Thank you Jesse for comprehensive pieces of advise you give. Am glad I came across your site. I need your advise on some issue. There is this girls in office I became close to during some special assignment, the problem she has a fiance. We became very close and would laugh a lot, take breaks and lunch together. She would insist I go to lunch with her and even buy me lunch. We discuss our personal lives a lot and she opens to me sometime referring to her fiance as 'down as a cockroach' and laughs about it but sometimes says he is the best in the world and would not cheat on him. She volunteers this information without me asking. She once asked me out and we both bought rounds and had much fun. I then took a cab and drove her to her hse and proceeded to my hse, after 10 min she text me saying she enjoyed and is thankful & looking foward to another one. After one month she went on leave, keeps texting how she misses me but when i propose a date she declines. During leave she moved in with her guy. She ones told me to contact her during day wen the guy is at work. Funnily, she does not pick my calls and only texts about 5 hrs after the call. The girl has stated that she wants to go ahead and marry the guy but she flirts with me all the time via text. In every text she says she misses me, my smiles and my company. When we r together she practically displays all the signs of an interested girl, so touchy and follows me everywhere i go. I must say that of late the level of interaction has gone down. She would take a week to initiate a conversation either text/email or call. I try to be scarce from her to create some challenge. When we meet or converse she still displays the positive signals. One thing that worries me are the signals she sends. Sometimes seem very interested and other times not, such that am totally confused. Please advise, does it look good? Am i in friend zone? How can i escalate before the window closes?
Your living in a fantasy world dude. Shes simply not into you sexually she has no intention of having sex with you. To her your just a flirty friend who stimulates her mind but not her body. Women with boyfriends and who are married constantly flirt with other men its what they do because it makes them feel better. Forget her and move on.
Jus, she likes the attention you give her. It feeds positive emotions in her. That's it. As soon as you try to push the relationship beyond that, she'll push you away. You're chasing a ghost.
Spot on - in my opinion When she's talking to you jus - it's because she believes her bf deserves it not because she wants to talk to you.
thanks I guess the truth is hard to swallow but thta is what it is even by other names. It is good to get help. I now see it all clearly. Thank you all, friends. You have helped me avoid a heart break.
