Shot down on the phone

Hello guys, I find that sometimes I meet this chicks on msn or some dating sites.I am able to have a real nice conversation on the msn.Most of the time I get the number or email.Then I call them and they shoot me down quickly.Since I wasnt born in north america I do have some accent from back home.The girls usually comment about my accent right away when I call them.It hurts me very bad.I mean I am successful with my life and everything but when these chicks who have nothing together in their life they comment on your accent it does hurt a lot After some inital talk they would just shoot me down..Is there a way how to handle this situation where the girl makes comments abt the accent.I have taken some accent reducing course as well.Not sure what else I could do.

Any suggestions would be welcome...thx guys

curious

what is your nationality and what part of north america are you living in?

J O E

East Indian.I have been living in Canada for 10 years now.

don't let it get you down, having an accent doesn't say anything about you as a person. remember - you're the one who knows a second or third language. still, to get where you want to go with the ladies, you probably should simply work on fine tuning your pronunciation. you could listen to tv and radio, and look into getting some English as a Second Language tapes, cd's or other materials.

and in the meantime when a girl of interest points it out to you, I'd say try to have some comment ready that shows you really don't care what she thinks about it. also you could make a joke about it, or bring it up first, or playfully turn it on her - does she have an accent??

later --

elespanol

I can't speak for Canadians, that's why I asked what part of N. America. Girls here in The States, generally speaking, especially on the west coast, are snooty about guys with heavy accent. Assuming it's the same in Canada (also, are these girls you're talking to Indian, white, or another ethnicity), your trouble is this: you're creating attraction online, then trying to close offline.

When you game girls online, they are creating an ideal image of you that suits them. Then when you speak to them on the phone, and hear your accent, they get turned off. It may not necessarily be because of your accent, but it's what they didn't expect. Think about it, what if you were chatting with a girl online and when she called you she had a smoker's voice, or talked like a man?

The first recommendation I would give you is to game girls out in the field. So they automatically know you have an accent; therefore, if you create attraction and number close, obviously you know your accent isn't going to be an issue for her.

Secondly, if you're going to continue gaming girls online, then somehow, tactfully, you need to bring up the fact you have an accent, and mention how thick or thin it is. But be playful about it, too.

Jay Olie Espy

I think you nailed the right point.Its so true what you said.I find that I am able to create attraction online.I can have fun with them , tease them, bit sexual as well.However, when I try to close the deal by setting a date it doesnt work.I do not have a heavy accent I think in general they have a different image set for me online and in person.I will keep the playful part in mind when I close next time.I think online a person doesnt have any pressure and he can be relaxed and playful which might not be in person/on phone.Offline you can freeze based on the girl's look or her talk.

What do you guys recommend for a scenario where a person has created attraction online and then the person goes to meet them offline.Is this normal for guys to be rejected offline/telephone as opposed to online..Any pointers would be welcome.

I feel you

I have an accent, but I don't know if its think and thin. Dont give up man. Just work on your english and everything will get bettter. I recommend, when you are listening to music to sing along. I recommend listen to slow songs cause if you sing to rap or twista it wont work. Don't feel down.