A woman dressed up in hot lingerie and stilettos in a cheap motel room for example is going to have a much easier time stepping into the role of a paid escort than if she’s dressed in socks and sweatpants at her mother’s house.
Environment affects our identity. Environment affects the face we present to the world. By setting the right context cues for a woman, we can better put her into sexual trances and sexual roles. If a woman looks the part and the environment feels the part, she will play the part.
If a woman dresses like a Madonna, she’ll feel and act like a Madonna.
If a woman dresses like a Buddy, she’ll feel and act like a Buddy.
And if a woman dresses like a wicked Mistress, she’ll feel and act like a wicked Mistress.
Dressing up is an important context cue. It’s much easier for a woman to become a part if she looks the part.
Glamming is the art of dressing a woman up in sexy lingerie and exotic fantasy costumes so that they can more easily step into new roles.
Glamming transforms a woman, who might otherwise be your typical Plain Jane, into a walking sex magnet in the same way that women who wear knee-high platform boots, makeup, highlighted hair, and skintight outfits become the center of attention of any room that she walks into.
Glamming conveys that she’s a person who asserts her own reality. It shows she celebrates her own reality and doesn’t crumble to other’s judgments or social pressure. It shows she transcends the social constraints.
With glamming, she’ll have new sexual confidence and be willing to do things more in line with her new identity. Once she wears tight, very sexy underwear with lots of straps and laces and stiletto heels into bed, she’ll feel like the star of her own pornographic movie and be as naughty as she likes.
And to allow fantasy sex to “go down smooth”, to have her pop into new roles and new identities readily and easily, you want to set the right contextual cues.
Contextual cues refer to the fact that many of our biological drives require an environmental signal to make us aware of them. For example, if you happen to be busy or distracted you may not notice that you’re hungry– that is, until you smell some burgers. The smell of the hamburgers is a context cue that triggers your awareness of hunger.
Likewise, you’re more likely to cut loose if you’re dressed in jeans at a strip club with three of your best friends than if you’re dressed in a suit on an elevator with a bunch of people you don’t know.
Sexual arousal works in the same way. Particular contextual cues can trigger off sexual desire.
Make Her Wear Sexy Lingerie Every Night To Pleasure You
Next to high heel shoes, you want your woman to start wearing something sexy for you every night as a matter of habit to create sexual polarity and contextual cues for her Mistress identity.
Your woman dresses in sexy clothing to please you as a rule.
If she’s visiting you, always tell her to bring her lingerie with her.
If you live together, make sure that the lingerie is in an accessible place and tell her to wear it.
At first, she may feel too shy to automatically start wearing sexy lingerie. If she doesn’t do it on her own, tell her to put it on until it becomes habit for her.
As long as you tell her to wear it, you should get no resistance from her. She’ll want to wear it and feel sexy as much as you want her to wear it and be sexy – she’s just looking for your permission.
If she shows up to bed in pajamas, tell her, “Baby, it would be so much hotter if you wear that lingerie you have.”
It’s your job as her Bedroom Bull to transform her from mother or worker or student or homemaker into a sexual and wicked Mistress by leading her into her new skin – her sexy shoes and clothes.
Always give her positive feedback. Reward her for wearing her lingerie by saying, “You’re so hot… you’re so beautiful… I’m in love with you baby… I’m so lucky to have you.”
SHOW her how much the sexy clothes turn you on with ACTION. Grab her and manhandle her. Be passionate and crazy. Actions must backup the power of your words.
Pretty soon she’ll come to realize that you expect her to dress the part for great sex. Pretty soon it will become a matter of normal routine. Pretty soon it will become a matter of habit for her and you won’t even have to ask her.
Buy Sexy Lingerie Together
Next time you’re out shopping together, lead her by the hand into a Victoria’s Secret lingerie store.
Simply lead her by the hand inside the store and start browsing so that it feels completely natural, just something that you do. She’ll browse along because women generally like to shop.
Pick out a lingerie outfit together. Have fun looking and testing.
Go for something sexy, not conservative. Most lingerie stores do have a lot of rather boring, conservative lingerie. Encourage her to be a little daring.
Give her positive feedback. Tell her, “Wow, this would look so hot on you.” Positive feedback will build up her confidence and make her feel comfortable. You can even talk sexy to her right there in the store. Tell her, “Ooh, if I saw you wearing this tonight I would fuck you so hard, I would just go crazy.”
On the other hand don’t be afraid to express your opinion if you don’t like something. If it’s too conservative and boring say, “Ahh… that one isn’t sexy enough.” If you don’t like the color, say, “You’d look better in red than brown… after all, red’s my favorite color.”
Once you’ve pick out an outfit, pick out some high heel shoes to go with it. Yes, splurge a little bit and don’t be super cheap about this – find high heel shoes for the outfit.
Women love to shop. So have fun together and don’t keep your eye too hard on the clock. If you go shopping with her and make it an enjoyable experience, she’ll love you for it.
If your woman is shy about lingerie, you may try buying the lingerie together, not as a surprise gift. That way, she’ll feel more involved in the process, like it’s something she’s doing. She’ll be more likely to wear what you buy if you buy it together. You’ll also more likely get the best outfit for her, something that both of you like rather than trying to randomly guess for her, which could be hit or miss.
How To Glam a Woman to Look Hot and Sexy
When a woman looks in the mirror and she sees a glamorous reflection back, she’ll readily step into a Mistress identity. And makeup makes a dramatic difference in how a woman looks, more than you might realize.
After and before makeup
The easiest way for a woman to learn how to do her makeup professionally without spending a fortune is to go to YouTube and have her watch the professionals there and just copy what they do.
There’s a number of YouTube makeup tutorials that are extremely popular:
Makeup Geek – https://www.youtube.com/user/makeupgeektv
Lauren Luke – https://www.youtube.com/user/panacea81
Michelle Phan (Asian) – https://www.youtube.com/user/MichellePhan
If she doesn’t already have makeup, go shopping with her for some. What better way to have fun and be playful with your woman? It shows her that you’re interested in something that increases her social value just as if she was interested in one of your favorite hobbies.
If both of you are really clueless, just go to an upscale department store and have a makeup clerk apply the makeup for her and ask for tips. At department stores like Macy’s they have clerks who are paid just to stand there and demonstrate and apply makeup.
Rhinestone Sparkling Eyelashes
Another great Glamming accessory is rhinestone sparkling eyelashes. This is my favorite accessory next to high heel shoes, an absolute must.
You can order rhinestone sparkling eyelashes at www.madamemadeline.com, however I’ve recently seen them at drugstores like CVS and Walgreens as well.
Your woman simply places the sparkling lashes onto her eyelids and they adhere with a temporary adhesive. The sparkling lashes really bring a woman’s eyes out and make them look glamorous.
Get the ones with the rhinestone sparkles, because they catch the light.
The French Manicure
Take your girl out to get her nails done.
Treat her and get her a French manicure at a beauty salon. And while she’s there, have her ask the manicurist for tips.
If that’s too expensive, have her wear press-on nails which you can pick up at any drugstore.
Or better yet, have her learn how to do her own nails. Again, YouTube has some great tutorials for your woman to watch.
French Tip Manicure Tutorial – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZEcHil7kDs
Getting Out The Big Guns: Stiletto Heels
Stiletto shoes give the appearance of height, shape the legs, and lift the butt.
Stiletto heels are a MUST accessory. Stilettos are long, thin heels found on some shoes. They’re typically taller and less practical than standard high heel shoes, but that’s what makes them perfect for fantasy.
When a woman feels taller, when heels add curvature to her butt and legs, she’s going to feel sexier. Even is there’s no time for her to put on a full costume, stiletto heels alone will make all the difference in her appearance and attitude.
Perfume Fragrance
The right fragrance on a woman can make a dramatic difference in your perception of her. Although as men we’re largely visual creatures, adding fragrance to a woman can complete the experience, like adding surround sound to an entertainment system.
Personally, I like fragrances that smell like sweet cherries or strawberries like Black XS for women. I always make sure that she has fragrance on along with her shoes and sparkling eyelashes.
Erotic Body Jewelry
Belly rings, nose rings, tongue rings, necklaces, earrings, and hand jewelry can add a highlight of glamour or sexual rebelliousness to your girl.
Sexy Hair Wigs and Hair Extensions
A wig can completely transform the appearance of a woman; you may not even recognize her once she puts a new color on her head. Fortunately, costume wigs are inexpensive and you can easily gather a whole collection of them, blue, electric pink, blonde, or brunette to match a woman’s outfit of the night.
Wigs aren’t practical for outside the bedroom however, so hair highlights or hair extensions can improve the appearance of your girl.
Teeth Whitening and Veneers
A woman’s smile says a lot about her inner sexual confidence. If her teeth are stained or crooked, she may feel embarrassed to smile and put her best face forward.
Professional teeth whitening through a dentist is the best way to quickly and affordably see a dramatic change in the appearance of a woman’s smile.
For an even more dramatic effect to fix crooked or damaged teeth, a veneer is a thin layer of porcelain placed over a tooth surface. Each veneer costs about $1,000 U.S. dollars per tooth, so while veneers offer the most dramatic improvement, they’re also the most costly.
Veneers are popular with actors, models, and adult stars
Veneers dentistry, before and after
Colored Cosmetic Contacts
Colored cosmetic contacts can give a woman a more exotic look. If she’s dark skinned, light brown or green can look particularly compelling. If she’s lighter skinned, light blue or light green can transform dull eyes into real sparklers.
I’ve a bit of an issue, my gf looks hot in make up, but hardly ever, in fact almost never, wears it.
I started to think recently we should spice up our sex life and do more things together as at the moment is very transactional.
I’ve started to put together some things we can do, like go shopping to Ann summers etc. Together,but start off wearing nice/kinky night dresses and cute heels for some nice foreplay to get started.
I’m kind of thinking she might secretly want to do this but anytime I mentioned say a nice pair of kinky boots she would say can’t wear heels hurt my knee too much.
Yet when she lost weight a year ago she was away at a wee botique buying fancy wee boots, cool leather jacket and was almost buying a short leather skirt. She buys decent clothes and never wears it ever.
After reading this I think it’s that she put on a bit of weight and she recently said hates the way she feels.
I do think she wants to be sexy and dress up and be adventurous, however I think she could still feel good if she gave it a chance now, she isn’t that overweight. Starting to lose weight now but it ain’t going to happen overnight!
this is a right way to make a girl horny and to look sexy every girl’s desire. I want to impress my bf and this blog post is so useful for that thank you very much.
no problem
all nice tips, i think getting her to start to enjoy porn is a great way to slowly loosen her up some
thanks hank
If you want a woman to feel sexy make her feel that way women love compliments tell her you think she is sexy. Tell her you love her sexy legs. Her beautiful lips her silky hair name every part of her body you love and in no time she will feel sexy for you. I spent most of marriage sexless because I didnt figure this out sooner.
This is really great advice. Obviously not any man can request this to a woman. If you are an average and mediocre man, why would she bother to put this effort? Women like Cherry contempts themselves with men that are not worth as that is the best they can get. I have dated multiple women and when they see you are the guy that they were looking for, they go the extra mile as long as you prove yourself valuable. I guided my girl into this and so far it is being really good. It has created on her a positive routine so she spends time (half an hour maybe?) every day into her beauty and that arouses her a lot. She is now more keen to have sex than never before. I feel sorry for women like Cherry that have her lives full of shit on their minds that they can’t spare time to purely enjoy their femininity and sensuality.
Thankfully I like role play and stuff like that, but rhinestone eyelashes? Thats not classy thats trashy. maybe a lot of women aren’t as good as me at knowing what suits them but your tone is as if you are too totally control women’s choices. But a good point is, if I fancy a guy I will naturally want teducem, but that’s on my terms. Women are more confident when they are sexy in themselves not plastered in horrible makeup. ‘red is my favourite colour’ goddd. In a healthy relationship with a liberated women then you’ll find out what turns each other on. Like, oh he likes those purple knee high socks, or oh she likes it when I wear docs and grow my hair long. More guys have long hair. Jim Morrison, Mick jagger…. They were sexy men, but id never ask a boyfriend to change himself for me id just say ‘I like it when you wear that’ but I wouldnt expect it, it’s just a nice treat. Also cant believe you think anyones eyes are dull, everyones beautiful.
Last thing. This isnt mad men.
Cherry… Wow… If this is how you see your guy… “hairy toes, the hairy ass, the unibrow, the balding head, the rough hands, the funny shaped penis, the mole on the face???? ” then why the hell are you with him? “No women wants to put in all this effort when her man comes to bed, scratches his balls and says, ‘where is the sexy lingerie, the make up, and the sexy moves?’ ” Have you ever told him that??? “I am very happy, very content with what i have and with what I give”… it sure doesn’t sound like it!! You would tell him to fuck off if he suggested something that might look nice on you?? You know, you might want to go ahead with that plan of yours to play for the other team… except I don’t know many WOMEN that would put up with your attitude. You sound like a very bitter person, that may want to talk to a counselor… or a divorce attorney if your life is as miserable as you say. If you are that dissatisfied with your man, you may want to invest in some toys, cause the ladies team isn’t interested in bitchy women any more than men are…
Hear,hear!!!!!!
Yeh, i’m a working dad btw (6 days a week, 8+hrs a day, i take the earlys so i dont lose too much time with the kids and it’s physical labour), i do f*kin shit loads on top of that as well, and i keep my self looking good so dont tar us all with the same brush.
When the day is done and all my times been given out to my 3 kids, wife, friends, family and work, and if there’s any left over, i want to do the thing i like most. Be intimate with my wife.
A bit of lippy and some nice undies wouldn’t hurt now and again would it?
If you are not interested in doing some of these things on occasion for your guy, then you are with the wrong guy. Granted it is a two way street. He should at least shower, shave, and maybe wear some cologne. I am an older married gal who has been young and in lust, working with kids, and I promise now that I am at the empty nest stage I am GLAD to do those things and get the positive feed back that makes me feel like his sex goddess…Just a thought girlies!
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I was pretty open-minded till I read the part about buying your gf makeup!!! OMG if the tables were turned… do you think we like the hairy toes, the hairy ass, the unibrow, the balding head, the rough hands, the funny shaped penis, the mole on the face???? If only men groomed themselves as much as we did! No wonder we (females) are turning to the same sex! No women wants to put in all this effort when her man comes to bed, scratches his balls and says, ‘where is the sexy lingerie, the make up, and the sexy moves?’ – all after you’ve finished work at 6pm, picked up the kids from grandma, prepared dinner, bathed the kids, washed the dishes, finished the proposal you are working on and then finally retire to bed??? If my husband ever spoke to me the way your blog suggests, I would be out the door in a flash…. You have no idea about what happens in reality and I am so happy that my man is more mature and more sensible because if he were to follow your principles, I would be so far gone… and then he could have his mistress… but would she put up with everything else I do on a daily basis with no compliant??? I am very happy, very content with what i have and with what I give, if my husband were to tell me to put make up on and where I could get advice on how to do it…. I would really tell him to Fuck off!!!
I don’t think you have much experience!
So if you’re husband ever told you to wear makeup, you’d tell him to “Fuck Off?” You must be so much fun in bed.
Granted, it sounds like you’ve got many children and are exhausted by the end of the day and being sexy is the last thing on your mind. This advice is for young couples with more free time on their hands and want to have fun with sex and experimenting with sexual polarity and the masculine and feminine. If you’re not in a position to do that because of your children, that’s fine but don’t judge it. You may also want to consider surprising your husband one day by wearing makeup and lingerie. News flash – Men like that stuff.
I agree… it goes both ways. I’m happy to dress up for my guy, but it just gets insulting if I put a great deal of effort into my appearance to please him and he doesn’t bother to change out of the shirt he’s been wearing for the past 3 days.
I think you are absolutely right a husband or partner should not be able to tell their girlfriend or wife that they need to improve on something because they could easily say that they don’t like their boyfriends scraggly ass face or their fat ass beer belly. I think it is better to just leave women alone. Isn’t it enough that we have sex with your hair cavemen looking ass now girls have to dress up like a fucking doll. To me it is so not worth it. It is websites like these and authors like these that make me want to barf. How about you fix your brain before you tell a girl she should look more sexy you stupid motherfucker. 🙂 have a nice day
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I’m tired if women and men feeling “entitled”. I’m a woman, confident, sexy, young, with plenty of reasons to despite this article being my experience with men, and smart enough now to understand that love and yes, that includes sex, is a two way street. I’d be damned to think otherwise. Ladies, it really doesn’t mean anything if you have a little fun. Same thing with men, why don’t we just “ask” then to wear cologne or change into a fancy tie, with no pants on, or wear a hat…for the woman with the bald husband, it doesn’t sound like that is turning you on.
Just ask… and you shall receive!!