What do you say when you don’t say anything?
We dance around this topic all the time, but it’s ready for the spotlight: alpha body language. This is the most important thing not just when dealing with women, but with communication period.
Nothing else even comes close.
Wonder why that thick-as-a-post jock got all the women when charming funny nervous sitcom-character-in-waiting guy got nothing in high school?
Alpha Body language.
Why James Bond got his pick of the litter and the brilliant Q got more quality time with gadgets?
Why that homely busboy at the corner Italian restaurant takes home all the gorgeous patrons and the handsome maitre-de takes home doggy bags?
Garlic. The busboy stank of it and THAT is a huge turn-on.
Just seeing if you were paying attention.
All those other things you THOUGHT did the trick were just extra fuel for the fodder. Alpha body language is the key to EVERYTHING.
Why? Because it is the symptom that tells you everything you need to know about the INSIDE of a person.
It clues you in to the person’s confidence, their openness, even their sexual skills. And if you send out the wrong signals – which most people do – then you’ve given yourself a SERIOUS hole to dig out from.
Conversely, if your movements say the right things you are on top of a BIG mountain that you’d have to work to screw up.
The unfortunate thing is you have a CHOICE about what you say, and most don’t realize it. Or they choose to ignore it and remain “themselves,” as if we are static representations of an image that never changes.
WRONG. WRONG WRONG WRONG! If there was a hand near me, I’d slap it. Good thing I type with my feet.
People are dynamic, and ever-changing. In fact, we are NEVER the same as we were in the past. Those changes show up in our body language, but that doesn’t mean we should abandon control.
If so, we wouldn’t bother with school, riding a bike, and everyone would still be a virgin. After all, we were all virgins once, weren’t we?
Look, there’s a difference between being UNAWARE of something, and being INDIFFERENT. Unaware just means we don’t know what we’re doing with ourselves. Ignorance may be bliss, but it’s not helpful.
Indifference is when you know what’s going on, but you choose to ignore it. WRONG! Where’s that hand!
You can’t be passive all your life and expect things to come to you. The world doesn’t work that way (my apologies to all silver-spooners I’ve offended with this blanket statement that merely applies to 100% of all living things, rounded to the closest .00000001).
You need to be ACTIVE. You need to TAKE CHARGE of your life, and that means taking an ACTIVE role in the changes that happen to you.
They’re coming either way. Personally, I’d rather have a vote.
So no whining about the walk you’ve developed and how that represents YOU as you are now. If that walk doesn’t work, kill it. Time to get a new one.
And there’s a bonus beyond the initial differences that changing your body language communicates to the outside world.
Alpha body language also can change your inner one. That’s right, we’re going to attack confidence both ways, coming and going.
Seriously, this works. The Japanese have long held the belief that a cluttered home leads to a cluttered mind, and a clean one, a clear one. The outer world touches our inner one, and when you change the way you move, you also change the way you think.
Don’t believe me? Try it. Pick a wall and stand up straight against it. Your feet, butt, shoulders, and head should all touch the wall, exerting about the same amount of pressure (no smooshing). Now walk away from the wall, but hold the pose for 5 minutes.
How do you feel? Right, like someone stuck a pole up your ass. Just what we were going for.
It’s going to feel weird for awhile, because it’s different and new. Keep going, though, and eventually it won’t feel weird. In fact, it’ll start to feel GOOD. You’ll find yourself with this new CONFIDENCE that wasn’t there before and doesn’t seem to have much of an explanation. It’s not your inner exercises – you’ll get to know that feeling. It’s… nothing.
Except that you are standing like you are confident. Cause and affect get blurred, and you wind up FEELING a certain way just because you are ACTING that way.
Either way, you look better standing straight, and you project confidence to all comers. With alpha body language, women find you more attractive, even if they aren’t self-aware enough to know why. Co-workers and those around you often might comment that you seem… DIFFERENT.
Congratulations young Jedi, you’re on your way.