With an opinion opener, you ask a woman her opinion on something rather than a compliment. This way you can come across more casually and get her talking first before ever even expressing interest in her. Also, women LOVE to give their opinions on things and you’ll find that some women just won’t be able to stop talking.
To begin with, to generate an opinion opener you can take something from the immediate environment. For example, if you’re in a men’s clothing store you can say to a woman, “I need to get a female opinion on something. Which shirt do you think would look better on me, this one or this one?”
A good way to open sales clerks is to have them help you try on different clothes and constantly get their opinion on whatever you’re picking out.
However, opinion openers are particularly good for night clubs and bars where women are so use to being hit on that you don’t want to come across as trying to pick them up. In fact, for the rest of this section you can assume all of my examples refer to a bar or club situation. And in a bar or a club, while you can ask an opinion about the immediate situation like, “I need a female opinion… which is a better club this one or the one down the street?” you’re better off with a more interesting opinion opener that will get her talking rather than a quick answer.
The best kinds of opinion openers are those that have to deal with relationships, people in the news, or the supernatural. In a club or bar as long as you stick with these three topics you can literally spin off an opinion opener about anything and make it work.
You can also hook women into an interaction by prefacing the opinion opener with a hook. For example, you can say “Hey, I need to ask you a question. My friend and I were talking about something, and we need a female perspective.”
Then just pause and wait for her to respond. It’s human nature to respond to a hook like that which plays on the inherent need of people to satisfy their conversational curiosity.
The second kind of good opinion opener structure is based on giving a story situation and asking her opinion about it. The story situation can be told with just a few words or can be a few sentences long. Here are some examples.
People in the news
“My friend and I were debating this and figured we need a female opinion. Who do you think J-LO will marry next?”
“I need your opinion on this… this has been in my head all day… do you think Michael Jackson bleached his skin or is that a natural skin condition he has.”
The Supernatural
“My friend went to this psychic who told him he was going to be rich. Do you believe in psychics?”
Relationships
“I need your opinion on something. My friend has been dating this girl for three months now and she’s been calling him three times a day. I don’t know about you, but that seems pretty possessive to me. What do you think.”
“I need your opinion on something. I have a good friend and she caught her boyfriend kissing another girl. She ran away crying but she loves him so much she’s forgiven him and still wants to be with him. I mean, I only want the best for her… what do you think, should she dump him or what.”
“Apples or Oranges” Opinion Openers
You can meet lots of hot girls with what I call “Apples and Oranges” openers. You take two similar, but different things and ask a hot girl her opinion between the two.
For example to meet hot girls you might say to her, “Listen, my friend and I need a female opinion on something. Who do you think is prettier… Christina Aguilera or Britney Spears?” Now Christina and Britney are both pop singers of about the same age, but they have different styles. Thus they’re similar, but different. They’re also both people in the news, they’re celebrities, which makes them inherently interesting to women to talk about.
More Opinion Openers
One great opinion opener structure is based on giving a story situation and asking her opinion about it. The story situation can be told with just a few words or can be a few sentences long. Here are some examples.
“My friend and I were debating this and figured we need a female opinion. Who do you think J-LO will marry next?”
“I need your opinion on this… this has been in my head all day… do you think Michael Jackson bleached his skin or is that a natural skin condition he has.”
“My friend went to this psychic who told him he was going to be rich. Do you believe in psychics?”
“I need your opinion on something. My friend has been dating this girl for three months now and she’s been calling him three times a day. I don’t know about you, but that seems pretty possessive to me. What do you think.”
“I need your opinion on something. I have a good friend and she caught her boyfriend kissing another girl. She ran away crying but she loves him so much she’s forgiven him and still wants to be with him. I mean, I only want the best for her… what do you think, should she dump him or what.”
Those are just some great opinion openers you can use right away.
Three openers a day exercise
Now for your first exercise, brainstorm 20 opinion openers on the topics of relationships, people in the news, and the supernatural. Once you’re done, pick out your two favorites and memorize them.
Now with those two good opinion openers memorized, I want you to go to a bar or club and open THREE women every night you go out with one of your opinion openers.
Remember, the first opener will be the most difficult because you’ll be in that inwardly focused state. What you’ll need to do is flip the switch into the outwardly focused state by doing a first throwaway opener, at which point thereafter it will get much easier. And don’t wait for a sign from the girl for that first opener. That’s the whole point of the opinion opener; that you’re just casually asking for an opinion and you really have no interest in her sexually at all. You’re not looking for approval from her to be sociable.
Also, don’t plan to have a follow up conversation after your great opinion opener. Just run your line, have genuine curiosity in what she says, tell her thank you for her opinion, it was nice to meet you but you have to go now to speak to another friend of yours. Eject in other words. Don’t put extra pressure on yourself to follow up with a conversation. Approach, open, and leave.
Remember also to have a playful attitude when you open, along with powerful body language and voice tonality.
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Nice article, easy to understand and follow
What kind of opinion openers would you use in a school environment?
say, what do you think is better, teacher or student? And then kill her.
Compare two teachers? Maybe 2 subjects? You could even go the route of asking her opinion on homework or an assignment concept… “I was going to do my paper on… what do you think?”… Opinion openers (I’m 28 now) are the biggest blessing in the pick up game.
They are so non threatening and easy to build a conversation off of. If you go the compliment route (not terrible) and you tell a girl she looks nice or that she has great eyes… Ok where does it go? I was in a restaurant last week and I used the “my friend just met this girl 3 months ago and wants to marry her”… I asked 2 completely random girls up at the bar what they thought about the situation and we ended up talking for almost a half hour before I finally asked for one of their numbers “so I could let them know how it went”… And I’ve hung out with her a few times since and if it doesn’t work out all you did was have a conversation that you could completely brush a side that you were even hitting on her in the first place which creates a nice comfort level.
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