Hey guys. I’m working on a hot chick who lives a few miles away from me, but we recently met online. I’ve been giving her a lot of attitude, and vise versa. Sort of playful banter. I’m at the point where I have her attraction and I’m just about to qualify her. After doing so, is it a good idea to tell her I’m not attracted to her (even though I am) … to further solidify her attraction for me, or should I skip that one? I’ve heard it used before, when is that most appropriate to use?
I can't say for sure what some of the more advanced members would say (although I look forward to finding out when they respond), but I don't think it would be the best option. Sure, women want what they think they can't have, but I think that's a little extreme, and you run the risk of friend zoning yourself. I do agree with making yourself scarce though. Instead of trying to make her think you don't want her, try making her think that you're extremely busy, and that you don't know if you have much time for her. When she's talking to you, tell her you need to go because you're going to the gym, or meeting up with friends for a movie etc (and actually go do it). It makes you seem like you're a rare commodity, and that she can't get you whenever she wants you. It has much the same effect, but it puts you at less risk of ruining the attraction. I'm not sure if it is actually more or less effective, because I haven't tried the method you outlined, but I know that making myself busy and scarce works wonders for me. It makes the girls feel as though I am a prize that they need to win, because I'm not easy to get, and it is a challenge for them to fit into my schedule. Some of them have jumped through hoops in the past to try and get me to fit in time to see them. Just my 2 cents, although I hope to hear from TM, FM, Mike or Jesse to see if I, too, could be doing it better.
TM, prefers to talk about sex. TM, says, just set-up a place where the two of you can meet and get to know each other better. Make it a FUN place like the zoo where you two can walk around and see the animals. A shopping mall where the two of you can walk around and see the different stores. Make this a time for you to TOUCH her. E-mail and texting does NOT let her hear your VOICE and she will NOT feel your TOUCH. She NEEDS to hear your VOICE and feel your TOUCH. TM Note: I would knock-off all of this game-playing and some of what you have learned from other on-line PUAs.
I dont think i can add any further value to this thread. TM seems to have done a good job answering your questions. If you want to fuck her drop the games or else you will come across as a jerk and noone in their right minds wants to be jerk to a woman. Be a man that women love NOT a jerk
compliments I think game playing like that could back fire on you. If you tell her you're NOT attracted, she'll probably just try to forget about you. I like to tell girls when they look good. Just little offhand remarks in the middle of conversation - that shirt looks great on you, that's hot how you've got your hair, nice skirt, etc. Casually in the middle of something else you're talking about, or just when you first see them. Just don't do any of that lame - oh you're the most beautiful woman ever, falling all over them like they are the only girl in the world. That stuff kinda freaks em out. For me, Girls seem to really open up to casual compliments.
There's a difference between creating distance :thumbup: (which is good when a girl really wants you) and telling a girl you don't like her full stop. :thumbdown: As a PUA, you have to be cool, calm and have your sh*t together. It doesn't look like you have your stuff together if you're saying one day you like her and a week later you're in her panties. I would say two things: 1. Never like her, want her, or anything her more than she likes you, wants you, or anything. 2. Have fun, be carefree, pretend like you couldn't care less if you guys hooked up or not because you're just having fun. That way she will always be coming to you and you won't have to pull an I don't like you full stop. EXCEPTION - If the relationship is going downhill and you can tell you're about to be put in the friend zone with a chick then you put her in in the friend zone first. If you say, I'm glad we're only friends because I feel like we can really just relax with each other and be ourselves. There is a lot more that goes with this but it's basically an anti-friend zone move so you can later steer the relationship out of the friend zone. But that's a long process for another thread.
Thanks guys ... Thanks guys. No luck with her. I did make one big observation that I’m going to talk about in a new post called: Keep It Short, Stupid (KISS)
