Question Started talking and chilling with girl

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    kostahinzen New Member

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    Hi guys,
    i'm 16 and go to a high school in amsterdam, I play hockey and run. We just had something called a Kunstreis (where we go to london) and during that i started talking and hanging out with this girl and her group of friends. What should I do to get a shot at her???
    kostahinzen, Jun 1, 2012
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    Jesse Charger Administrator

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    probably no matter what you do, you're going to fuck it up... simply because you're so young and inexperienced.

    So to begin with, you've got to be willing to fuck it up. If you're willing to fuck it up, you'll be far less nervous and you'll come across as far more cool and you'll take more risks. So your best chance at getting her is to first come to a place where you'll be okay fucking it all up. Paradoxically, that will give you the shot at getting her.

    Your best shot will be mostly physical. If you can talk to her, and every time you talk to her you TOUCH her, that will be best.

    Do the 1 minute hug with her. http://www.seductionscience.com/2011/how-to-touch-a-woman-friend/

    And do some physical pulling in and pushing away http://www.seductionscience.com/2011/touch-escalation-ladder/

    If you need stuff to say, try these riffing exercises
    http://www.seductionscience.com/2010/what-to-say-in-conversation-talk-endlessly/

    http://www.seductionscience.com/2010/riffing-how-to-sound-interesting-to-girls/
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    Jesse Charger, Jun 2, 2012
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    kostahinzen New Member

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    Thank you for replying so fast. This site is incredibly useful.
    But what about when I am at school. What is the best way to approach her and get close to her?
    And something different: popularity
    At school i'm pretty ok with that but how do i become even more 'popular' (get invited to party's more often and stuff like that)? Got any pointers?
    kostahinzen, Jun 2, 2012
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    kostahinzen New Member

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    Another thig came up: she likes one of my friends but he doesn't like her at all. What should I do? And she is pretty pissed at him because he keeps pushing her away.
    kostahinzen, Jun 2, 2012
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    Jesse Charger Administrator

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    Best way to approach her and get close to her is just to do it. Go up and start talking about what you want to talk about. Don't seek her approval or look for her permission. You can even be obvious about going up to talk to her, to get her wondering if you like her or not. Meaning, go up to her, be obvious about it, and talk your mouth off about topics you like. Then let her do the chasing. that's how an alpha guy would do it, and will give you the best chances. You could also look for tricks that would get you to talk to her "under the radar", but that's a lot weaker. Go up to her in ways that convey you're not a wuss, not looking for reasons or excuses to talk to her - you just lead and do what you want. That's the most attractive way.

    So the "what to do" is pretty easy, it comes more down to an inner game issue here.

    To become more popular TALK TO EVERYBODY. The nerds, the popular people... everybody. Be really really social. Practice running your mouth, see how much talking you can do.
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    Jesse Charger, Jun 3, 2012
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    kostahinzen New Member

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    But there's still one problem. The girl likes one of my good friends, but he doesn't like her at all. Should I give her a shoulder to cry on, and if that is the case, how do I do that the right way?
    kostahinzen, Jun 4, 2012
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    Jesse Charger Administrator

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    Shoulder to cry on will make you her friend. It won't make her get wet for you. So it's not a good idea. The only good thing about that is if you can meet up with her, face-to-face, and you also touch her up while she complains about this guy - getting physical with her. :D

    By the way, why don't you add an Avatar image to your profile? (y)
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    Jesse Charger, Jun 6, 2012
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    Red Man Well-Known Member

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    All I had to do was read your first post. The best thing I can say for you is go out there and talk to people and make tons of mistakes. You learn from your mistakes and that's what makes you better. Every mistake is a brick to the foundation of your fortress. Every time you study this stuff say you spend an hour studying that means you have to be in field for two hours. Don't worry about what happens with one girl. Have an abundant mentality and don't put all your eggs in one basket.
    Red Man, Jun 20, 2012
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    kostahinzen New Member

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    Thank you for all your advice and help!
    kostahinzen, Jun 20, 2012
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    Hey kid, everyone here has good input - but I want to come at this from a different angle.

    It is the weekend. I suggest you spend it reading the piss out of this site - Field Reports, articles, advice, Guides, etc. Study like it is a math test at school. When you read a Post, read it as though it was your own journal - live through it vicariously. Whatever you think is possible is possible, and the girl is as special as you want her to be. That being said, I know the "if you worry you will mess it up" makes sense but some things need to be considered. Putting it into perspective, I'm going to Keyboard Jockey it up for a bit:

    1) So what if you're inexperienced? You're 16 - the kids that say they're having sex probably aren't and the girls are just as nervous and inexperienced, if not more so, than you are.

    2) There are only a handful of kids at you're school who will be naturally attractive based on status or dominance. If the girl likes your friend and he doesn't care SHE WILL KEEP LIKING HIM. Don't let it phase you. Ignore.

    3) You will learn a butt ton from this, more so if you fail, and from reading the site. Get crackin'

    4) The best thing you can do is to start teasing her. Poke her, throw pens at her in class, make funny faces when the teacher isn't looking. Be non-stop fun and talkative. Rinse wash repeat to every other girl in your school.

    If you need to get her alone, think ice cream, stay after school, "study together" or "help with homework." Nobody at your school is going to be running hardcore, direct, physical escalation with a number close by the locker after a MO session and BT spike in the library after cocky-funny negs disarmed the girl and left her vulnerable to building rapport and comfort after a FTC about getting to class on time...see what I mean?! Just educate yourself and experience the best you can. You can do it, but just remember....it doesn't really matter.
    TheEarl88, Jul 14, 2012
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