I end up chatting away to some girl. Then I excuse myself and leave later thinking wtf ??. When you get back home try chilling out on the sofa or bed, close your eyes, picture the whole scene in your mind and go through through the situation with the girl again. Get to the point where you are about to walk away and say to yourself. I aint gonna let this go I might ever see her again. You turn back and ask for her number. Do that a few times. It might help reinforce your unconsuis mind to prevent you doing this. Maybe set yourself a goal to take the number of every girl you chat to that you find hot ???
It may be a "Quit while I'm ahead" response. "Quitting ahead" means you're sure to end it on a positive response from the girl. The downside: you never take the gold medal that way. And it can just happen so fast you don't realize it until it's over. It's all cool, as long as you consciously catch yourself doing it (as you did) and note to persist even if it means burning the interaction into a flaming wreck into the ground in the future.
