I got a letter here asking me, “Jesse, sometimes I think this would be so much easier if I was just better looking. I’m thinking of joining a gym and also focusing on my career for now. What do you think?”
Well, I bet you wish you were extremely good looking with the perfect pecs, big bicep guns, and flowing hair.
How much easier would it be to meet and win over hot girls?
Or perhaps extremely rich—if you drove a Mercedes convertible and lived in a big mansion on a hill with a private pool – imagine that!
Actually though, being good looking and rich is a curse… yes a CURSE, when it comes to getting good with women.
Here’s why – if you’re really good looking or rich, you never start the journey.
Good looking guys often have girls here and there fall into their laps. Same with rich guys.
There are women who are out looking for good looking guys and women looking for guys with a lot of money. These guys have it easier than your typical guy off the street.
But the thing is, the women that good looking and rich guys actually get are typically NOT the women of their own choosing.
Instead, women here and there tend to fall into their lap by chance, and because they are meeting some women, they have no real incentive to learn Natural game.
You know, the kind of advanced skillset that allows you to go into a nightclub, get a dozen phone numbers and make-out with the hottest woman in the club of YOUR choosing.
Rich and good looking guys, because they get *some* success from doing nothing, they’re nowhere near as successful as they could be, are nevertheless comfortable enough not to feel the raw drive to get really good at meeting the actual women of their choosing.
They’re not in hell, but they’re stuck in a comfortable purgatory.
So they never actually learn real game. Maybe they wish for more, wish for more choice, wish for more options, but they’re too comfortable where they are with the occasional woman that falls into their lap to really apply themselves to achieve real choice with women.
That’s why you can’t find too many rich or good looking guys out there who are really sharp with women in different social situations.
They almost all have serious holes in their game when it comes down to it, trying to compensate by bragging or with their looks, comfortable just dragging along being mediocre.
They are just comfortable enough so that they never have the real drive or incentive to go after the real prizes.
It is the same situation with extremely beautiful women- often their world experience and social skills are a little dull because they get everything they want without having to apply themselves or grow beyond childhood.
It can actually be a curse for a beautiful woman because she lacks the drive to develop her true potential as a human being.
So I say stop trying to clasp and cling to security in having looks or money. Besides taking up all of your time away from actually meeting women, if you were to achieve those goals you would only lose your edge and drag along comfortably but dully, rather than excelling.
A woman not of your real choosing, a woman after money and looks may fall into your lap, but you will not land your dream girls or be shaping your own destiny if you chase looks or money.
Instead, live insecurely so that you have the drive to develop your Natural game, so that you’re not relying on looks or money to slide you by, but so that you have the raw drive and hunger to work a club or bar and learn to pull the hottest girl out and collect 10 phone numbers any night it suits your fancy – and cross that finish line first.
Look, in the bigger picture of things you can make insecurity your biggest friend. While good looks and money will be your worst enemy.
So count your lack of looks or empty pockets as a true blessing, count them as your opportunity to become brilliant at this.