Sandee; I'm glad that you found this site, CherryTV.com. I discovered it several years ago. It's basically, women talking about, SEX. It's VERY informative. I would recommend that ALL men view their videos. TM
That was some good feedback, Jobic. I would misunderstand what you mean, sometimes...OK, I know you're REAL excited and interested in this stuff. It seems like almost ALL women have their favorite vibrator or TOY. Just like women can become clit dependent (think they can ONLY get-off by clitoral stimulation), they can also become TOY dependent. I wouldn't get too excited about how powerful a TOY is...the more powerful the better. This is NOT TRUE. The Rabbit seems popular. TOYS are for enhancing the experience. I would go to a Sex Shop with her and let her choose what she may like to experiment with. Buying on-line is less expensive. "She's always scared to feel pain and tenses up, which she knows she shouldn't do because that'll almost make sure it'll hurt a bit". (Is this what your GF does? Her pussy should be wet, before penetration...use lube?) TM Note: That's a GOOD avatar!
Hmm...not sure what's going-on with her and her pain? I'm going to bring-up an unpleasant subject, but, it MAY be important...were you BOTH tested for STDs? Some STD Symptoms Here’s a list of symptoms you may have. See your doctor if you have any of these symptoms. * Is your urine dark and or smell bad? * Is your genital area secreting puss or discharge? * Do you experience a burning sensation when urinating.? * Do you have a strange rash or itching sensation? * Do you have any legions, bumps, or warts in the genital or anus area? * Have you noticed an unusual odor? * Have you noticed a strange blister or open sore? * Do you have pain during intercourse that wasn't there previously? * Do you have abdominal pain? * Have you noticed any unusual or unexplained swelling? * Have you seen small eggs or nits in your pubic hair or armpits? TM Note: What country do you live in, Jobic? What's your age? See my thread, Types of Orgasms Women Can Have, and look for STD Prevention for more info.
OK, that's GREAT, you live in Belgium. Do you have FREE or low cost medical health coverage? (In the USA, our health coverage for some people is very lacking.) I am, also, leaning towards her being a virgin, before you met her, and she has some hesitancy or reluctance to open herself-up to sexual pleasure. Does she go to a gynecologist? It's a GOOD idea to get an STD check-up before getting intimate with someone. Even if you use a condom, other types of STDs can be transmitted by just contact, such as, kissing, oral play, touching private areas, etc. TM Note: I am asking you some personal questions and you don't have to answer them. I don't know everything, and I'm trying to touch all bases.
I am amazed by your wisdom, Jobic. And you're only 22. You seem much more mature than your age. There may be some truth in some people being Old-Souls. Well, if she doesn't have much confidence in her male doctor, can she get a female doctor? I was thinking of a way to get her more relaxed, prior to intercourse. Focusing too much, initially, on the sexually, and NOT the sensuality, will cause any women to be reluctant to enter into deeper sexuality. What I would do, is: Do a lot of hugging, kissing and saying good things about her. Ask her if she would like for you to massage her and in what areas. (I have noticed that women LOVE to have their neck, shoulders, feet and butt, massaged. Note: these areas and many other areas are erogenous zones on a womans' body.) TM
"I know I often forget to tell her how good she looks and stuff like that, but that's because I don't need stuff like that and forget that pretty much every other person needs to be acknowledged and that they want to feel special - I always think "if you want to be acknowledged, then acknowledge yourself - want to be special, then tell yourself you're special. it's that easy". (I don't know how it is in Belgium, but, in the USA, most people DON'T make compliments to other people. It's important to say good things about someone. Above, ALL, DON'T bring-up negative stories or bring-up bad past experiences with her when you are being intimate, with her. I remember, one woman, I just met, told me, "You're FAMOUS"! This comment was unexpected, I knew deep-down, I was FAMOUS, but, it was important for me to hear this...it re-affirms my belief.) Did you see the videos: Here's a good site that SHOWS us erotic touch: Lovers getting started with Erotic Massage | The New School of Erotic Touch and Getting Started at The New School of Erotic Touch | The New School of Erotic Touch , Joseph Kramer, PhD I still think, the woman is having Spiritual Orgasms. He is focusing his attention on her pleasure. He is being VERY sensuous, but, NOT exactly, sexual. She is having MANY orgasms! "I do frequently give her massages, trying to find "stress points" but I think I need some sort of course to be able to find them properly". (I, NEVER, took courses in massage. Most people teach you the WRONG stuff...you NEED to be sensuous. eroticmassage.com is a GREAT site. Rely on your intuition of what FEELS good, to you, when you massage her...you'll figure it out with more practice.):thumbup: "The foot massages I give her seem to be REALLY good because she says it almost feels as if she would cum - which I thought was rather cool and I tried doing it it longer and varied it a bit to see if she indeed would cum because that would be awesome I could then massage her feet somewhere public and presto! Public orgasm ". (Women can have Foot Orgasms..anytime, anyplace. It's the arch of the foot that is most sensitive. There's a direct link from her foot to her vagina. Try this, the next time you massage her feet and she starts having an orgasm: Whisper, "Do you want to keep cuming"? She relies by nodding or says, "YES". Whisper, "Keep cuming,..keep cuming,...keep cuming".) TM
Hmm...I DON'T recommend sites where you have to pay for the info. I recommend sites where they have FREE info or videos. (I was a member and was disappointed with the info and videos...I thought there would be, more. The videos are VERY good for most people. I think they sent me some FREE videos because I was a member and they wanted to lure me back-in.) At: Lovers getting started with Erotic Massage | The New School of Erotic Touch, enter, at the top of the page, Name: Giver Password: Receiver (or, vise-versa)? Are you a student at a university? Is the university, FREE? What is your major? (DON'T name specific locations or university, for your protection.) TM TM
