THE PING: HOW TO REDUCE RISK OF REJECTION WHEN ASKING FOR SOMETHING FROM A WOMAN (phone numbers, dat

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  1. player_m New Member

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    There are a lot of analogies between sales and pursuing women. Let's face it. Rejection hurts. Because of fear of rejection, a lot of opportunities that would have been successful are left unattempted due to fear of rejection. Here is a technique to reduce your rejection, increase your confidence, and thus open more possibilities.

    Submarines feel out the position of other vessels by issuing a "PING." You can do the same thing when you want to ask something from a woman (such as a phone number, date, etc.). How do you do this? Don't ask for what you want outright. Instead issue a "PING." That is, say something to feel her out as to where she stands.

    Instead of outright asking for a phone number, feel her out like this:
    YOU: "It's been fun talking with you. You know, it might be fun to get together sometime." (Pause for her reaction.)

    Have you risked asked for a date or a phone number? NO! This also makes it easy for her to let you know where she stands because she probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings either. If she says, "Yeah. That might be fun." Depending on how she says this, her answer could be ambiguous. You could feel her out with another PING:

    YOU: "What things do you like to do?" (You still haven't risked asked her for a phone number or a date. You are only feeling her out as to where she stands.)

    If she seems to avoid the question, she may not be interested. But if she starts giving you a laundry list of things she likes to do, then you know where she stands. She is interested to get together.

    At this point, asking for a phone number or making a date is the easy part. You can do it with the confidence that is attractive to women.
    player_m, Mar 11, 2011
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  2. Angelic

    Jesse Charger Administrator

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    PlayerM, this way to go about things is clever, but actually can backfire overall.

    What's sexy to girls is a guy who just goes for what he wants, does what he wants, and isn't seeking her permission or looking for her reactions. A guy who LEADS. So even if she's not 'feeling him' at first, he just leads, leads, leads.

    So you shouldn't be pinging. Like if you tell a joke, you should just laugh and think you're the funniest guy in the room, WITHOUT gauging the girls' reactions or pinging them.

    Same with the phone number. You should just have some delusional narcissism that, of course any chick would LOVE to go out with you so you just give it out. That kind of attitude will shine through and be much sexier than if you're being really cautious, testing the waters, pinging her, waiting for her reactions, waiting for indicators of interest, and so on.

    Pinging also has a nasty side effect of putting you inside your head... you're always running sub-thought processes about whether it's 'okay' to continue with the girl. Should I... or shouldn't I? Fuck that! Just go with the flow, trust yourself, and push the boundaries!
    Jesse Charger, Mar 11, 2011
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