Valentine's Day

It is valentines day in 3 or 4 days, depending on which part of the world you come from. Whats we all gonna do?

I'm dying to know what unique ideas some of you have, stimulate my thoughts please. Also, what interesting things have you all done on previous valentines days?

woops, didn't even think to search for valentines day threads. Just read last years one, there are some great contributions, particularly from SHS and Alaskmana.

Maybe you guys could help my current situation, but probably not because I can't explain what it is - since I don't even know myself.

I met this chick on New years day, and I think I've seen her every weekend since (usually just on one day, but a couple of times on two days) and once on a tuesday (she lives in a town half an hours drive away). I don't know where we're at so don't really know what I should be doing for valentines day, if anything.

The weekend before last she prepared a picnic for me and met me at some park for lunch on Sunday (her idea). We ate and talked, I did the cube which she enjoyed, we went for a walk, stopping to kiss on several occasions. Then we went to the river and had sex in a forest next to the river then went skinny dipping (these were all my suggestions ).

She seemed to have a good time and then when we were sitting in the car talkin she asked me out of the blue "so when are you gonna ditch me?". I said" aye?? what kinda question is that? when are you gonna ditch me" she said she asked first I said "dunno, next week, or when I get bored, when are you gonna ditch me?" her"well if you gonna ditch me next week I'll ditch you today" And later I asked y she had asked that and she said she was just jokin but semi serious. Then she said "nah u can't ditch me anyway, cos we're not going out. we just hang out"

Then later that night she txt me and said "bugger u bein such a god damn good kisser I'm still gonna ditch u tonight lol. My mum keeps asking when she'll get to meet u, i say never u'll ditch me lol..." I txt back " how can I ditch u if we're not going out?..." she txts "...nah I don't wanna go out" - this hits me hard, I don't know what she means but assume she wants to be able to see other guys. But the next weekend (last weekend) I meet up with her and we are talking and she asks who I'd been hangin out with I tell her a bunch of guys and one girl nut she's just one of the guys. She tells me she used to be one of the guys, so I tease her about having lots of boyfriends. She gets defensive and says she doesn't know how anyone could do that.

So I'm thinking she likes me but doesn't want to get too serious, or maybe she just doesn't want me to meet her family because she can tell that I'm crappy with people so it would be awkward. I have no idea what she means when she says she doesn't want to go out - i am highly confused.

I'm pretty sure that about 6 months ago she came off a relationship of at least two and a half years. She doesn't like to talk about the past - she would rather forget. but I do know that she went on the pill 3 years ago, she came back to the area 6 months ago, and she ran away from home 3 years ago (she is only just 20 now). So maybe she is still in love with this guy who broke her heart so she doesn't want a serious relationship too quickly with me.

There we have it, please if you have ideas about what I could do for valentines with her, baring in mind that maybe something extravagant is not a good idea. I don't really know what she likes except for the type of flower she likes and white chocolate

She obviously really likes you if she wanted to have sex with you and now that you both had sex she's just wants to know that you will stick around and and be faithful to her. If a girl really likes you, they might ask how many girls you had sex before. She just wants to feel that you like her more than just sex. But for whatever reason she feels a bit suspicious because she is asking you what you been up to and who you've been hanging out with. When she told you that she use be with one of the guys she was just saying that to test you to see if you would get jealous that way she will know that you really like her. She might feel uncertain that you want to have a relationship so is seeking your approval in a way.

Dude sounds to me that this girl really wants you. So ignore whatever she says about ditching you. She just doing that to see how much you like her. I dont think she want to see other guys if she is playing games with you and your not minding any of it which is why she txt you later and said your such a damn good kisser. She likes you cause you not like most guys who are needy so she is wondering what your all about.

Tell her that you like her, and that she is different from most girls you have dated before. But dont let everything happen on her terms. If she doesn't want too see you again just go on to the next girl.

I had alot of bad Valentine's Day experiences so i dont want to share any ideas on what to do for her. lol!

JK

Let me channel my inner Jew: oi vei!!

What you've got my friend is a fixer-upper. And as with all projects like this, the end result is highly questionable (you could end up with a mansion or a shack, but regardless of what the outcome the amount of work will be significant).

But that's not what you're asking about here, so I won't bore you with that shit.

Let's talk about Valentine's day. Do yourself a favor and do something low key. Skip the flowers and the chocolat. Just invite her over and cook some dinner and watch a movie.

AK

My Valentine One-itis

Ok i changed my mind. Might as well bore you with a little valentines story, But it aint interesting, more embarrassing than anything.

Ok here goes.........

There was this girl i was obsessed about all throughout my teenage years. This girls was hot. She could have any guy she wanted which was a real challenge for me because i really liked her. I did all the typical things of putting her on a pedestal, trying to get her fancy me. I was painfully shy around most girls and didn't ever have anything interesting to say.

All i ever did was thought about this girl, at home, at school, wherever i went. I use to think she liked me because she said i was the only guy who cared about her and one of the nicest guys she ever met because i had confessed that i would do anything for her. Of course she was completely turned off by a complete wuss. And so she only ever wanted me around as a friend. Even though she had never said that.

I remember going into school one day, she was sitting in the corridor waiting for a taxi to take her home because she wasn't feeling so well. I asked her if i could come with her to make sure she is alright once she gets home and she agreed. Thats how much of an AFC i was!lol!

On February 13 1996, I got my mate to help me write her a Valentines card. She actually gave me a birthday card for my birthday (My birthday is actually 2 days before valentines) so that was thougtful of her. So me and my mate spent the entire day thinking of romantic love poems to write. I wanted to make this the best valentines card she ever got from a guy. Next day i was too shy to give her the card so i gave it too her friend to give it to her...ha ha.

Later she came back to me and said it was the best card that anyone has giving to her before and kissed me on the cheek. I felt great and thought that she would go out with me now. She wrote me a valentines card later that day and got her friend to give it to me. It was actually the first time i was ever giving a VT's card by a girl.

Of course i was too shy to ask her out. I remember her telling me about all the guys she kissed and telling her that she never kissed me before.

Anyway long story short, I wrote her another VT's card the following year but this time without the help from my mate. She tells my brother it was wasn't as good as the one before and finds out that my mate wrote the other one. Ouch!!!

She wouldn't talk to me again. I felt devastated and metally bruised after that which was why i found it difficult meeting other girls throughout the years.

When i look back on it down i find it really funny and can't help but laugh about it.

JK

thanks

thanks guys, I appreciate the help. and thanks for sharing jay kay, it is helpful to know where people are coming from, and examples of wussy behaviour. How are you with the ladies now?

Actually now I am interested in what you have to say, like a hook I guess.

Also, my place isn't convenient, i don't live alone.

Fine, I'll elaborate.

I'll be honest with you, if a girl told me that I'd hop off the crazy train right there and then. I wouldn't wait around to see where it took me, but that's just me.

So you have two likely scenarios here: either this girl is insecure as all hell, or she's trying to squeeze some commitment out of you. If I was a betting man, I'd put all my money on the insecurity card. That whole conversation reeks of it.

In her head she's already thinking that you'll get rid of her, so she's trying to cushion the blow by getting use to the idea. Now if this was all there was to it then it wouldn't be so bad. You'd just have a really boring girl on your hands saying dumb things like "Why are you with me?" But, that's not the end.

Insecurity breeds jealousy, which often times leads to possesiveness and other controling behavior. Not my cup of tea at all.

So chances are pretty good that that is what you're in store for. Keep in mind that this is a generalyzation based on my experience and nothing more. Could she have been just making a joke? Sure, but it's not likely.

AK

thanks

thanks dude, you are probably right. My insight is that she had a serious relationship with some guy that broke her heart somehow - maybe he left her for another girl, or maybe something worse which I can't imagine. I know there was an incident which she is using to claim a student allowance for her studies, but I don't know what the incident is in relation to.

Sometimes I think this aint my ideal woman, maybe I should get out, especially since she'll probably ditch me when she starts hangin with me in groups of people, instead of just the two of us - because then she'll realise I don't have the social value which I act like I have when I'm with her. And I can't handle rejection - last time I didn't particularly like my gf but after she ditched me I became convinced that she was the greatest chick ever and got depressed.

For now tho I'm fucking a hot chick, who thinks I'm funny and cool. And I lucked out to get her, if I lost her it's unlikely I'd be able to get another like her with my current game. Maybe if I developed my game a lot, but that would take time, and then I might only be able to get old chicks (I'm 25, she's 20). And to be perfectly honest, I don't want to spend my time gaming women.

She shaves a strip for me, she's very flirtacious, she gives good head, she is very sexually adventurous, I make her cum just by kissing her, she is thin, she has beutiful skin, a beutiful ass, small but beutiful breasts which are very sensitive, a tasty pussy, a beutiful stomach, she orgasms easily, we have fun hangin out and doin nothing much.

I'm not really liking these crazy chemical happenings in my brain though - if I txt her and she doesn't text bak for a few hours I start to get upset and sick feeling.