Dominating a woman in the bedroom and making her surrender to your sexual power absolves a woman of taking responsibility for the sexual acts or her having to initiate sex.
When a woman sexually surrenders to a dominant man, she’s no longer responsible to anyone, not even to herself. She can completely let go, and allow herself to be 100% taken and consumed by another.
Women want a leader in the bedroom. They want to be led. They want to feel the power of a commanding presence. They want to feel the power of a daring man who goes for what he wants. They want a man whose fearless, who is direct, and who doesn’t always ask for permission.
The modern woman typically has to exercise control and restraint all day long in her job, in school, with her family, organizing a modern life, and being responsible for other people’s actions.
Particularly if she has a high powered job or position of responsibility and she’s used to being in control, to let go and surrender to a strong man who’s in the driver’s seat can send her heart racing with excitement.
If you’re saddled with a lot of responsibility in your day-to-day life, it’s a relief to leave your identity behind for a short while and enjoy the escapism of letting someone else take control of your pleasure.
That’s why being tied up or blindfolded or handcuffed or just physically surrendering in general is tremendously exciting to a woman. It’s scary exciting because she’s always been in control, and giving up that control to be free-floating in wanton surrender is dangerously taboo and forbidden.
It makes her feel more vulnerable to you than she’s ever felt before. After a fantasy of surrender, she’ll feel more bonded and connected with you than anyone else before.
Nothing will make her feel closer to you than for her to open herself up completely, to surrender herself totally to you, and to become as close to you as possible. When a man is so personally and sensually powerful that a woman would reflexively and happily surrender herself to him, on a sexual level she becomes the woman she ever dreamed of being.
That’s precisely why a lot of women stray from their relationships because they need that excitement that only submission to a masculine, dominant man will satisfy.
Women hate giving instructions to the man, telling him what to do, what it is they want. In an affair her lover performs acts her nice guy boyfriend may consider perverted. With her lover, she can become the slut she’s fantasized about, performing sex acts that she wished her nice guy boyfriend would demand of her.
One woman writes,
“Privately, I have always fantasized about wearing a very tight-laced corset and being restricted in some way. It would be marvelous to be subservient to my husband’s demands.
As Christmas is coming up, I decided to buy certain items, and parcel them up as a present to him to give to me. I thought this would then give me the opening to broach the subject of my fantasy.
Christmas morning arrived. After breakfast, relaxing in our dressing gowns, with great excitement we exchanged presents. I opened mine first. It was a set of jewelry, consisting of dangly ear rings, necklace, bracelet and ankle chain.
I urged him to open his present, wondering how he would respond. His face dropped when he saw the contents. Laid out on the table was a pair of handcuffs, a leather dog’s collar with a leash attached and a leather boned corset.
“My god,” he gasped. “You do not expect me to wear these, I hope?”
“No, my darling. They are for you to fit on me.”
“That sounds like a better idea,” he replied. “I like the idea of the corset. But why the collar and leash, and what are the handcuffs for?”
Blushing, I hesitantly explained. “For a long time, I have had this dream that I would like to be laced up tightly in a corset by you whilst being restricted, hence the collar and handcuffs. I know it seems silly for the woman to suggest this. In stories I have read it’s always the man who imposes these ideas. There. I have at last told you my fantasy.”
Another woman writes,
“My fantasies run along the lines of being dominated, forced and abused – never nastily, but forcefully. I had a very repressed sexual childhood and was told that good girls just didn’t ‘do it’. As soon as I was an adult I tried all sorts. I’m quite independent, somewhat cuddly in shape, and I like a strong man – not a wimp! I always have to take the lead in everyday life, so I look for the opposite in sex.”
To act out a Dominance and Surrender scenario, take your woman to a sex shop and buy a blindfold and handcuffs.
Buy them with her, so that when it’s time to use them, she puts up no resistance. If she didn’t protest them then, she won’t protest them in the moment.
Start sex, and when she’s in a highly suggestible and Blissnotic state, simply break out the bondage gear, cuff her wrists and blindfold her.
Take her and bend her over your knee and spank her. Tell her, “You’ve been a bad, bad girl.”
Being the dominant, it’s really important that you physically lead her to where you want her to go, and lead her bent over your lap.
Then put her into a vulnerable position face down on the bed on her stomach. Physically guide her into the position.
Being in this vulnerable position, she surrenders herself completely to you because you are in a position to do anything to her.
Once you have her in a vulnerable position tell her, “Oh, you’ve been bad. I’ll have to punish you.” Then you can spank her and fuck her hard and roughly.
Keep repeating, “You’ve been a bad, bad girl. You have to punished by your strong man, you bad girl.”
Tell her, “Surrender yourself to me baby. Who’s your master baby? Tell me who is your master.”
“Your pussy belongs to me now. Your pussy exists so that I can fuck it.”
When she’s blindfolded she can’t see anything. Her other senses will try to compensate, but most of all her sense of touch will become more sensitive.
Every touch of yours she’ll feel that much more intensely.
A lot of women are with guys who are simply too nice and too careful in the bedroom. These guys have lost their animal instincts to make their girlfriends perform sex acts for their own selfish pleasure. A survey of female sexual fantasies show that women like their men to be potent, virile and sexually dominant. Shy or sexually submissive men were actively disliked.
So to pull this off, you don’t want to be in the mentality of one of those super nice gooey guys.
Above all, you need to have an attitude and frame of sexual dominance. Sexual dominance means to fuck a woman in a way which communicates to her that it happens on your terms and that you’re the boss.
You have to get into the mindset that you’re the bad boy and that she’s the submissive girl. You’re not particularly concerned about her pleasure. You’re the dominant. She’s the submissive. Her pleasure comes from surrendering herself to you, her strong and powerful man, surrendering herself to a leader.
And through that total surrender she’ll feel incredibly bonded to you afterward.