From a very young age, women are introduced to the fantasy of the romance novel. Romance novels provoke and subconsciously fuel young women’s passions. Romance novels make up HALF of all the books sold in the Western Hemisphere, diligently pounding a particular image of the romantic ideal man into the minds of women.
Although a fictional archetype, this kind of man is deeply ingrained inside a woman’s psyche to the point where if she comes across a man displaying a combination of these qualities, she cannot help but become insatiably curious or aroused.
You can now begin to install and develop the following archetype of the Ideal Lover within yourself.
Ideal Lover Traits: Danger, Adventure, & Aggression
The Ideal Lover, although he might be willing to defend and protect her, is not always readily available. He has his own life – one of adventure and danger. The brief moments he spends with her are hot and passionate. His lack of availability makes him a rare treat that she makes time for, putting her other duties and obligations temporarily aside.
The Ideal Lover stands up for himself and her feelings, respecting others and demanding respect in return. Ironically, he displays childlike qualities – impulsiveness, authenticity, and playfulness.
He is his own man who has created his own persona, and does not follow the crowd. He effortlessly stands out from others through a distinguishing and alluring style, yet remains vague and mysterious, always holding back just a little, never revealing everything. He is in a class of his own and unlike other men, cannot be conveniently categorized.
The Ideal Lover is charismatic, exhibiting freedom. He is self-confident in a non-detached, non-disinterested way, radiating raw sexual energy, and always maintaining his sense of purpose.
The Ideal Lover is aware that women’s sexual inner selves are harshly repressed by society’s expectations of the roles she has to play – the roles of being a daughter, worker, wife, and mother.
Women fantasize about the Ideal Lover because with him, he allows her to totally release herself from the mundane limitations of her life, paying careful attention to her inner most fantasies and desires and then artfully fulfilling them.
The Ideal Lover pays attention solely to her pleasure, knowing that if he satisfies and pleasures her, he will get his. He gets away from his own needs, wants, and desires, paying complete attention to the individual needs, wants, and fantasies of the unique woman right in front of him.
Deep Trance Identifying the Ideal Lover
Women are very sharp in that they pick up on very subtle signals that you emit. So it’s to your advantage to emit the same subtle signals of a good lover.
Deep Trance Identification is a process by which you teach your unconscious mind to model unconscious signals in other people, including traits, skills, and in some cases abilities that would otherwise be unnoticeable to you. By practicing this in trance your unconscious will learn to identify with this person so deeply that the characteristics you’re looking for will become part of you, giving you the feeling that you’ve always possessed these traits, skills, and abilities.
The Ideal Lover Transformer exercise uses this principle of deep trance identification to help turn you into an exceptional lover on a very deep level. You don’t have to take any notes or study anything. You simply choose who you want to model, do the exercise correctly, and you get the results.
Do it daily for the next thirty days, keeping a journal to record the results you will experience. Writing entries in a journal afterward make the experiences more concrete and real to your unconscious, as if they really happened.
The Ideal Lover Transformer Exercise
Do the Deep Relaxation Exercise to completely relax…
Begin to imagine the “Ideal Lover” archetype described in the previous section titled “The Romantic Ideal Archetype”.
Notice how he moves… how he feels… what his thoughts might be… what his energy is like… how he conducts himself… how he behaves around a woman…
- Now, begin to imagine that this person appears about five feet right in front of you… as you….
- Imagine now that you step out of your body and into his… almost as if you become this person… adopting all the unconscious signals and traits he has… morph yourself into this person… while you look at the world from his perspective… how you now move… how you now feel… what your thoughts are… what your energy is now like… how you are conducting yourself… how you handle yourself around a woman… and interestingly… how you find women reacting and responding to you.
- Now notice how you feel… and allow the feeling to circulate throughout your entire body… from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet… and back up to your head and into every cell of your body…
- Now when you are fully satisfied that these behaviors are programmed into your unconscious mind… and become a part of who you are… go ahead and mentally count yourself out of trance by saying “Now I will count from one to five… and when I do… I will awaken… feeling much better than I have ever felt before… understanding that anytime I want to acquire the skills and the abilities of any person… I can go inside… and… program them… inside my mind… whenever I choose… counting now… 1… 2… 3… 4…and… 5.
- Slowly open your eyes.
Interactive Attribute Installation
How would feel to be able to covertly uncover and install in yourself the traits of the dream lover of any woman you’re talking to?
You have already learned to install the key attributes that women respond to. Now you will learn how to extract and add to your repertoire the specific qualities she uniquely looks for in an exceptional lover.
In your conversation with a woman, introduce the topic of lovers, and the qualities you think a good lover should have. After introducing this, ask her about the actual qualities and characteristics she feels MUST be there in her ideal lover. She’ll be very impressed that you asked her about such an important area of her life. Be quiet and let her answer as she searches inside herself for an answer.
Get from her two or three attributes of her ideal lover. Don’t ask her a barrage of questions one after another however; weave them naturally into your conversation. If you’re confused about something she says, get more detail by asking, “What do you mean by that?” or “Can you give me an example?” Pay very close attention to what she says and how she responds. Agree with what she values, it will make her feel understood by you.
Once you know her preferred attributes in an exceptional lover, you can install them into your unconscious using the techniques you’ve learned so far in this section. By you becoming this type of man, she will have no choice but to become attracted to someone like you.
Super Accelerating Your Change
Once you’ve practiced hypnotically installing the attributes of the Legendary Lover in yourself, you can follow up with the Chakra Intensifier to super-accelerate your rate of change.
We’ve included some references to Chakra lore. We’re not going to attempt to explain the Chakras as many other books will explain it to you. Whether the Chakras are “true” or not does not matter. What matters is that your unconscious mind accepts the Chakra experience as a “construct” it can use to achieve the goal of accelerating your rate of change. In time, you will find the Chakra Intensifier to be an extremely powerful tool.
Remember, the Chakra Intensifier is not an exercise in itself, it is meant to intensify and make permanent any gain resulting from the other exercises in this book.
The Chakra Intensifier Exercise
- At the conclusion of any previous exercise, STAY in trance.
- Notice the feeling you have, (for example, the feeling of Playfulness you’re installing from one of the attribute installation exercises).
- Take a deep breath as you allow this feeling to accumulate with all of your concentration and intent at the top of your head, silver in color. Allow the feeling to simmer there for about 30 seconds.
- As you allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, silver in color.
- Take another deep breath as the feeling now accumulates, with all your physical concentration and intent, at the midpoint of the eyebrows, purple in color. Leave your attention there and allow the feeling to simmer for about 30 seconds.
- Take another deep breath to allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, purple in color.
- Take another deep breath as the feeling now accumulates, with all your concentration and intent at a point in the middle your throat, blue in color. Become aware of the air passing through, leaving your consciousness there and allow the feeling to simmer for about 30 seconds.
- Take another deep breath as you allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, blue in color.
- Take another deep breath as the feeling now accumulates, with all your concentration and intent at a point in the middle center of your chest, green in color. Breathe from this place as you allow the feeling to simmer there for about 30 seconds.
- Take another deep breath as you allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, green in color.
- Take another deep breath as the feeling now accumulates, with all your concentration and intent at the point of your solar plexus, gold in color. Allow the feeling to simmer there for about 30 seconds.
- Take another deep breath as you allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, gold in color.
- Take another deep breath as the feeling now accumulates, with all your concentration and intent at a point at your naval, orange in color. Allow the feeling to simmer there for about 30 seconds.
- Take another deep breath as you allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, orange in color.
- Take another deep breath as the feeling now accumulates, with all your concentration and intent in your perineum (the area of skin between your scrotum and your anus), red in color. Allow the feeling to simmer there for about 30 seconds.
- Take another deep breath as you allow your “aura” or energy field to expand in all directions, red in color… imagine roots growing from your legs, rooting both you and the feeling into the ground.
- Take another deep breath in as you now imagine a cord of silver light coming down from the heavens, into the top of your head, traveling down your body, cleansing and balancing all of your Chakra points.
- Take another deep breath as you allow all the energy you’ve stirred up to permeate your being, enter every pore of every cell, and expand outward with your aura in a silver color… as you then…
- Mentally say to yourself, “Now I am going to count from one to five… and as I count from one to five, I will awaken, alive, refreshed, and feeling much better than before… 1… 2… 3… 4… 5.”