The Evil Bondage Keeping You From Glorious Destiny of Girls

Most guys have terrible trouble meeting girls… heck, a lot of guys have terrible trouble even getting out of the house!

Well, I know how you feel.  I know how easy it can be to stay at home and watch television, surf the net, or kill time hanging out with a buddy.

The problem is, you most likely have a bunch of established anchors holding you in place, tempting comforts and routines that makes it so easy to be, well… LAZY.

It’s like something about your lifestyle forms an invisible PRISON around you.

Well, I’ve had the same problem myself. And I’m going to tell you exactly what I did to get out of it…

You see, at one point in my life my sex life was going nowhere.  There were girls around, and I had the means to meet them, but I wasn’t doing anything to get out of the house.  I was in the completely wrong headspace for meeting women.

My very own ENVIRONMENT that was sabotaging my goals.

I was living in a house where I had a lot of old, nerdy behaviors linked to it.

I finally decided to take some “extreme” action.  I packed my bags and moved halfway across the country – without a job lined up – just to shake up things and make a change. And from that point on everything started clicking for me.

Time to set forth to meet destiny

You see, the problem is really three-fold.

A lot of guys live in an isolated neighborhood, like the suburbs for instance, or they don’t have access to transportation.  But without the visual stimulation of having attractive women around to approach on a daily basis, the vision of creating a lifestyle full of sexual abundance can easily grow cold and distant.  Your social and mental isolation from women follows your physical isolation.

A second phenomenon feeds into physical isolation – distraction.  Most guys have set their apartment up with channels of cable television, instant internet access, and videogames.  With so many comfortable and tempting distractions, it can become too easy to “put off for later” doing what you need to do (like getting out of the house), and lose yourself in fantasy worlds that may feed your brain, but impoverish your social life.

The third aspect of the problem is in the old anchors around you.  You have old habits, routines, and thought patterns attached to your sofa, your computer, and your bed that put you into the mood of falling into your same old routines of staying home, thinking negative thoughts, and escaping into fantasy time busters.

In fact, just the visual colors and patterns of your current space is enough of an anchor to set you back into your old ways and habits every time you step inside.

Isolation, distraction, and old anchors were a triple headed demon that all worked against me at the same time.

And that’s why I ended up moving halfway across the country.

At the time, I wasn’t particularly conscious of what I was doing, I just thought of it as “needing adventure” and needing to “find myself”.

But “finding yourself” when you change your environment.  Your old anchors are destroyed and you’re allowed to start afresh, anew.

Moving to a new city or to a new apartment shakes you up.  A journey physically forces you to come out of yourself and resolve hundreds of little problems, by uprooting you from your habitual setting.

A journey forces you to resolve hundreds of little issues you had to face before, and opens up new channels in your consciousness, through which fresh air and new perspective can come into play.

Have you ever had a dilemma or problem, and you decided to “sleep on it”, and the next morning a solution simple presented itself?  Well, moving can be a similar wakeup call for your life.

Of course, once you make a journey, you don’t want to reproduce the same anchors and distractions in the new place.  You have to design your new place to support the kind of person that you want to become.

This means removing all distractions.  Don’t keep more than one television in your apartment, and cancel your cable subscription.

Keep a separate little laptop computer that is NOT connected to the Internet for work purposes.

Throw away your videogames, online role playing games being one of the worst offenders.

“Give up the TV?  Give up the Internet???” you might ask.

But hey, you WANT boredom to set in, so that you find entertainment OUTSIDE of your private space, so that you find entertainment in social settings and with women.  Feeling BORED is KEY.

Replace that old junk with a bachelor’s pad that sets a colorful, fun, funky, or seductive mood with colors and scents.  Design something that reflects the new, playful personality you’ll build for yourself and one that will set you in the right mood when you step inside.

Get a chick-friendly set up

Remember, if you’re consistently having trouble getting having from your old distractions, anchors, and isolation, a big change is needed.  Don’t put it off, start working toward your goals now!