Hey Jesse, this is James. Tonight I'm going to clean my place up tonight so that I can go out tomorrow and attempt to get some women. I thought about the idea of hooking up with a young women in the range of 18-25 but in a way I steer away from it because of the shit test. I actually get turned off by it, it's probably a bad thing but in my head I'm saying to myself " Are you serious, do we really have to go to this point in our conversation" But when it comes to older women, it seem to me that they don't do a whole lot of shit test. So basically I agree with your method of just going direct and telling the women on what you want. I've always believed that and have done that in my younger days and I quit, don't know why but I was definitely on a roll back then. I can remember that it didn't take a long time to get sexual with her, actually they felt very comfortable around me and got physically close too me on purpose because of their comfort and trust level they had with me. And frankly I don't believe it should take me 6 months, it should take a lot less than that (less than a month or even weeks) So I believe I can get back into that and have multiple women again, not as a player but more so as they know that I see other women and that it doesn't bother them.. So can you give me an idea on how I should go about this. My main approach would be like "Hello how you doing? Good, I'm doing pretty good myself. I actually stop you because I find you extremely beautiful and I would like to get to know you better, more of connecting with you? How do you feel about? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated P.S. Right now I'm going to a community college and have a few young hotties in my class checking me out, but haven't approached them yet..they look upset and confuse why I haven't approached them.
Where would you be using this... at the community college on girls walking around...? OR... ? James, how old are you?
James, why don't you upload a picture to your profile. Just click on "Your Profile" in the yellow bar up top and it will take you right there
Most likely I would be doing it at the malls, the community college, any public gathering. I'm 31 years old.
Does anyone have any suggestions or do I have the answers in front of me and I just don't realize it?
Telling a girl up front that she's cute is pretty good, it's out of the way and she knows what you're about. It's also a sign of confidence and girls like that feeling of being chased and a sexual tension. But at the end you're basically asking her a "Yes / No" question. You're giving her the opportunity to say "No" to you right off the bat. It also comes off as approval seeking, like you're seeking her approval. Instead, you're better off asking her some qualifying questions like, "Okay, you're pretty but what else have you got going for you?" and make her work to get into your good graces. Then, instead of asking her, you should just LEAD her into having an instant date with you... to sit down on a park bench with her and talk. Or get cocoa together... and if she can't do that, tell her to give you her number.
It would seem like asking a girl's number is showing that you're doing the chasing? Wouldn't giving my number to her show her that if she is truly interested she can give me a call and know that I'm not a puppy showing impatiences for sex as to me asking for her number and am showing imaptiences for sex? I mean women are not dumb, they fully know we want sex, why hide it? As far as asking the girl straight up questions and she has yes or no answers situation, how is that seeking an approval, I don't even consciously think like because I've come to a conclusion that there are women who will find you attracted or not, you simply cannot get them all. Plus there are women out there who like to play manipulative head games with men and/or just simply prentenders. Those are the ones I want to simply eliminate quickly, why go through the headaches and pain. Jobic What do you mean have her to do small things?
You NEED to TOUCH, her. Hold her hand, shake her hand, touch her shoulder, hug her, kiss her on the cheek, etc. Do this everytime you meet and leave her. She will get the message that you are interested in her and she will LIKE being, TOUCHED. TM
TequilaMan, I like your advice but I've talked to guys who've had women all their lives and lay the girl without touching them the first time seeing them. Eventually the 2nd or 3rd time they eventually touch them and lay them. So first time might work and probably at times it might not work either.
Dude, Jay Touching does NOT meaning being "all over them" or contantly imposing yourself onto a girl physically. At first you can just be polite and throw out a simple handshake to a girl and it can work wonders. In my minimal experience in pick-up, touching/greeting not just girls but everyone is a great way to make a good first impression. I have never gotten a bad response, EVER. This makes people more comfortable around you, and opens them to your touch. TM is always right, TOUCH MORE. This sets the stage for you to escalate and touch--high five--hug- and so on so it doesn't seem "out of nowhere" for the girl. Nothing negative can come from it
Thanks, Earl..sometimes, people will misinterpret TOUCHING a woman. I wish I had a video of what other people and I do when I meet women. You NEED to get-over the reluctance to TOUCH women...I have been doing it for years and I keep-on getting more confident and better at doing it. A warm feeling and BOND will form with her. Remember, practice, practice, practice...make it second nature to your behavior. Be friendly and affectionate with ALL women. You will stand-out from the rest of the men..that's a good thing. :woot: TM
When opening keep it short dont say too much. Make her alittle nervous like when you feel nervous when you approach a hot girl. ME: Excuse me If she stops turns to you then reward her with a compliment. If she doesnt stop dont give her a compliment Girl: Yes ME: I find you attractive I just had to come and chat to you Pause see her reaction..then talk to her Body language plays nearly 70% in the first few seconds when you open. If you have great body language she will stop most of the time.
Jay- FM mentioned Body Language. This is very important. Here's a thread I put together: Body Language TM
For body language checkout Edward Norton in this scene from the movie American History X. [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgMjL8hg-FM[/media] The guy is not well built by any means but checkout his posture. His dominant posture makes up for his size.
I guess you mean the older brother in the white shirt? He is a good male model. The skin heads are a small group in the USA...this is NOT typical of the USA. TM
