Everyone has different levels of “pickiness” when it comes to women.
Some guys don’t really care what girl they get, they just want to fuck ANY girl.
Other guys have a specific idea of what they want. Maybe he likes leggy blondes, and other types of women just don’t inspire him. He’s “picky”.
Or he may go into a bar and focus his attention ONLY on the very hottest women there.
And I myself, am extremely picky.
10 years ago when I started meeting women, I’d only approach the very hottest women on my campus, and ignored everyone else.
And even today, in my normal mode of thought, I can almost like psych myself out of approaching anybody because I’ll just obsess over the hottest girl there… and feel like any other girl would be a waste of time!
So is Pickiness Good… Or Bad?
But there’s a BIG problem with being picky!
On the one hand, there’s good logic to being picky.
If you talked to the less attractive girls and they liked you, you would get nothing out of it, because you’re not interested in them sexually.
But you also risk more “rejections” from talking to the less attractive women – so it’s a “lose – lose” situation.
After all, why not just save time and only talk to the girls you really like?
That’s how you would do it any shopping store! When you’re at the grocery store, you don’t sample every type of product. You just buy the one you fancy most, and you’re done with it.
Fast and efficient, right?
Why Pickiness Lands You In Hot Water
The problem is, being picky will cause your game to stall and go absolutely nowhere.
Because when you first see that top hottie, you’ll just freeze up right in your tracks!
She’s the ONE girl you want to talk to, and so you invest an enormous amount of value into her.
And that makes you self-conscience. Boom! Massive approach anxiety.
Even if you DO approach her, you’re NOT warmed up socially.
Your first interactions of the night are generally going to be lame and weak. You haven’t had time to yet warm up those social muscles.
So you’ll go up to this really hot girl, be stiff, be nervous, and crack out a weak hello with a “please, please like me!” approval-seeking vibe to it.
She may be friendly, but you won’t generate hard attraction with her. And it’ll be game over!
And sub-consciously, you know this.
You already know that your opener is going to be weak.
You see the top hottie there having fun, with other friends, and you know that you’re not going to add any value to it. And her beauty just psyches you out. You get anxious, and within seconds talk yourself out of opening her at all.
And you end up just standing there with your dick in your hand thinking about her. And the night’s over!
Be Social With Everyone!
Instead, you need to talk to ALL the girls in the room, pretty OR ugly!
That way you can build MOMENTUM for getting into a sociable, talkative, and positive state.
To do that, you have to forget about the hotties, and start saying hello to EVERYONE.
Because when you open the ugly girls too, you learn to be chilled out, unreactive, indifferent, and positive with ALL sets of girls, including the hot ones.
And I really do mean ALL the girls.
By talking to everyone, you meet unexpected people… and sometimes girls that make up in sexual attitude what they lack in just looks.
Some guys operate on the 0 to 1 scale where “0” she’s not doable, and “1” she IS doable.
Well, even for women you’d rate an unfuckable “0” and you have zero attraction for, you still need to be opening THAT girl too.
P.S. And I give you exactly WHAT to say to spark hard attraction in my program Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control AND also how to generate an endless amount of material so that you’re never at a loss of words.
…Because talking to all the ugly chicks is actually what makes you attractive to the HOT ones.
The Gold Digger Analogy
For example, who is the most attractive woman at a social party?
Wanda, the gold digger, is ONLY interested in meeting the RICHEST man in the room. She has approach anxiety for Mr. Richie Rich, and when she talks to him she’s all needy for his approval.
Is that the most attractive woman at the party?
Because when you’re only interested in the most beautiful girls, you’re effectively just like a gold digger.
Or is the most attractive woman the one who is positive, open, and talking with all the guys? The girl who’s approachable, smiling, is happy to meet you and say hello? The woman who isn’t seeking anything, but she’s to ALL possibilities and not just digging the pockets of the richest guy in the room for his cash?
That sociable, talkative, positive girl who’s energy is open and free is going to be far more attractive… and in a roundabout way, attract the wealthy men too.
So as a man, you don’t want to be the “looks digger”, who is only distracted by the most beautiful women in the room. Instead, be that guy, who talks to ALL the women. THAT is what will get you noticed by the hotties.
And not only does that build your social momentum, but it allows you to have more FUN, meet new and unexpected people, and it’s the psychologically healthy way to go about game.