Harem Building 101 – Starting Your Own Circle Of Hot Chicks

What kind of man do you have to be to able to build a harem of your own?

What personal traits MUST be there to be able to enjoy this kind of lifestyle to it’s fullest?

Many guys at this point will shout out,

“A love of sex!”

Or

“Being the talk of the town!”

Or

“Enjoying the endless variety!”

While these are obviously attractive perks that come with the territory, they won’t do anything in and of themselves for building and maintaining a modern day harem.

In fact, if you look closely, the above characteristics describe the state of mind of the average guy.

Think about it.

The average guy loves sex.  The average guy likes the attention of other women, and being the envy of other men.  The average guy would like to have the choice of having many women around.

These mindsets are typical of the average guy.

So what I’m going to do is to call your attention to the three personal characteristics, or traits, that must be developed that will always lead to your harem building success.  These traits, or adjustments to your personality, will clearly separate you from the average guy in the eyes of women.

The first is to become a good networker.

I’m always networking women.

I meet new ones at social gatherings and introduce them to each other.  I also have my women go around and meet other women and have them introduce them to ME.

The more you practice being a good host – networking – the more you’ll find it simple to keep track of different women simultaneously as more and more of them come into your life.

With the variety and excitement it brings, the juggling of women, phone calls, dates, and the daily demands of multiple relationships is a skill you hone to perfection over time.  Once you get comfortable networking, you will gain momentum in building your harem.

I remember when we brought into our relationship a red headed beauty we met through networking our other female friends.  I had one of my girls bring her closest friends to a party I threw.  My girls dropped a few hints here and there about our lifestyle together, and before you knew it, we were in the jacuzzi, the three of us, with the new girl both excited and curious about our little harem.  In fact, she never left!  A week later she moved in with us and until this day she remains.

So learn to be a good host and network.

The second trait or adjustment is the capacity for relating intimately with women.

You have to learn how relate to women.  You can’t expect to have two or more of your girlfriends living with you if you can’t relate to them emotionally.  You need to make it a point to be around women as much as possible.  If you do point number one above, networking, you should be on your way.

Have women friends.  Listen to them.  Give them attention, and in turn they will give you attention.

To handle more than one woman can be both a challenge and a struggle without this skill.

Without this skill, it can be a difficult to handle even one woman, let alone start a harem.

With every woman I meet, I dive deep into her thoughts…. her dreams… her fantasies…

I dive into their challenges, their issues, their struggles… I accept everything about them… and they can feel how I know them, appreciate them, and understand them.

The third is high self esteem.

To be able to share your woman with other women, believe it or not, you need a healthy sense of self esteem.

You need to be sure of yourself not to feel insecure that you will perhaps not measure up to other women in terms of the pleasure they can give to each other.

After all, women usually know other women’s bodies better than you, so that will always be there in your mind if you are insecure in your own masculinity.

This is one of the principal reasons to become a potent lover.

Even more important than high self esteem is a sense of not needing anyone’s approval or acceptance.  This quality makes it possible to enjoy multiple women simultaneously without any excessive or unwarranted fears relating to how you will look to society, friends, co-workers, and family.

Not needing the approval of others keeps you honest and upfront about who you are and what you’re about.

Remember, building a harem is a lifestyle that some others may not, will not, or even refuse to understand.

Everytime I go out with my women, I get two kinds of stares.  First, I get the stare of awe, then disapproval on the faces of women, and occasional hostility from some jealous guys.  The second is the stare of astonishment and attraction from some women and cool guys cheering me on, basically coming up to me and shaking my hand, asking me “how do you do it?”

These characteristics must be mastered first, before technique.  Technique comes later.  You need to have a strong foundation to lay techniques on top of.

Aside from these characteristics, you must begin to focus your attention on the body language you convey when around women.  Your body language heavily influences your results, and is amplified by your states.

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  • Thanks to you i can finally get to my goal step by step of being harem king two right now and im only 18 step by step and many years to go thanks so much these have helped me out so much 🙂

  • 🙄 Where to start? Hubby wants a harem, is it fair to me to have the desire to make sure others in harem understand that I am the Queen B?

  • Will do brotha, are you the one that responds on the forum?

    I’m probably going to just copy-paste what I typed up there^.

  • Jesse, I had a question about the group of chick friends thing.

    I have had success recently with a some of every kind of girl, but I ideally want a relationship in the long run. Something I have noticed has worked is being friends with a girl first, then eventually she realizes I’m a candidate to date. I want to actually try this method because I’m over dating girls I barely know.

    My new game plan is to make lots of chick friends with the possibility that eventually they will try to set me up with their friend, or even themselves at some point, and in the mean time, I have lots of great friends to hang out with.

    One of my friends pointed out that for that to happen, I should appear as socially valuable, but inaccessible. I know this method worked on a, what I would consider, extremely legit girl. She is driven, intelligent, and respectable, but I only see her as a friend now. What happened with her was that we went clubbing and etc and she started to notice me with other girls, hooking up with other girls etc, and that made me inaccessible I’m assuming. At the same time, I believe that she perceived my social value to be going up because of lots of things, but especially that I’m working on my personality.

    My question is: how do I make friends with girls and hang out with them without them perceiving that I’m hanging out with them only to get with them? Because once I get some good chick friends going, they will get to know me better without the pressure of dating right away, and possibly a real relationship would come of it.

    I read that you recommend being a good networker, introducing girls to each other, also relating intimately with women, and keeping high self-esteem, and my main goal now is to build a group of chick friends.

    Also, what do you know about patterning????

  • Thank you ..Jesse I read all your points and they do work. I’m upto three girls now. I love the lifestyle and knew this was me since the age of 22 now I’m 38 and have a great foundation and support from my ladies. 😉

    • A harem can work because if you have the right lead woman she filters for her hornier friends. Usually a referral is going to be more comfortable in the company of her friend at least the first time. So you get a threesome. I have a new found taste for threesomes, but not constantly.

      So here’s what happens in real life. Lead lady #1 Kate (age 23) introduces #2 Rita (age 32). Rita has a great time because this is kinky sex, has a couple orgasms and she enjoys the company of Kate as well. Kate and Rita are “light bis” but prefer men. But the men need to be cleared, as they don’t really like the hit or miss night club scene. The positive referrals is the heart of the harem system. I could not just bring in a woman stranger myself, they would veto it.

      A second date alone with Rita goes well and a good one on one is established and Rita is game. The concept of Rita bringing her friends over is broached. Kate gets wind of the Rita date, and is a little territorial. Kate tells Rita not to bring me new women.

      Still Rita brings over #3 Sveta (42 and straight) and Sveta has a great time and tells Rita she wants repeats. Well it turns out Sveta is Rita’s supervisor. When Sveta leaves Rita is feeling happy and empowered, as she pleased both Sveta and me, and is still super-horny leading to a special hot evening.

      Rita stays the night and the next morning shows me a photo of Jana. Jana is another borderline bi (25), but would only do this experimentation if Rita was there. So since Rita is so gung ho and is my new preferred lead, the harem has gotten more complicated, now involving ultimate discretion and scheduling. Meanwhile Kate is trying to schedule with Rita again. Not a bad place to be, but could all fall apart with one slipped remark. Women are like radar.