Since Qualification as such an impact on the quality of women you date, I'm wondering what do you guys qualify your date on ? Here's my list, it's open to change at any point, it's just what I feel I want at this point. -Fun (as a sense of humor) -Easy going -Adventurous -Feminine -Bisexual or Bi-curious -Open minded -Intelligent -Non judgmental -Strong (not vulnerable to peer pressure) -Confident -Comfortable with her sexuality This is what I can think of right now, what would you add ?
If by 'qualification' you mean a list of traits that you want your woman to have, then your list is good. But the more standard meaning for the word is a bit of conversation that will get the woman to seek your approval (if that is not what you meant, then I'm sorry for taking over your thread). You can do this on anything, and you shouldn't be limiting yourself to the obvious things as you're missing out on some fun conversations. Let me give you an example of a conversation I had with a girl recently. We chatted for a bit, while she ate yogurt. me: Yogurt. Yum! her: I know! Sooo good! me: I love you yogurt. her: me too! me: I bet you only eat it because you found out that Prince Rainier of Monaco loves yogurt. So bourgeois! (start laughing at my joke) her: hey, thats not fair! me: why? For all I know, you got the Monarchy Weekly in that giant purse of yours. But I hope I'm wrong, I hope you eat yogurt because you like the flavor. her: Of course I do. (laughs) me: glad to hear that, because there is nothing more sad then someone that does something because they see someone else doing it. You get the picture. I'm not going to bore you with the rest of the conversation. But the trick is that you can qualify women on anything. Just be creative. AK
AK81, thanks for posting. I originally wasn't talking about that kind of qualification, because I was talking about it in the sense of what I'm looking for in a women, her basic qualities and personality traits, etc things of this nature. I agree with everything you said tho, you can actually qualify women on anything, from the movies she watches, the kind of clothes she wears etc. But I'm looking for make or break stuff, things that would potentially make be want to be exclusive with someone or break things off and continue hunting. Thanks for your input tho.
This girl I'm seeing now, she just got done with a class in animal training. I watched her train her cat to stand up and do tricks. Was pretty cool if you ask me. It was all about positively reinforcing the actions that you see as of value and also there's negative reinforcement for actions that you don't like(though she didn't do any negative reinforcers on her cat ). If you keep positively reinforcing the desired behaviors and negatively reinforcing the undesirable behaviors, then over time the subject will form new habits. That is what I see ultimately what blissnosis is based upon. It is about transforming that average girl into a wonderful companion through positive(love) and negative(space) reinforcement. She told me that in animals, sex is a primary reinforcement tool, though never actually used in animal training(or so she thinks haha ). Actually, she keeps saying that she thinks I'm the one training her in the relationship. She's got that right! With that in mind, what traits would be exclusionary and just not worth taking on the challenge? I think I agree with all the ones you listed. I would also add breast size, and overall physical body to mass ratio. Those are probably harder to change then psychological traits and attributes. Granted, I give a girl some room for error, as long as she's within 20 lbs of an ideal weight.
I think you made a good list, then. The only things I will add is that I need my women to have a very good sense of style, and they need to be great conversationalists. Other then that, our list match, except I couldn't care less if the girl is bi-sexual (most girls are, to some extent anyway, and you can always try to push the boundary if it means a lot to you). AK
Good point, AK41: Most (almost all) women are bisexual. I think he meant he prefers bisexual women. Here are somethings that I think are important to say to her to qualify a woman: 1. Cool people are a dieing breed..what do you do for fun? 2. I get the feeling that your job doesn't fulfill your creativity. Do you have a passion outside of work? 3.My mother told me there are two types of people in this world, boring and crazy. What's the most adventurous thing that you have done lately? 4. So what do you want to be when you grow up? 5. What would you say to be your three best qualities? The objective is to find women who are out-going, not boring and have a high self-image of themselves. There will be a good chance that she is also highly sexual. TequilaMan
This sounds cliche but... Any girl that can make me laugh and which I find her having a sense of humor (something that i find rare in women) would do it for me!
Mike: What you said about what you want women to have (sense of humor), this is what I see what women say what they want from a man, on almost all on-line dating sites. My previous qualification questions will help you to weed-out the women who are not funny and fun to be with. Yes, I know most people are boring and not fun to be with. TequilaMan
Hey, Mike; So many people live mundane lives. I, also, need to shake-up my life and do more things that are adventurous/unique and life changing. I think most women want a man who can ignite a womans' imagination of doing fun things that are life changing. This will be a good question for me to ask women. TequilaMan
Hey, Shark, I call myself a MaleSlut!! Many times, I do NOT qualify women because I use my other brain. When I use my other brain, I end-up with women who have various problems that will prevent me from having GREAT long-lasting experiences. When I use the brain in my head, ATTRACTION always wins over, although. So, YES, that's why I am a MaleSlut. TequilaMan
Sorry to sound selfish, but sexual relationships are first qualified selfishly. At first sight, she must resemble something that resembles my fantasies. For me, this is usually something in the face, especially the eyes and the smile. - Then she must appear interested in me and have the intelligence to make good conversation. If these three qualities are not there, I feel I'm waisting my time. - Don't get me wrong, I need some quality regarding her figure: breasts, ass, the right lines, ability to move with some grace. - ....but, if I'm going to sustain interest and perform great in and out of bed, then she has got to keep my eyes and ears pulled towards her.
Finding on what to qualify girl I use this process to find on what to qualify girl. First I write on piece of paper vision of my life. Vision should be long 4-6 sentences. Then I write on paper what beliefs my future should hae in order to fit in my vision. This should also be long 4-6 sentences. Each of this sentences, changed in adequate form, becomes on what you qualify girl. This way you insure that girl fits in your life. I remember story about one guy who was wery skilled in earning money. He probably used standard qualificators on his future wife like pretty, funny etc. Anyway, he used his skill to earn fortune. Then his wife spend his fortune. Again he earn fortune. This time he got divorced. His wife had, I cann't find beter expression, "limited beliefs" about wealth. :thumbdown:
I can understand what all of you are talking about. You, maybe, describing the most ideal or something close to what you find desirable in a woman. I will give, every woman a chance to show her attributes. They, MAY NOT, show-up, at first glance. I have noticed that I was attracting women who were NOT all that sexual and had lots of problems. But, they were somewhat good friends. Their NEGATIVITY was a BIG turn-off. I know one woman who has taught me things that I NEEDED to know. She is NOT at all the ideal woman for me, but, she had charisma, very sexy looking and was turned-on to me. We will, NEVER go to bed with each other, but, she has been invaluable to me. So, it goes to show that some women will NOT be the ideal or even close to the ideal, but, they will give you things that no other woman MAY NOT give you. (I would suggest, leave your options, OPEN.) TM
