You might not be the best looking guy (heck, most of us aren’t), and you might not have youth on your side, but there’s an effective way to make up for your less-than-perfect looks – and that’s dressing right. Here are some peacocking tips.
99% of guys I see, I’m not impressed. Most guys look disheveled. But even the guys that look put together, they’re dressed in the most boring fashion. They may be dressed neatly, but dressed to conform, to not be noticed, to blend into the background.
So just by dressing in the right way, I can get a solid advantage over the other guys out there in attracting women.
But some guys enthusiastically move to the opposite extreme, “peacocking” themselves in a sort of three ring circus manner, complete with colored fingernails, PVC tight pants, charm lockets hanging around their necks, or digital electronic signs flashing on their chests. This will certainly get you lots of attention, and more power to you for going all out.
But I’m going to share some of my own dressing techniques that will make you stand out from the crowd as an intriguing and sexy dresser, yet allow you to feel comfortable with they way you’re dressed.
Tip #1
My first favorite peacocking tip is to wear boots. I love boots because they make you look taller. I always look for and use boots with a two inch heel. After all, you have every advantage in appearing taller to women. A tall man can overcome lousy looks. But whether you’re tall or short, every inch counts.
I also look for interesting boots that stand out and look unique. For instance, I have a pair of fake-leather iguana cowboy boots. When I’m out on the town in South Florida here, I’m the ONLY guy wearing cowboy boots. I get opened by women on a regular basis on those boots because they’re so unique.
I’ve also got a pair of black leather cowboy boots with red flames spreading from the toe up the length of the boot. They’re more colorful, and I get even more comments on them- just about every other time I wear them I get stopped by a woman about those fire boots. I’ve even been stopped by men asking wear they can get a pair.
Then I’ve got my standard black boots. These boots give weight to my feet, give me two extra inches of height, and have silver metal decorations on the toe that catch the light. I don’t get stopped on the street about these ones, but they’re good all general purpose boots for any day or nighttime occasion and go with any outfit.
Tip #2
Another dress item that works wonders is hats. I have two hats in particular that I really love. One is a dark tan straw cowboy hat, (sort of looks like the one Crocodile Dundee wears). Girls love that hat. They grab it off my head and try it on. It also adds about 3 more inches to my height. Between the boots and the hat, I go from about 6 feet to 6 feet 5 inches, which makes a huge difference in my physical presence.
I’ve also got a more casual “baseball cap”. Except this cap has a skull and flames sewn into the front against a blue background. The colors catch the eye immediately, draw women’s eyes to my face, and the skull and flames convey danger and adventure and the sexy rebel.
Tip #3
As for shirts, throw out everything you got from Macy’s, JC Penney, and Walmart. These stores are selling cheap volume to the bored and uninspired masses. You will not find one shirt in those stores that will make you truly shine.
It’s hard to describe my favorite shirts, so I’ll just tell you where to find them. I’ve found a few of my best shirts in South Beach, which is full of specialty clothing stores. I’ve found some good shirts on Melrose Avenue in Hollywood, California as well as Hollywood, Florida and North Miami Beach.
All of my shirts have a dramatic design with a high color contrast between the shirt’s base color and the design’s color. For instance, I have a bright white button-down shirt with a bold, jet-black design splashed across the chest. The contrast between the snow white and the jet black really grabs the eye.
Expect to pay $40 to $140 for a good peacocking shirt. You can usually bargain down in specialty clothing stores 10% to 20%. Yeah, it’s expensive, but it’s a lot less expensive than a fancy car and you’ll get far more positive attention from women with the right shirt.
When I dress like everyone else, I almost never get eye contact with women. When I’m dressed, I get eye contact from women constantly. And I feel sexy and confident from the validation- it feeds your ego and makes you daring. My clothes make a HUGE difference in my game.
Now what happens when a woman compliments you about something that you’re wearing?
If you’re dressed right, it’s going to happen on a regular basis, so you need to be prepared for it. Usually the woman will say something like, “Hey, nice boots!” or “Wow, I love your shirt.”
What I first do is acknowledge their compliment with a “thanks” and a big smile, which is a conveyance of nonverbal sexual cues… my voice and my smile.
Next, I’ll open them on a completely different topic, like, “Wow, you’re so cool…” I’ll say in a playful, exaggerated manner. “I love you!” and then I’ll hug her. Then I’ll switch topics completely.
So those are just some peacocking tips to look smashing without going the circus sideshow route. Just whatever you do, don’t dress like everyone else, don’t dress in “safe” clothing from the departments store, designed primarily to put people to sleep.
And yes, you’ll have to invest a little money but just think how much TIME you’ll waste if you’re dressed BADLY, and you’re time is worth money too.
So we’ve talked a lot about your externals, but what about your INTERNALS?
Nobody who wears those ugly fucking flamed cowboy boots should be giving fashion tips. Plain colored cowboy boots are a must, but avoid graphic designs. It’s tacky and get complimented by tacky people.
very true. everything you said is right on. clothes make a big difference. the funny thing is, there is a huge difference between my wardrobe that i find attractive (and its very expensive) and that women find eye-catching. just goes to show…. what you think looks good? throw it on the curb when you’re looking to pick up. what you think looks fruity? dress it and be positively surprised.
I’m from Texas and used to go to the hot trendy clubs every weekend. That was until about 10yrs ago when I decided to buy a cowboy hat and boots for the rodeo. BEST PURCHASE I’VE EVER MADE!! Girls love a man in a hat and boots!! Couldn’t tell you how many girls I’ve pulled out of the “honkytonk and redneck bars!” Beautiful well mannered respectable type of girls (and some crazy ones too) …not the stuckup biatches usually running around the trendy clubs. Now I’ll admit, the hat has its time and place and isn’t intended for everywhere, but don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. Good luck to you all…
Great tips man
well, youre lucky to be where you are. always loved the boots and hat and never allowed myself to be caught dead in that. you show up to a club like this in europe and you actually do look like crocodile dundee. and not in the positive sense.
Forget about the boots and baseball cap. JCP/Macys now has awesome shirts,like the Emporio Armani style for like 25 USD on clearance.
Now, a great ADVICE is to tell boys that they DO NOT HAVE to wear a brand on their chest, they look like a free walking billboard. You can there see how insecure they are on them selves.
Also wear tailored pants! So you can see their asses!
Go hats! My hubby wears them and girls love to play around with the hat! And Eye lenses ! 🙂
forget emporia, every dumbass wears that now. not to say i dont like it. i do. and i wear it. but its not what you wanna wear when looking for girls.
the boots are a fantastic idea i never thought of that, though damn man i really like my kswiss they’re so comfy and i feel fleetfooted in them haha. honestly though for me, hats and flamingo shirts aren’t who i am, i’ll have to look into some well designed shirts in the future but honestly i’m not sure if “peacocking” that much will attract any quality women, like cmon how much of a brain can she have if she saw me in a cowboy hat and a pink shirt and thought i was a good choice? just my thoughts, fantastic ideas though without a doubt it’ll attract much more attention, which was kinda the point wasn’t it wasn’t it lol, to attract as much attention as possible. thank you for your articles btw there’s alot of good philosophy and methodology in them, they really help in my journey to becoming a stronger version of myself.
Hey Jesse, do you have any dating stories from L.A. are any west coast cities?
I wear dark tapered jeans, blazer, patterned white shirt, expensive classy tan leather shoes with matching belt and bag.Then well groomed with nice scent, i have 1 problem though what advise would you give to approaching a girl and trying chat her up when she has not even looked at you? ive done this recently and got on well with the girl she even gave me her number and told me what day and time to call, i called her twice and she did not answer.
this must be regional, as most cities around the world, you arent going far wearing hats… most women think hats are adolescent (espeically grown men that wear baseball caps, this is so early 90’s)… and you wont get entrance to the hot clubs with this attire either.. class places dont allow hats… just like the guys doing well with women arent usually wearing hats.
boots, possibly, sometimes, but then again, its regional… its not going to fly in the scene with hot women unless you’re hanging out in honky tonk or redneck dives.
nice, flashy shirt, could be… that does work on occasion, just dont over do it … most guys dont realize that women see right through these things and just snicker behind your back… still, I can walk in a place with nice pair of dark jeans, great white shirt, cufflinks, nice dress black shoes (only wear black after 8pm) and grab any chick from any guy wearing urban cowboy wear…dressing silly will not net you any game….
You’re wrong. You’re judging without trying. Dressing with a cowboy hat isn’t “silly” and “redneck”. You can see my videos with a suit and cowboy hat. Girls love it because it’s unique… bars and day game. Your loss.
Nice, telling someone they are wrong because they have a different opinion. It is 100% true that cowboy hats do not do well across the US and they certainly will prevent you from getting into many places.
You’re completely correct that wearing a hat can prevent you from getting into some places- but that’s true of ANY hat of any kind. So it comes down to using common sense based on where you’re going. No reason to single out cowboy hats.
>> Nice, telling someone they are wrong because they have a different opinion.
Not all different opinions are equally valid. If you tell me the Earth is flat, I don’t have to pretend an opinion is on par with facts.
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I am a woman. And I would say definitely no cowboy hats or shoes. As to shirt I do not agree either. I think the best is light colour plain shirt, no ornaments no screaming colours, white, pale pink, blue, grey but not brown, black, bottle green, etc. Pants should be black or dark blue, could be dark brown but not light blue jeans for sure. And for the hair, the best js a short cut, open forehead is a must, all hair should go up from a forehead if that makes sence. If you have bold spots going for full bold is the only good option, trust me. And shaved armpits is HUGE advantage.