Question Wife furious about talk of threesome...help please.

My wife's a great woman but she gets pissed when I mention other having girls for sex. She loosens up from time to time and takes me to strip clubs but is pissed when I touch the girls.

I could probably find another girl but to get my wife to join has been a problem I have yet to solve.

Jesse or anyone who know please don't hold back. I'm all ears:thumbup::feedback:

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Actually I bought Blissnosis. So are you saying that I just need to try to get her to to keep going my way? Should I ever expect her to participate in choosing the sexual adventures? Because she will do several things that I want but I have never been able to bridge the gap to actually getting to touch other women with her approval. She's totally ok with me looking and then us having sex but she gets pissed when I touch other women.

By the way,

Thanks for the reply. I'd appreciate more feedback.

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Well compliance bliss does sound like bliss...as long as she will still think for herself in other areas like economy and work. I guess I can try building more of that order into our relationship. Is there some specific order to the compliance building or should I just start with more tame things and move on to the heavier stuff with the threesome as the goal?

Great advice Jesse!

Thanks Jesse,

I have been thinking a lot about what you said. I get that I have to aim her
in the right direction but am I trying to get her to be more obedient? Or
is it more about getting her to try to do a bunch of new things? Or both.

I can put myself on a 6 month schedule and try to have goals for each month.

What should I really be trying to get her used to? Adventure or just doing
what I want?

Thanks again for the help.

DrewJ

So here's my new avatar Jesse...I want to take the title

So I got my wife doing a bunch more stuff in the bedroom. She is
going to start dressing up as different women but she still swears off
the three way. I have made progress in getting her do do more of what I
want.

I am on a much longer time frame now.

I will just push a little at a time for now.

Well she is definitely becoming easier to talk to about sex...She is going to start a pole dancing class next month and she is likes the idea of dressing up as different women for me. I think I am going to push her to get more and more naughty like you said. I think she has basically accepted that I want to start having threesomes but she really doesn't like the idea and will surely swear it off if I bring it up. I like the sixth month plan you suggested. I will try the nun thing as well. Maybe she will get over that Christian upbringing in the process.

What do you think?

Well I owe you one for the plan! So I was wondering how you would suggest that I introduce the idea of bisexuality to my wife. She has been firmly against it and I would love to see some of that kind of fun. Things have definitely gotten hotter recently.

How would you get her started that way?

Hey AKM...I got away from the forum for a long while but I have to get back to this and really learn what you guys know.

After re-reading your post to me from several months ago I guess I really didn't understand. You are saying that I just need to start telling my wife what she likes sexually? Won't she just call me a bullshitter? We've been together for 10 years and have three kids.

So you are saying that I need to boss her sexually a little bit at first and then more later?

Hey Jesse...I've been away for a while but I've got to get back and figure this out. I'm just going to pick up where I left off from this post that is many months old.

How should I be making her feel naughty? I have not really even gotten close to a threesome with my wife. I don't really know what I'm aiming at...other than my own fantasies. I just don't know how to sell the idea to her. She doesn't want to do and I don't know what's in it for her?

Should I be getting her warmed up to take sexual risks or what? If so her risks may (and probably won't be a threeway for me...

So what should I be aiming at?

Thanks man...

You are right Jesse, I have not invested in explaining myself, my girl or my situation. I can do that. I was unsure about saying so much personal stuff on a forum but I think this is a supportive place so I will.

I am serious about this but I have not gotten far so I get discouraged about it.

To let you know what has happened I had been getting my girl (who is Mexican by the way) to loosen up a bit. She was thinking about taking some pole dancing classes and getting all sexy for me with some costumes so I could pretend that she is many different women. Then one day she just flipped out and I gave up. I think she found some threesome porn on my phone or something.

That was the point I dropped off the forum. Her emotional roller coaster on the subject of threesomes is exhausting for me.

I have tried to offer foursomes and she just gets pissed about that. I almost got her to do a threesome for her many years ago but that's not really what I want so I backed out of that one.

Actually she almost gave me a hall pass about four months ago during a fight and then said she would leave if I did it. I knew I was close then but I didn't push it because we have a family.

I don't really know which way to go with this. I would be happy with hall passes if I knew she could take it but my real goal is for her to happily give me threesomes.

She is a cute, fun, sexy girl who is relatively opened minded but she thinks my ideas are all 'America' stuff (I actually met her in Mexico and immigrated her here, so she's not Mexican/American),,,Jesse I know you've had plenty of Colombian experience.

At your recommendation I did slow down the pace of discussing all this stuff and she does not get as pissed but I also don't talk about it as much...

If I can answer more questions then let me know. I will contact AKM as you said.

Thanks in advance. Drewj