Dating Multiple Girls, The Instant Date

January 7th, 2010

If you want to date multiple girls, you don’t have a lot of time. An alternative to getting a woman’s phone number, is to propose an “instant date” right on the spot.

After all, why would you meet up with a woman later for a date when you could go on a date with her RIGHT THEN?

If you’re on a campus, invite her to go to the bookstore with you and have coffee.

If you’re at a bar, invite her to go to Denny’s restaurant for nacho chips with you.

If you’re at the mall, tell her you need some help picking out a shirt.

That way you can be dating multiple girls more efficiently.

Or you can even instant date her to your apartment if it’s nearby – because you just have to show her your aquarium and the pirate crab with only one claw – or use whatever other excuse you can come up with to get her over then.

When you score an instant date you’re no longer just “some guy she met at a bar” but rather you become “a guy she’s been on a date with”. To a woman’s mind, it’s a much stronger position for you to be in.

If she declines the instant date, instead of getting a phone number, schedule your first date right then.

Say to her, “Well Thursday I’m busy because I promised my friend Jennifer I’d help her move… but Friday I’m going to be hitting the beach with some friends. You can come too, it’ll be a blast.”

Or tell her, “You like comedy don’t you. I’m thinking of going to this comedy show Friday night… I’ve been wanting to see and I hear the guy is hilarious. You’ll bust your ass off laughing.”

Have a cool date idea prepared and ready to go BEFORE you go out so that you have something to fall back on in case nothing comes to your mind in the heat of the moment.

Also, try to couch it like you’re inviting her to something you were going to do ANYWAY, even if she wasn’t going to go with you. Couch it like you’re doing it is not dependent on her showing up. You ALREADY have a cool and exciting life and you’re just inviting her along for the ride.

Once you’ve scheduled the first date right there, THEN swap numbers. That way you’ll be dating multiple girls more easily.

Then it’s natural to get her number so you can keep in touch with her if your plans do change.

Also feel free to call her up later and CHANGE the date plans on her. If you feel like it, call her up and change the day or what you’ll be doing. After all, you’re not tied to what you already specified by some mysterious law of the universe. Girls do this all the time to guys. And it just makes it look even more like what you’re doing isn’t dependent on her.

IF she resists going on an instant date with you, AND she won’t commit to setting up a date right there and then, then fall back on swapping numbers. However, this probably means that you didn’t build enough social value to her in the first place and most likely the number will not be worth the paper it’s written on.

In fact, if you played the seduction right, SHE will often volunteer HER number – you shouldn’t even have to ask for it!

And pretty soon you’ll be dating multiple girls.

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Negging Women Makes Girls Chase You

January 6th, 2010

You can also lower a girl’s social value in relation to yours with quick lines by negging women.

Here are some examples of negging women:

For a girl with a belly shirt: “Did your shirt shrink in the laundry?”

“Your roots are showing.”

“Your nose is a little red. You’re like an Eskimo. Cool.”

“You know, you look just like my little sister. Weird.”

“You know, I like that outfit you’ve got on… but I don’t know… your shoes don’t really match. You should have gone with tan boots…”

To her guy friends, “So what’s special about this one.”

If she’s talking tell her friends, “So do you guys ever get a word in edge wise?”

“Hey… you look like that cartoon character… yeah that’s right, Rainbow Brite remember her?”

“I like your eyes. Hey… are you wearing colored contacts??? (before she can answer) Oh my god, no way, you are…”

“You know, your body language is all closed off. It makes you look like one of those newborns I saw on the discovery channel when they came out of the womb – all curled up.”

“Hey, you’re a goof.”

By negging women, you’ve indicated to her that you’re not interested in her over anyone else in the group. This is a new thing for her. She’ll feel the bitter sting of being just like everyone else. Her looks no longer give her all the power – because you’re not responding to her looks.

Because you’re demonstrating social value to the group at the same time she’s wondering, “Why isn’t this guy attracted to me? Why isn’t this guy paying attention to me? Who is this guy? How am I going to win this guy’s attention?”

Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants approval. No one wants to be ignored. The same holds true for beautiful women – even more so. Their whole reality is based on having power and having acceptance and adoration through their good looks. Take that away and their whole reality crumbles and they’ll do anything to get it back.

Negging women is ideal for really hot girls – 8s, 9s, and 10s. For an average girl (6s, 7s), you don’t want to use value zingers. All you need to do is demonstrate social value – you don’t need to lower hers. Hers wasn’t that high to begin with.

Negging women is unnecessary and inappropriate to use on girls who are already being friendly or giving you green lights. Don’t throw one out of the blue for no reason at a girl who is already responding well.

But if she’s super hot and you’ve just met her, that’s a different story. Use a neg or two on her.

Now, it’s critical to use negs right. Remember, you’re not out to damage the girl’s self confidence or put her down. You’re not out to mess up her self-esteem. Some guys in particular cross the line and start throwing soft insults and treating women like second-class human beings when they don’t deserve it.

The point is to make yourself stand out as socially valuable male and a challenge, not to make her feel bad. But used correctly, negging women is a powerful tool in your arsenal.

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Day Game Routines For Great Conversations – The Cube

January 6th, 2010

Day game routines are great for meeting girls on the street or making a girl laugh on a date.

You can use day game routines to create social value with a girl, or with a group of girls.

For example, let’s say you’re in a group of three girls, two 7s and a 9. Your goal is to build sufficient social value to the 9 that she becomes attracted to you. With palm reading, you can read the palm of the first 7, and then the second 7 – while ignoring the 9. Pretty soon, the 9 will want you to read her palm and you can tell her to wait her turn.

With a day game routines such as palm reading, you’re building social value by involving ALL of the girls into the routine.

Another day game routine that girls like is The Cube. The Cube is a game you can play to tell a girl about herself. In The Cube, you ask the girl a series of questions, and based on her answers it tells you what she and her relationships are like.

In the game is a cube which represents her, a ladder which represents her friends, and a horse which represents her lover. There are entire books on how to do the Cube, but really you just need an extremely simplified version of it, nothing fancy or complicated.

First say to the girl, “I have an intuition about you… you know, I can tell you deep insights about you just be asking you three questions.”

When she’s hooked, tell her, “Great, imagine you were driving in the desert and you see a cube.”

First ask her, “How big is the cube?”

Next ask her, “What color is it?”

Now tell her, “Awesome… now, let’s add a ladder. Where is the ladder in relation to the cube?”

Get her answer. Now tell her, “So let’s add one more thing to your picture. Let’s add a horse. What type of horse is it? Where is the horse in relation to everything in your picture?”

Once she answers, tell her, “Wow… interesting… okay. Are you ready to find out what all of this means?”

Have her agree. Then give her the analysis of what it all means.

Tell her, “The cube represents what you think of yourself.” Now give her an analysis in this day game routine. If the cube is large, it means she has a big ego or talkative or the leader of her group or just make something up… if the cube is small it means she can be shy or that she’s down to earth.

The color of her cube can represent her personality – red and she’s passionate, yellow and she’s happy, blue and she’s profound and so on. If it’s a swirl of colors, it means she’s energetic. Just make it up as you go.

Now tell her about the ladder. The ladder represents her friends. If the ladder is close to the cube or extremely large, it means she holds her friends as very important. If the ladder is flying around in the sky, it means she has trouble keeping friends. If the ladder is on the floor, it means her friends tend to be casual. Again, just make the analysis up as you go in this day game routine.

Now tell her about the horse. The horse represents her lover. If the horse is a stallion, it means she wants a strong, powerful lover. If the horse is a mare, she wants a gentle, nurturing lover. If the horse is near the cube, it means her lovers are loyal and committed. Again, just make the analysis up.

The point isn’t to accurately give any predictions. Day game routines are just to pump the girls up with emotions, lead the group, and show the girls that you’re an authority figure – someone who has power over their destiny and can see through them into who they really are. And by leading the girls’ attention, the hot girl of the group will become attracted to you because she’s seeing how her friends positively respond to you – especially if at first she feels left out of the day game routine.

And, it’s important to come from a, “I’m having fun and being playful seeing what kind of responses can happen,” rather than a, “Let me convince her that I’m cool” frame while doing this.

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Qualifying girls to find the good ones

January 6th, 2010

Qualifying girls can be as easy as saying “hello”. Let me tell you a story that recently happened to me. Most of the time, when I approach a woman, even if it doesn’t lead anywhere in particular, I get a good, friendly response. However, on rare occasions, and there’s no avoiding this completely, you can get quite an unusual response.

Working out at the gym, I noticed an attractive girl with a nice body from across the room. She kept making eye contact with me, looking my way repeatedly over and over again.

As I was doing some standing shoulder exercises with free weights, she came over and stood right next to me and started doing an exercise. In fact, she was so close I could barely raise my arm and the dumbbell without bumping into her.

So I opened her with a question opener and smiled. She said, “yeah,” looked at me briefly, then kept working out. She didn’t make any attempt to carry on the conversation or smile back.

The fact is, you’re weeding women out, you’re qualifying girls, you’re seeing if she’s the kind of woman who meets YOUR standards and YOUR approval.

And, since you don’t know her or her situation you can’t place too much weight into her response. Since all you did was say hello, she hasn’t yet proven herself to you as someone who is worth getting to know. Any woman could end up being overly materialistic, have a difficult personality, be a drama queen, be chronically moody, superficial, overly dependent on others, or just be a plain unhappy person. That’s why it’s so important to be qualifying girls.

And if she misses out on the pleasure, happiness, and fun you could have given her… oh well. She missed out. You gave her an opportunity to get to know you, and she blew it. Besides, there are ten women right around the corner for you to have fun with.

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Get Outside Your Head and Into Your Game

January 6th, 2010

Now another important aspect of state control is having an outward focus instead of an inward focus and to get outside your head.

When you’re inwardly focused, it’s your internal dialogue or self-talk that’s controlling you. When you’re inwardly focused, you’re consciously weighing risks, analyzing the situation, and basing your actions on preconceived judgments, which usually translates into hesitation and fear.

Now being able to inwardly focus is an incredibly useful skill to have when say, writing a research paper or working through a personal problem in your life. Being able to inwardly focused and not being distracted by outside stimuli can mean better success at school or at your work.

However, when approaching women, that inwardly focused state really isn’t that useful. Approaching women requires an outwardly focused state of mind, getting outside your head, where your focus isn’t on thinking about the situation, but rather acting with it.

Here’s the difference. When you’re inwardly focused, you’re paying attention to the self-talk going on inside your head. But when you’re outwardly focused, you’re paying attention to what’s right in front of you and outside your head.

When you’re inwardly focused, you’re thinking about a goal or a result, like “I have to get her to like me.” But when you’re outwardly focused, you’re acting.

When you’re inwardly focused, you’re nervous or trying to whip up confidence. But when you’re outwardly focused, you’re relaxed and natural and outside your head.

When you’re inwardly focused, you’re analysis oriented and reacting to the situation. But when you’re outwardly focused, you’re action oriented and leading the situation.

When you’re inwardly focused you think about all the things that could go wrong or what you should say. When you’re outwardly focused, you run on auto-pilot and are relaxed in knowing that whatever you say will make a good impression.

Think about it, everyone spends part of their day at least outwardly focused so it’s a state you’re already familiar with. For example, when you’re hanging out with your best friends, you’re not concerned about what they’re going to think of you if you do this or if you say that. It’s just natural, you’re just comfortable with them. You’re not thinking to yourself, “Okay, so what do I say next.” The conversation just flows on its own.

When you walk, you’re not inwardly focused on where your legs are moving. They walk one in front of the other, naturally and you’re outside your head. It’s not a conscious process, you’re not dedicating that internal voice, that self-talk to directing your legs. That internal voice doesn’t say to you, “uh oh what if I fall down, then what.”

Here’s the killer. You might spend most of your day internally focused, you’re job might require that you spend most of your time by yourself doing a repetitive task over and over again, or a thinking task that requires almost no distraction. So you get a lot of practice at being internally focused, and it can be hard to break out of that pattern when it’s that time in the day that you want to go out and meet women.

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How to Approach a Group of Girls

January 6th, 2010

When you approach a group of girls, remember this: NO ONE IS LOOKING AT YOU! When you approach a group of girls, no one cares. Anxiety is all in your head!

Reality flash: the world does not revolve around you. People are not watching your every move when you approach a group of girls. Other people are too busy thinking about themselves than about you.

In fact, even if someone is looking at you, how do they know that you don’t already know this woman you’re approaching, how do they know that this woman you’re approaching isn’t already your friend. The only reason they would suspect anything is if you approach her nervously and awkwardly.

As long as you approach a group of girls comfortably, in a relaxed manner, no one looking at you would know what you’re doing or what your relationship with the women is.

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Installing Inner Game

December 24th, 2009

Installing inner game is a challenge.  So when you go out to approach and open women, and you may tend to have all this internal self talk going on inside your head that’s creating doubt and hesitation. You’re internally focused inside your own head and you can’t get out of it. You need a fast, quick, reliable way to install inner game, to switch from being inwardly focused to being outwardly focused where you’re just running on adrenaline and action.

I could give you all kinds of exercises for installing inner game to relax you, to up your confidence, but the fact is, any kind of mental exercise I would give you would in itself be an internally focused exercise having to do with being inside your own head.

What you need is a way to FLIP the switch of inward focus to outward focus game instantly at once, in an outwardly focused way.

Let me tell you a story about a friend of mine who had trouble getting outside of his own head. He always had this hesitation about approaching women because he was so internally focused, which was good most of the time because it allowed him to be successful in business and make a lot of money, but it would always freeze him up when it came to approaching women.

Well he told me this story that one night he tried a feel good drug that made him feel really warm and empathetic toward everyone around him, and on that night he and his friends went out and he ended up approaching and talking to over 20 groups of women. He said that voice inside his head that normally held him back was completely turned off and he just felt friendly and open and natural in saying hello and he got the best responses from women he had ever had.

The feel-good drug was like a violent FLIP of the switch between his internal focus state and his outward focus state for installing inner game.

Now I’m not saying to go out and use drugs because there’s a much more natural and safe way to get the very same effect of installing inner game. And it’s not alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant and with most people actually makes them more reserved and less talkative.

The best way to rapidly and reliably flip that switch, to go from internal focus to outward focus, is to actually do an opener.

Or what I like to call a throwaway opener.

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Put Her On Her Knees and Make Her Beg For It

December 12th, 2009

A woman is most excited and fulfilled when she can completely surrender herself to a sexually powerful man.  The secret desire of every woman is that the man directs her in the bedroom.

The key is to show no hesitation, to show no restraint, to let yourself go, to show that you cannot control yourself, to care nothing for what she might think or her reaction.

And one way to make a woman out-of-her-mind desperate to get fucked is to not give her any release.

Day #1: The Rough and Dirty Dry Humping

When you see her, cup her chin with your hand to pull her face toward yours, and start tonguing her down.

Push and pull her away from you roughly, grabbing her by the hair and pushing her head away, then pulling it back with force and tonguing her down again and telling her that she’s, “so bad.”  This rough push-pull action gets a woman really crazy.

Start groping her tits through her shirt.

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Smell her neck up real close and work your way back to her mouth to tongue her down again.

Touch her erotic skin points like the back of her neck and collar bone.

Press her up against the wall and lift her up off the ground by the butt so that her legs wrap around your waist.  Start violently dry humping her and calling her bad names and telling her how bad she wants your cock in her pussy.

Pull her hair, then push her away, then roughly dry hump her again.

The whole routine is tease, a game of your self-control and making her want it.  It’s the tease of what’s to come that’s exciting.  The build-up should be dragged out until its pure animal lust coupled with grinding hips.

No matter how much she begs for release, don’t give in, just keep torturing her until her head explodes.

Before you get to the point of no return, end the session.

End the session with some major blue balls if you to.  Tell her you have to leave and go do something else.

Women want what they can’t have.  If you make her go without finishing, she’ll go absolutely nuts for you.

Day #2: Get it Wet and Make Her Crazed

But the tease isn’t over yet.  Meet her on another day for another session.  Most likely, that could be the very next day as she’ll want her release as much as you do.

In the second day, it will be even more difficult and you’ll have to control yourself with even greater discipline.  You’ll be doing all the same as before, kissing, grinding, pushing, pulling, and groping hard and heavy.

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But this time, when you get hot enough for her, give in and suddenly and violently rip off her clothes like a sexual beast.

Make out with her and grind your naked body against hers.

Slap your cock on her face, but refrain from putting it inside her mouth.

Rub your cock on her pussy, but don’t insert.

Kiss her pussy with your lips, but don’t go in deep.

After you can’t stand it anymore, end the session and kick her out AGAIN, or have her jump into a cold shower to cool down.

Day #3: On Her Knees and Begging To Be Dirtied

It’s not until the THIRD day, on the third session with the woman, that you let her finally have what she wants.

In the third session, rip off her clothes as before, but this time have her get on her knees and beg you to unzip your pants and pop out your might King Kong for her to suck.

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The release will be extra sweet and intense, and she’ll have an experience with you that she’ll never forget, one that will magnify your sexual connection together ten-fold.

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How to Compliment a Girl – Give it and Take It Away

December 12th, 2009

Here’s a tip on how to compliment a girl. After the first compliment stop. Do not keep complimenting the girl, otherwise you’ll only look needy. You only want to give women a huge but very short dose of how they affected you and then you want to switch conversation topics altogether and go into something else.

For example, if you compliment her on her great smile, DON’T continue to dwell on her great smile after that. Shift into a more playful, conversational approach and other topics.

One thing I like to do is take away the compliment completely and get them to work for more. For example, I might approach a woman and say, “I just couldn’t help but notice something about you… and I had to come over and tell you… that you have the most incredible energy about you.”

And then I might take it away saying, “You know I could see us getting together in the future, but I’m realizing I don’t really know you. What else is there about you that I should know about? Are you easy to get along with?” And I’ll say this in a playful, fun tone of voice with a smile.

Notice how in this case I pace first, pause, build the anticipation and then BAM I give her a short but powerful dose of pumped up emotion, the compliment, and then immediately I take it away from her, telling her in a playful tone that yeah, she has a nice energy but I don’t really know her and she still has to prove herself to me.

This kind of build of anticipation, BAM hit her with a powerful compliment, and then take it away is very powerful on women. If you say it in a relaxed confident manner, it shows her that you’re confident enough to approach her, to go after what you want with no apologies, and at the same time she still has to work for you, she still has to prove herself to you to get your approval. And that’s how to best compliment a girl.

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Good Ways to Compliment a Girl (video)

December 12th, 2009

I want to cover ways to compliment a girl and what makes effective compliments.

The single most important way to compliment a girl is specifying what you’re complimenting her about. Now most guys will just give some general compliment based on her beauty, “You’re so beautiful” or “You’re hot.” But that’s not as effective as complimenting her on something specific about HER.

Compliments that girls love are specific about her would be more like noticing something she put a lot of effort into, something specific that most guys wouldn’t take the time to notice. For example, compliments that girls love is if she’s impeccably well dressed, you could approach with a compliment about her clothes or style. Or something specific could be just a particular trait she has, like you could approach and compliment her if she has particularly interesting green eyes.

Other ways to compliment a girl would be

Her smile. “I just couldn’t help but notice that you have the most incredible smile. I bet it always just lights up a room.”

Her energy. “You know have this magical energy about you.”

Her posture. “You carry yourself with an elegance and poise that I rarely see in women.”

Her eyes. “You know this may sound really cliché, but you have beautiful blue eyes.”

The second way to compliment a girl is to genuinely express to her the sort of emotional feelings she’s whipped up inside of you. Express to her the kind of reaction she’s caused you to feel.

For example, saying “you just amazed me and I had to come over” is letting her know the kind of effect she’s had on you. You’re revealing your inner thoughts which is often more interesting to a woman than the compliment itself.

Now the third and final element of the compliment, and this element is optional, is to pace the situation before delivering the compliment. Instead of going up to the woman and just immediately opening with a compliment, you can build up the suspense and anticipation by pacing the situation.

For example, if you approach a woman at a train station, you can pace first by saying, “Hi, I know you’re waiting for a train… and this is something that I would not normally do… but I just felt compelled to tell you…”

And THEN you hit her with the compliment. It’s important that when pacing the situation, to talk slowly, pause, build up the anticipation and suspense so that she’s not sure what exactly you’re going to tell her, and then BOOM you hit her with the compliment. That’s the kind of compliment that girls really love.

Or a way to compliment a girl when she’s alone walking in the street. You say, “Hey, I know that you’re walking alone in the street, and we obviously don’t know each other, and I have to get going as well… but you had such an inviting energy about you that I had to mention something about it…”

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Handling Bar Anxiety

December 12th, 2009

Now a lot of men have phobias of clubs and bars – bar anxiety. After all, bars tend to be dark, noisy, and full of strangers we don’t know. The thing is, that’s where a lot of attractive, single women hang out, so it will only help you to get use to be being at a club or bar without bar anxiety.

Because despite the lights, darkness, and noise, the reality is you’re really in a safe place. The lights, darkness, and noise is little more than an illusion which you can get use to.

In this exercise to get over bar anxiety I want you to visit a dance club or a bar. Go alone. Remember, when you get there, you don’t need to talk to anyone or do anything. The purpose is just to become comfortable. Relax. Don’t look for, hope for, or expect eye contact from anyone in particular. Just let whatever happens happen.

If you’re not use to a club or bar and you have bar anxiety, your first response may be the flight or fight response. In the military, they train special operation forces that in highly stressful situations, it’s not an either-or flight or fight option. That just because you feel anxiety doesn’t mean you must choose between two options which is the reptilian part of your brain reacting.

Instead, just relax, breathe, and allow yourself just to be. Your attitude should almost be as if you’re the owner of the club and you’re just going there to watch over the people and make sure they’re having a good time.

Stay at the club for at least an hour, just relaxing, noticing the types of people there, noticing how they’re acting, and who’s comfortable and who’s not. Keep in mind becoming comfortable in this kind of setting may take you a number of repeated visits.

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Handling Anxiety Around Women

December 12th, 2009

If you have anxiety around women, what I want you to do is,

A: Go to a woman’s lingerie store, like Victoria’s Secret, during the day and spend a good twenty minutes there looking at the lingerie selections.

B: Go to a busy woman’s shoe store or boutique and spend twenty minutes looking at women’s shoes.

And C: Go to a woman’s clothing store or boutique and spend twenty minutes looking at women’s clothes.

You might be surprised at how awkward and just a little unusual this can feel, especially if you’ve never done something like this before. I mean, maybe you’re more use to stores like Office Max or Best Buy, but that’s not the point, the point is to become comfortable being in places where attractive women frequent to get over your anxiety around women.

The key is, it’s okay if you feel a little nervous and anxiety around women, it’s okay if you feel a little awkward when you first walk into these kinds of places. It’s new, you’re human, and that’s a normal human reaction.

Focus on relaxing, letting go of your uncomfortable ness and anxiety around women, and just relax. Slow down. Take your time looking at the clothes. Take your time noticing the kind of women who shop there. Take your time to notice what you can smell, what the lighting is like.

But most importantly, don’t quickly walk through like you’re in a hurry. Stroll. Browse. Act like you’re the store owner and you’re checking over the goods to make sure everything is in place. Move in a controlled, relaxed fashion.

The key is not to feel any pressure. You’re not going to approach anyone just yet. You’re goal is simply to be, to exist, to enjoy the moment, and become comfortable with where you are. To become comfortable with the idea that you’re the kind of man whose often in places where attractive women hang out without anxiety around women.

If the sales clerk asks you how she can help you, make eye contact, smile, and say, “No thank you, I’m just browsing for a gift for my girlfriend.” She’ll go away and it makes you look cool. Or, if you want to have the sales clerk show you around, which is even better, say “Yes, I’m looking for a gift for my girlfriend. Right now I’m just looking, but could you show me around and give me your opinion on what would be the best item for her.”

Now as you can guess, it’s important to practice. Actually do this exercise, don’t just listen to me tell you to do it. Because yes, you can intellectually tell yourself that you should be calm and relaxed in these kinds of situations, but in reality that’s not how you learn, that’s not how you train your mind to become comfortable in a new situation. This isn’t like learning a new spelling word, you have to actually get up off your butt and get out there and do it. When learning new social skills, there’s no substitute for direct experience.

That also means no cheating by bringing a friend. Either your friend is going to be as uncomfortable or even more uncomfortable than you, which isn’t going to help much, or your friend is just going to get bored very quickly, want to talk to you, want to leave, and ultimately act as one big distraction.

No, to get over your anxiety around women is something you have to do on your own. Don’t look to your friend as a crutch.

And write down how your state changed through the experience in a journal. Note how you may have grown from discomfort to comfort or maybe even visa versa. Keep a log of how you felt in different places.

But at the very least, again, visit a lingerie store, a shore store, and a woman’s clothing boutique each for at least 20 minutes at a time until you become comfortable in those settings.

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Overcoming Fear of Women

December 12th, 2009

If you have a fear of women, what I want to talk about next is something I call “situational comfort”.

Ever walk into a bar or club and feel uncomfortable or out of place? I mean, can you stand in a nightclub, all by yourself, with no agenda and be perfectly comfortable without fear of women? Or how about this… have you ever been in a women’s clothing boutique by yourself at the mall? Think you could do it? Or would you be embarrassed looking at women’s clothes all by yourself. Could you walk around a Victoria’s Secret lingerie store, inspect the women’s lingerie, and be perfectly comfortable without fear of women?

These are all places you might not normally visit or just hang around in. You may feel awkward being there, especially since you’ll be surrounded by attractive women and you may have no particular reason to be there otherwise. Walking through Victoria’s Secret, you may be uncomfortable and think to yourself that everyone is wondering why you’re there. At the very least you may find yourself walking a little faster than you usually would and not be relaxed.

Many guys have a situational anxiety problem and fear of women in certain situations. Even the most outgoing, sociable people encounter anxiety in certain settings.

Just because you get anxious in certain situations with a fear of women however doesn’t mean that you’re shy however. Situational anxiety and shyness are completely different things. You can be an outgoing and easy person among your friends, and then become anxious in certain situations like at a club, a women’s boutique store, the mall, or when an attractive woman passes by.

Your common sense becomes heavily distorted by the anxiety, and you lose your outward focus and begin an internal self-talk. You become paranoid that people are noticing you. This is all a hallucination. You’re making assumptions based on your fight or flight response, rather than on the facts of the situation. Hence, your natural social skills takes a back seat as your body language takes a defensive posture.

When you start to avoid situations, like going to a club or a party even when you’re invited, and you have an intense fear of women, the anxiety is to said to have become “phobic”. I call this passive phobia where we’re making choices that avoid social situations when we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. Like we start going to bed early when we could have stayed up late and gone out. Or when we prefer to play video games or watch sports rather than go out and meet new people.

And yes, it’s curable. You can get rid of your situational anxiety and it’s important that you do so if you want to move to the next level with opening women. The number one phobia of people in the United States isn’t death, its public speaking and they’ll tell you that the basic way to get rid of your fear of public speaking is know the room, know the audience, know your material, and know how to relax.

For dealing with situational anxiety and fear of women, the same factors apply. Know the room, know the audience, know your material, and learn how to relax.

I have this friend who can have a good time and is comfortable just about anywhere. He can walk into a sex toy shop and talk to the sales clerk lady as if he was in a pet food store. He can walk into an expensive women’s clothing boutique, be the only guy there, and act like he owns the place.

However, he’s not the kind of guy who goes out to nightclubs. So when we went to a club together, he became uncomfortable and couldn’t relax.

That’s NORMAL though. If you’re not use to something, if you’re in a new social experience, SURE you’re going to feel uncomfortable at first. That’s a normal HUMAN response.

The only way to become really comfortable and at home in a nightclub, or a mall, or a women’s clothing boutique is to actually spend time in one. You actually have to walk in there and just spend time there, putting no pressure on yourself to do anything or be anyone.

You also need to know your audience, so you need to spend time in the presence of people and attractive women and learn that they’re not going to bite you and that having fear of women is silly. They won’t even notice you. The key is to just blend in, relax, and get use to being in the situation that you’re at a club or that you’re looking at women’s lingerie at a Victoria’s Secret store.

And then, and only then, will you be relaxed enough to approach women in such a way that you can consistently and successfully elicit a good, positive response from them.

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Meet Hot Girls with “Apples or Oranges” Openers

December 10th, 2009

You can meet lots of hot girls with what I call “Apples and Oranges” openers. You take two similar, but different things and ask a hot girl her opinion between the two.

For example to meet hot girls you might say to her, “Listen, my friend and I need a female opinion on something. Who do you think is prettier… Christina Aguilera or Britney Spears?” Now Christina and Britney are both pop singers of about the same age, but they have different styles. Thus they’re similar, but different. They’re also both people in the news, they’re celebrities, which makes them inherently interesting to women to talk about.

Now when delivering the opinion opener to meet hot girls, it’s really important that you stand correctly. Don’t walk directly up to the woman face to face to ask. After all, why would you go out of your way to ask her if all you want is a female opinion and you could theoretically ask any other woman in the bar.

Instead, stand with your body faced partly AWAY from the hot girl with only your head turned toward her to get her opinion. For example, you could be leaning against the bar and turn your head to the woman next to you and ask for her opinion. Or you might be walking by, and as you pass by, with your body partly turned away, ask her for her opinion with only your face turned toward it.

This partly turned away posture shows her that although you’re asking her for her opinion, you’re not going out of your way to ask specifically hers. You could be asking for any woman’s opinion in the bar, she just happened to be the closest one to you. It also creates a sense of tension that you might leave at any moment.

Reward her by turning your body toward her to continue on with the conversation.

Here’s a little trick to meet hot girls: In the case she’s rude, turn away from her, do an opinion opener on the next girl in front of you, and then turn back to the woman who didn’t respond well and open her AGAIN with a new opener. She might respond better the second time so as not to have you turn your back on her again.

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Three Openers a Day to Be a Guy Who Gets Laid

December 10th, 2009

If you want to be a guy who gets laid, I want you to go out and approach three women every day for a week and approach them with a compliment opener.

Your goal is just to open with a compliment and nothing more. Once you open just say, “Well I just wanted to tell you that, but I have to get going to meet some friends of mine,” and then go. If you get into a conversation fine, but all I want you to do right now is get into the habit of approaching women. Don’t put extra pressure on yourself that you need to carry on a compelling conversation with her or feel that you have to hold her interest.

That’s too much pressure, that’s too much to learn all at once, just focus on the element of opening. Open, compliment, say goodbye and take off.

And keep doing three compliment opener approaches every day until you’ve got about 30 or so under your belt, because it will take at least doing 30 of these before your brain starts to realize that approaching women with a compliment is really no big deal and you’ll get good responses. And pretty soon you’ll become a guy who gets laid with girls.

Now one thing I recommend that you don’t do, and I’ve mentioned this before, is don’t wait for a woman to give you “a sign” before you approach. You don’t need eye contact, a smile, or any kind of sign of interest to do a compliment opener. If you wait to get one, you could be waiting forever. If you wait to get one, you limit your opportunities to a much smaller segment of women and you’ll miss a lot of ladies who would have responded well to your approach. Compliment openers are just as effective without a signal, look for approval from women to do them.

Now if you’re having trouble actually getting up the nerve to approach a woman at this point, don’t worry, relax, that’s NATURAL. Turn that frustration you might have into a blessing. After all, frustration can motivate you to be a guy who gets laid. It means your mind is looking for a new angle, a new way of working, a new way of doing things. It means your mind is searching for an answer to be a guy who gets laid and sooner or later it’s going to come up with one.

Just remember it’s impossible to fail. As long as you got out of the house and went out you’ve succeeded. You’ve succeeded because every time you go, even if you don’t end up opening a woman, you’ve learned something new about yourself and you’ll be more enthusiastic the next time for making real changes in yourself.

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Giving Great Compliment Openers

December 10th, 2009

The key to giving great compliments to women is the delivery. What you say as a compliment is of far secondary importance to how you deliver it. If you come across extremely nervous or needy then your compliment will still get a positive response, but won’t affect her nearly as powerfully.

No matter what compliment you use, you want to deliver it in a relaxed, and in some situations, playful manner.

For example to give great compliments, walk up to the girl, look right into her eyes, just look into her eyes for a LONG time and say, in a relaxed smooth voice, “I just thought I’d come up to tell you… you are stunning.”

And whatever you say, say it like that you mean it. If your voice isn’t congruent with the power of your compliment, it will ring false.

At one point I was approaching so many women with a compliment opener, as many as ten women a day, that my voice just became robotic, like I was a doing a routine over and over again. I was just saying a line, and not sincerely giving that woman the compliment that was right for her because I genuinely admired something about her. And women could pick up on that insincerity. Suddenly I found the compliment opener falling flat, not being effective because my delivery wasn’t sincere, it wasn’t genuine.

You need to deliver your compliment with genuine enthusiasm or genuine sincerity to give great compliments. It must have a driving emotion behind it, and not just be something that you’re saying just because you feel you have to.

If you don’t feel that emotion first, and carry it through in your words and your nonverbal body language, SHE won’t feel it either. YOU have to lead the state first in order for her to follow. YOU must feel that state first in order for her to feel it.

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Use a Throwaway Opener for Meeting New Women

December 10th, 2009

Okay, you want to be meeting new women. The first opener you do, you’re going to be in the wrong state of mind. You’re going to give off the wrong kind of energy. Most likely you’re going to come across as less than eloquent to women, perhaps nervous sounding, almost as if you’re fighting yourself to go through with the interaction.

But a really amazing thing happens after that first opener when you’re out meeting new women. No matter what kind of response you get from the woman, good or so-so, your brain switches into a pumped up, adrenaline packed outwardly focused state of mind that makes the next opener much, much easier to carry through.

And then, after the second opener, you’re even more high and the third and fourth openers become even easier and easier.

By the time you reach ten openers, you feel like you’re on top of the world, like you can do anything and it doesn’t even matter if the next woman doesn’t give you the ideal response because you know it’s a breeze to approach the next ten women.

However, it’s that very, very first opener that’s the hardest. That’s the dillema. You want to be in a great, playful, take action kind of state when opening women. But it’s damn near impossible to get into that kind of state UNTIL you do your first approach meeting new women.

So everything hinges on getting past that first approach. And to take the pressure off, I like to think of that first approach as a “throwaway opener” in that most likely it’s going to be garbage. On that first approach, I know I’m not projecting the best state to that first woman. I know that I may even stumble over my own words and forget everything I’m supposed to remember. I know that nothing is going to come out of that first interaction.

But that’s okay. The first opener for meeting new women is always the throwaway. The first opener you can always expect to suck. Don’t worry about it, just make it a piece of garbage, have no expectations of the outcome. After all it’s your throwaway.

The only point of the throwaway is to FLIP that switch, to get your brain from internal to outward focus, to get the hormones and serotonin levels, the natural drugs of your own mind, up and flowing.

So I’ll do a first opener, eject, and then think to myself, “okay throwaway done.”

Now one thing to keep in mind that this barrier, this issue of hesitation on the first opener of the day, will never go away. Every morning, no matter how many approaches you did the previous day or night, you start the next morning back at zero. Because after you sleep, the mind has a tendency to go back into that internally focused state by the time you wake up the next morning.

So every day you’re going to have to do that throwaway opener again when meeting new women just to get back into that outwardly focused state. That’s normal however, and it will get easier and easier with time.

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Attracting Beautiful Women Exercise

December 10th, 2009

So, what kind of beautiful women DO you want?

For attracting beautiful women into your life with this exercise, list all the qualities and characteristics of the kind of girl you want to attract. If you know what these characteristics are, you will be more successful because you’ll know what to look for.

What kind of women would you like to have? Do you want an explosive one-night stand or a hot, passionate relationship? Take your time and list as many qualities as you want in a woman. Here are some examples:

“I like a woman who is very sexual and is always eager to have a wild time with me in bed. I also like a woman who is down to earth and doesn’t expect me to pay for everything… a woman who is happy and open. I want a woman that knows when to get dirty but also knows when to act like a lady. Someone who keeps in shape and has a great body and nice breasts. Oh yeah, and one that treats me like a god!”

Now to do this exercise for attracting beautiful women,

1. Think of the qualities you want in a woman that you listed earlier
2. Begin to focus on feeling the presence of the kind of woman you’re wishing to attract. Imagine that she’s right there, right in front of you.
3. As you do this, focus on the feeling of being connected to her.
4. Imagine a cord of green sex energy coming from your chest to her breasts, connecting both of you… focus in on this feeling.
5. Imagine a cord of yellow sex energy coming from your eyes to her eyes, connecting both of you.
6. Imagine a cord of red sex energy coming from your groin to her groin, really connecting both of you now, as you really focus in on this feeling.
7. Imagine a cord of orange sex energy coming from the top of your stomach (the area where you feel butterflies) to hers, connecting both of you.
8. Imagine a cord of blue sex energy coming from your throat to her tongue, connecting both of you.
9. Imagine a cord of gold sex energy coming from your forehead to her lips, connecting both of you. Really focus in on this feeling.
10. Focus on all six sex connections and a feeling of well-being
11. As you focus on the feelings of the six connections, notice what happens as you double the intensity of the feeling
12. Now in your mind, switch places with her. Step into her body, feeling what she’s feeling, and have her step into your body, feeling the six sex connections.
13. Hear her thoughts listing your best qualities from the inside of her mind.
14. Step back into your body, continuing to feel all six sex connections.
15. Send her the feeling of anticipation toward the day you meet in the near future.
16. Count to yourself from 1 to 5, saying, “Now I will count from 1 to 5. And when I do, I will awaken, feeling much better than I have ever felt before…1… 2… 3… 4… and 5.”

Do this exercise no more than twice a week for attracting beautiful women. Go on about your normal life… you’ll find yourself drawn to go to new places… trust your intuition and follow this. When you meet this woman, she may or may not be everything you wanted. That’s ok. Just repeat the exercise, but be clear in the qualities you want in a woman.

This relates to the baseball player imagining his homers. You need to SEE a goal to get to it. The more concrete the goal, the better your chances.

You alert yourself – on both conscious and subconscious levels – to recognize the lady you want and you’d be surprised how many guys miss her because they’re too busy worrying about something else during the crucial moment.

And you make chance encounters with the right type of woman and attracting beautiful women MORE likely just be exercising the encounter.

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Opening Lines to Meet Women: The Observation Question

December 7th, 2009

The topic today is opening lines to meet women, and I want to introduce the “Obersvation Question” opener.

For an observation question opener, you ask a woman a question based on what you see her doing or you question her on something unique you’ve noticed about her.

For example, if you see a woman with a tattoo on her belly you could say, “I couldn’t help noticing your tattoo… what does it mean?”

If you can’t notice something specific about her you can ask her about what she’s doing. For example, if a woman is browsing through some books at the bookstore, you could simply say, “So what are you looking for?” See, first the observation, second the question.

Or, if you see a girl who is all dressed up, simply ask her “I’m curious why are you all dressed up?”

Or let’s say you see a girl wearing a shirt that reads “Hot Stuff” on it. Ask her playfully, “So do you think you’re really hot stuff?”

If you understand that you can use something unique about her or what she’s doing, you can open women for any kind of situation.

Now, I want you to approach THREE women a day with an observation question opener until you’ve done at least 30 approaches with it.

Yes, that’s THREE opening lines to meet women a day. 21 a week. You can do it. Doing one or two openers a week is not enough. Doing THREE a day is the only way to get good. I want you to do at least 30 of them.

I want you also to free yourself from needing stellar reactions from people. The worse that can happen from these opening lines to meet women is two or three of the women you approach out of the 30 don’t give you the response you wanted. Just be in an experimental mood, trying out all sorts of observation questions and let what happens happen. You’ll understand so much more once you actually go out and do them.

And don’t wait for the woman to give you a sign. Don’t get hung up on trying to read a woman’s body language to see if she’s receptive. Ignore that. You’ll quickly realize none of it matters.

And don’t get wound up about what to say next. Do your question, say it was nice to meet you, and then leave. It’s okay to ask a question and then not say anything else afterward. If you feel you must say something more, then that’s a problem. Fix that problem by approaching, opening, and then ejecting without following up.

Another objection I sometimes hear is, “If I go up to her she’ll know my intentions.”

Well, a woman won’t think you’re trying to pick her up unless you use a cheesy pick-up line that is a cliché like “So is it hot in here, or is it just you?” If you open up with genuine curiosity and sincerity, she won’t think anything of it.

To worry if she’ll know your intentions is an introspective idea of inward focus. That feeling will go away after you do your first approach and switch into outward focus. You’ll realize that woman will most often react warmly to your approach and your opening lines to meet women as long as you come off as a warm, friendly, playful person.

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Informational Openers as Good Opening Lines For Women

December 7th, 2009

Approaching with good opening lines for women is really easier than it sounds because what you’re going to do first is what I call “Informational Openers” to break you in.

Informational openers are good opening lines for women because they put no pressure on you to succeed or fail, because all you’re going to be doing is asking people for directions or information.

I want you to go to your local mall, grocery store, bookstore, subway or anyplace on your list where you know people will be around. Find someone, go up to them, and say, “Hey, excuse me, I’m looking for how to get to XYZ. Can you help me?”

It doesn’t have to be an attractive woman, it can be an old woman or an old man, or anyone else. The point is just to get use to going up and talking to new people.

If you’re at a bookstore, say “Excuse me… do you know where the psychology section is?’

If you’re at a clothing store, say “I’m getting a present for my sister. What do you think looks better… this or this?”

If you’re outside on the street you can ask, “Can you tell me how to get to the nearest McDonald’s?”

If you’re at a bar ask, “Do you know where the restroom is?”

Now all I’m asking you to do is to get in and get out. You’re merely to make an entry and a smooth exit. That’s why these are good opening lines for women when you’re just starting out.

Once you have their attention, ask your question. And once you get a response from them, say, “Thank you very much” and walk away. Get in and get out.

You have no goal, you’re not trying to get anything from them. What you get is the experience of approaching someone new, and rewiring your brain that it’s really no big deal and is pretty easy to pull off. You want to rewire your brain into thinking that approaching everyday people is a common normal occurrence for you that happens all the time.

Here’s the key. Doing only one of these informational openers is not enough. I want you to start doing FIVE informational openers every day for a week. Yes FIVE every day for a week. That’s 35 informational openers where you ask someone for directions or for some information every week. That’s the only way to get over your fear of saying hello, and you’re safe knowing these are good opening lines for women.

You have the time. It’s easy. It should only take you an hour or two at the most to find FIVE people who you can ask directions or ask a question. Again, they don’t even really be attractive women, you can do the informational opener on anyone you come across.

And you should do FIVE openers every day for a week, until you have 35 of them under your belt.

However, keep in mind, that whenever you do any kind of an opener, you want to approach from the front or the side of the person, never directly from behind. If you try to get someone’s attention from directly behind them, you’re much more likely to startle. Approach someone from an angle where you’re in their field of vision.

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