Hey everyone...I'm new to the forums. I encountered this site yesterday morning and registered today. The info here is invaluable especially since it has assisted me in seeing things in a real light. I have read a few of the PUA books available (never cover to cover though) and have seen that they can help but only IF one gets field practice. Sadly, these actions are not me. I know I have to take action and change myself for the better one day at a time and have began to do as such. I am amending my posture and am becoming more and more internally-validated every day. My 'problem' arises in one simple fact of my personality...I am generally a serious individual in my daily life. I am fun to be around with my friends (well at least i think so) but when it comes to carrying on meaningful fun conversations, quite frankly...I'm stumped I could talk with little nervousness in front of a crowd (for presentations) and 1 on 1 I'm the guy who talks about life, about where I intend to be in x years, about what she (whoever she may be) intends to do in the future and so forth and so on. The thing is that this is not really fun. I may be dull in that I don't go out to wild parties with a tonne of sweaty people and the like since it irks me but due to my nature, I prefer to relax in a fairly closed setting and knock back a few, chill and reason about whatever. Sadly, this obviously does NOT create ANY sexual tension. When I try to be 'fun' it feels unnatural and persons seem to have no interest. My energy is generally synced with the environment or slightly higher. Generally I'm an optimistic guy, the guy who tries to promote positivity by encouraging others but at the same time, I'm dull to the females in my honest opinion. I hope yall don't mind the essay, tis just to try to give a clear picture of my situation. In a nutshell, fun convos from me are a no-no. They happen ever so often but what do I do to shed this nice upbeat guy image while still being me?? PS I have a steady girlfriend who accepts me for me but after a silly (serious) incident things are rocky. I simply want to improve to improve the relationship while at the same time be able to attract more women and I believe that the communication via conversation is the key.
Well to be honest I can safely say that I have gotten much better in that department. I have been able to give my gf squirting and multiple orgasms so that's an added plus in my department. I'm still browsing the forums here for info as well as additional resources
Roscoe, it depends on what your goals are, which aren't clear from your post. Do you want to improve your existing relationship... or get super duper hotties... or just meet 7's for quickies... Maybe it's okay that you're sometimes boring, depending on your goals.
