My 4 Fast Rules For Touching Girls

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Talking a girl’s ear off may make her “like” you, but it does NOT make her HOT for you!

If you want a girl to get horny, you’ve got to touch her.  Here are my 4 rules to guarantee you can touch a girl without resistance!

Rule #1. Touch Her Recklessly

A Reckless Rake does what he wants without permission.

He takes action “making his move”, damn the consequences.

When getting physical, don’t wait for the girl’s approval.  Don’t wait for her to “like you” first.

Don’t half-ass touching her, “hoping” it builds attraction.

Don’t be a “nice guy” who feels like he needs to wait for the girl’s permission to be the alpha guy.

Lead! Touch her right away, even if she isn’t 100% “ready”.

Because the bad boy who is physical without apology is the man that wins the game.

If you don’t care, SHE won’t care.

And when you touch her right away and touch her often, it will be natural for her too.

In fact, counter intuitively, touching a girl scrambles her brain and pulls DOWN her “bitch shield defenses”, NOT raise them.

Touch Rule #2: Be Unreactive!

When touching a girl, have a complete disregard for the girl’s reactions.

You’re not looking for her approval, nor are you looking for a “good response” from her.

How she responds, positive or negative, doesn’t make a lick of a difference to you.  Her state does not affect your state.

A reactive guy will touch the girl once, and then become so concerned about whether the girl “liked it” or not, that he doesn’t touch her again!

Instead, stand by your touching without apology, no matter how she reacts to you.  In your reality, touching is what you do with ALL girls, regardless of their reactions, regardless of the girl.

Remember, seduction isn’t about “making the girl like you”, or winning her approval.  Seduction is about creating TENSION, and ALSO getting her horny with your touch.   So be unreactive.

Touch Rule #3. Trust in Your Actions

Trust in your own actions.  Trust that every move you make is the right move for that moment, because everything YOU do is fucking cool!

You trust in taking bold actions and pushing the boundaries.

You trust that everything you do IS good game because it’s coming from such a cool guy – yourself!

Rule #4. Touch Her Right Away

Touch a woman right away with a hug or a handshake, and steadily escalate.

If you stay in conversation land and do nothing but talk, the weirder it’s going to feel as time passes, until the girl walks off.

After all, how long can you talk a girl’s ear off?  20 minutes??  40 minutes??

If you never touch her, you end up “entertaining” her to keep the conversation going…. until it dies.

Worse, if you wait to first touch her 20 minutes into the conversation, and THEN you suddenly “lay your hands on her of nowhere”, you’ll creep her out.

Because it’s like you were pretending to be the “nice guy” for the first 20 minutes to “make her like you”, and only THEN once you felt you had her permission to go further, only then did you start touching her.

And girls don’t like that because it’s like you suddenly “changed personalities” halfway through.

Instead, when you touch a girl from the very beginning, the more normal the touching AND the conversation is going to feel to her.

The alpha man’s handshake.

When you touch a girl right away, she feels in her gut that you’re a sexual man and a possible sexual partner, and not just a friend or “buddy”.

And once a woman feels physical contact is there from the beginning, she will accept whatever you do, because girls fundamentally like touch!

And once touched, girls want more touch.  That’s when roles can reverse and she tackles YOU!

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122 thoughts on “My 4 Fast Rules For Touching Girls”

  1. Derek Gorman

    I am sorry, Jesse, but I cannot help feeling that your “bad boy” advice could get any guy in hot water, with the law very fast!

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  2. Mark

    I totally agree with the touch thing. However one time I got laid in Thailand just by doing absolutely nothing. I went by myself to a British pub just to get a beer and relax. I got into a conversation with a guy from Australia and he invited me to join him and about 10 of his friends at another bar. So I was sitting with 11 horny guys from Australia at an outside bar and there was a ridiculously hot girl that walked by. My new friend knew her and virtually all the guys were trying to talk to her. I just sat watching minding my own business when the girl notices me and asks my name. I told her it was Mark and suddenly to my shock and amazement she comes over to me and says “I’m with Mark”. I almost fell off my chair and my Australian friend gets really mad and walks off in a huff, followed by his 10 friends. So now I’m alone with the mind bending hot girl so I start touching her on the knee. She asks me if I want to go to her place and so I ended up spending the night with her. I really have no idea why she picked me except that I was being quiet and reserved- go figure…

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  4. Buster Hyman

    One thing that brought me to 91 all the way vaginal penetration conquests is Long Hair. A similar principle to Touch and Peacocking is at work here – basically a combination. With long hair, the girls with come right up to you just to Touch It. You’re getting them to Close You. It’s Opening with a Close.

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  5. Samuel claesson

    Im meeting a girl tomorrow, in we are gonna see a scary movie, She Will take the buss and It takes 10-15 minutes to go from the buss to me, its cold outside, so what am i going to do? Start off holding her and then slowly slip into her panties or am i going to wait untill i come hon with her and started the movie?

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  6. julie

    I would hate it if some guy I didn’t like touched me. You shouldn’t even try unless you know she likes you. Otherwise prepare for a quick exit and humiliation. Honestly you game guys are silly dorks.

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  10. Anish Singh

    My mom already convinced me that if I like a girl she will rather hate me.
    And she gave me examples of guys that got into a lot of trouble(even legal) for touching girls.
    This has risen a lot of insecurity that can’t I touch any girl?

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  11. pac

    i’m so mch in luv wit knowin hw to satisfy a woman, knowin her erogenous parts, knowin hw to touch in d right places, and also d words to use while in mood……. And please i want you guys to help me wit solution to d above ….

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  12. pac

    i’m so mch in luv wit knowin hw to satisfy a woman, knowin her erogenous parts, knowin hw to touch in d right places, and also d words to use while in mood

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  17. sam

    Right on Jesse! I have wasted so much time trying to be nice, and it is exactly as you say, if you wait to long to touch, then when you do, it creeps her out more. I am really enjoying expanding my touching cause it feels good to act, whether she likes it or not. It is so much better than standing there thinking about touching her. What a relief to hear this from you!

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  19. Anonymous

    first you cant be awkward around girls to do any of these and the point is that most guys are awkward around girls because most girls don’t seem to care or simply make him feel like on job interview or something :/

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      1. Anonymous

        Ha- not true! When I was 55 (4 years ago) I got laid in bogota by a SUPER hot girl in her early 20’s. I look around late 30’s or early 40’s and quite honestly I look far better than most guys in their 20’s. I would never let them know my real age though- I’m sure that would creep them out. However I have no desire to

  25. Anonymous

    I did this at a wine party went up to the hottest girl (to me) and started talking and touching her just on the arm at first and ignored her responses just acted like its no big deal. After a while I just turned and started talking to another girl I knew and the first girl comes up and says lets go to your room! We did and I was shocked how easy it was! I am also her senior by 20 years.

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  26. Tom

    Don’t try that in Thailand. You need to understand cultural differences DO make a difference before you give blanket advise. But, generally you advise, as always, is spot on.

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  28. Sej

    You guys misinterpret everything Jesse said. He did “say touch right away”, but you guys need to be smart about it. Even if you knew a woman, that doesn’t mean you have to grope her on the spot. Woman are sometimes .hard to figure out. U might get a bitch slap. It doesn’t matter if it’s in ur workplace or club, as long as you have a great sense of humor… U can be a Cassanova.
    My boss is a pain in the ass, she gets on Everyone’s nerves. One day, she wore a slutty dress to work on Friday. She supposed to hit the club that night. Since she was staying late, she came like that and didn’t have to go home and change. I couldn’t help but gazing at her almost exposed breasts which gave me a raging hard on. I could feel the blood flow rushing up to my brain and down to my shaft. So, I went To her office and asked her if she needed anything on purpose. When she said no i fake a surprising look and I was like. “Boss, u definitely have to come to work like that, everyone envy u now” she was like” I know that’s why im the boss”. Then, before she could say anything else. I grabbed her hand and spin her around… Saying nice stuff abut her curves and all that crap while touching her. Guess what?.. I fucked her In her office that night…caveman style!!
    I wanted to neg her, but I could have lose me job! She had ego and I used it against her by being stealthy and humorous. Jesse said to neg, but you have to be humorous and friendly. Woman are very sensitive and need attentions. If u see a girl, don’t touch her without saying anything. Use something about her to touch her like her clothes, jewelries, shoes, etc. best way to touch a woman first is her hands. Then somewhere around her face.. Like slightly put her hair behind her ears( women love that).
    oh! There z a hint that always work for me. Before I talk to a gurl, I always say to myself..”I’m the shit! This is my night and that booty is mine tonight!” This shit always being me confidence. Good luck guys!

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  29. Sej

    You guys misinterpret everything Jesse said. He did “say touch right away”, but you guys need to be smart about it. Even if you knew a woman, that doesn’t mean you have to grope her on the spot. It doesn’t matter if it’s in ur workplace or club, as long as you have a great sense of humor… U can be a Cassanova.
    My boss is a pain in the ass, she gets on Everyone’s nerves. One day, she wore a slutty dress to work on Friday. She supposed to hit the club that night. Since she was staying late, she came like that and didn’t have to go home and change. I couldn’t help but gazing at her almost exposed breasts which gave me a raging hard on. I could feel the blood flow rushing up to my brain and down to my shaft. So, I went To her office and asked her if she needed anything on purpose. When she said no i fake a surprising look and I was like. “Boss, u definitely have to come to work like that, everyone envy u now” she was like” I know that’s why im the boss”. Then, before she could say anything else. I grabbed her hand and spin her around… Saying nice stuff abut her curves and all that crap while touching her. Guess what?.. I fucked her In her office that night…caveman style!!
    I wanted to neg her, but I could have lose me job! She had ego and I used it against her by being stealthy and humorous. Jesse said to neg, but you have to be humorous and friendly. Woman are very sensitive and need attentions. If u see a girl, don’t touch her without saying anything. Use something about her to touch her like her clothes, jewelries, shoes, etc. best way to touch a woman first is her hands. Then somewhere around her face.. Like slightly put her hair behind her ears( women love that).
    oh! There z a hint that always work for me. Before I talk to a gurl, I always say to myself..”I’m the shit! This is my night and that booty is mine tonight!” This shit always being me confidence. Good luck guys!

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  36. Dave

    I used to avoid touching the girls I newly met and thought this could show me as a very polite and nice guy.
    But what it actually did was putting me into the friend zone and even if we started a relationship,I was actually put in a non-sexual one.something like a sexless zone.
    Then I started touching and found out,damn,it’s going to move everything faster than ever and get us to the point that she couldn’t resist the touch.

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  37. Mark

    Really helpful rules
    but I gotta ask something
    I got a friend whom I touched her ass quite a number of times. She only complained once when a few people saw what I did.
    Also if she didn’t complain, she would just look at me and talk as if nothing has happened.

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    1. Dave

      I suggest you talk about that with her:
      1.Grab her ass!
      2.Tell her,”A nice ass you got”!
      work perfectly.Trust me 😉

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      1. Mark

        Alright, I’ll do it.
        but would it be okay to tell her that after I touched her for like 8 times now?

  40. Sat

    Is this part of Blissnosis? If I buy Blissnosis then “nonverbal sexual mind control” is given along with it or ‘ve to buy it separately?

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  42. John

    Hi,

    I am touching the ass of a lady but I cant ask her if she wants to go to bed with me, she does not mind me touching her ass , can I try to touch her pussy too or front part of her legs ?? How can I make sure that she realises I want her in the bed ? Any help pls ?

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  43. Nizz

    Hey guys.so what do u do when you touch her then she pulls back??well you would swear she’s enjoying and when you ask her,is there something wrong then she kisses you..but when you touch her she pullz back..AND SHE TELLS YOU SHE’S AFRAID TO FEEL OR GET HORNY..WHAT DO YOU DO??

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  44. Karma

    Nice, but basically you’re saying
    1) Touch her, don’t care
    2) Touch her, don’t care
    3) Touch her, don’t care
    4) Touch her, don’t care

    I wish you had provided ways to ‘escalate’. Like, what do I do after I shake her hand or hug her. There is a ton of kino escalation material out there, but I’d love to read *your* material.

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  47. detail

    yea does this work on someone you’ve known for awile im just woundering because if you’ve known them for awile then they probally wont feel the same affect because they will know that that is not your normal personality just woundering 🙂

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  50. R

    “because girls fundamentally like touch!”

    Eh, I don’t think that’s true. I’ve personally seen this backfire horrifically. Apparently some girls have issues about personal space etc and this can be super offensive and a huge turn off.

    But other than that, really good points!

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    1. Corey

      Girls who have issues about being touched (not groped, but touched) probably have issues about sex itself, in which case, you haven’t lost anything by touching her since she wasn’t going to sleep with you anyway. If anything, you saved your time by finding out early on if she’s down.

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  51. joel

    I think you are right on the mark with THIS message of Girls love touching(even tho they say otherwise!)-B/T/W your pics that you include in each message are Good too!.
    .Keeep it up the re-education of what us men are doing wrong..

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  52. Sir Chival Regal

    So what did Jack Nicholson, who plays a author in the film “As Good as it gets” say to the female intern when questioned on how he writes women?? “I think of a man , and remove reason and accountability”

    If what you say is also true, then women who used to be shielded in olden days, can NEVER be Liberated in today’s world, since they are just prey to all of us rational raving wolves. They truly have no defense against us.

    Sad…………

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  53. Alpha Joke

    Great procedure! Works well with girls who I haven’t met e ver in my life…but would it work on a fiance’s sibling? Ooo, that oughta pick your noodle.

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  55. Brittney

    I disagree Paris…the science behind it must be true…If the first thing a guy does is touch me casually even if somewhat awkwardly in some cases it’s like my brain get’s scrambled and reasoning about his looks, whether he’s charming, successful or smart go straight out the door…and my body just takes charge. There isn’t even any regret either. I have pretty high standards about the guys that I date but any guy who has touched me no matter his looks and I ended up sleeping with him…no regrets..that touching has a lasting effect…

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  56. Paris

    I’m just saying from a girl’s perspective, I’d love if my bf was this forceful, but if it is a hideous guy or a guy I’m not in the least bit attracted to, and he so dared as to touch me in any way, I’d have my foot up his ass and a fist up his nose before he could scamper away. If she isn’t responding to you or giving you ANY INDICATION of liking you, deal with it and move on.

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    1. Corey

      “If she isn’t responding to you or giving you ANY INDICATION of liking you, deal with it and move on.”

      Signs of interest are irrelevant. Girls will feign interest in a guy because they enjoy his attention even though they have no intention of having sex with him (i.e. friendzoning). Girls will also feign disinterest to see if the guy is man enough to escalate on her (i.e. shit testing).

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    1. JT

      It’s not about being a bad guy or a jerk. Whatever you bring to the table is you responsibility. This is about communication! Nonverbal wins over verbal all the time!

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  59. Boobsie Collins

    Hm. I’ll let you know if these really work when I come back from the local lesbian bar. If it works as well for a woman as it does a man, I think you’ve got something.

    If not, well… *shrug*

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  60. Justin

    You definitely know the game. Talking definitely falls flat after few minutes. I love your writing and content. Very clear and very on point. Keep up the good work.

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  61. Haves

    I agree because a hot girl was texting in da carpark and I walked up to her from behind and gently squiezzed her bum then she asked me why did you do that for I said because I really like you And she said to me that was a bit rude but she liked it

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  62. ken

    Jessy is right! Make contact physical with a women, make at easy to have sex with you. Take action.. handshake, high five,toching playfull. And do not ask permission. Women loved! And men do always wear nice close, and smell nice.

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    1. Jesse Charger

      Take her hands… her leg… the key is to take a leadership position of taking action without asking for permission. And girls will let you get away with a lot if you lead

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  66. Tony

    My sticking point is how to touch and to smoothly escalate. For example when you aren’t sitting close enough to the girl to casually touch her.I had this situation the other day. I was doing well with this girl, positive body language,I had already shaken her hand before so their was some some touch already.I approached her in the library and she suggested we go outside to talk.Once outside I sat us down and we started talking again. She ended up siting a little out of arms reach from me so I couldn’t touch her casually to emphasize points. My question is how can I prevent that from happening or is there a way to scoot closer to her so I can get touch going while not telegraphing neediness or insecurity. I did eventually get her number and the initial few texts back from her were really positive. I’m just starting out on my journey to become good with women and to become a strong dominant guy. Any help would be appreciated.

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    2. Navy Chief

      🙄 Dude, it might be real hard to be strong and dominating if you are smoothly escalating… Make your move and move in – CLOSE. Let your body language do the talking for you, and just watch her reactions to get you answer. Then move IN or move on… ➡

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  67. jacob

    Jesse is the MAN.He is 100% right touching turns girls on and makes them like you.I think you create an emotional and physical bond with the woman when you touch her.Sexual intercourse also creates an emotional bond.Touching,kissing and telling a woman you like her makes her horny and want to have sex with you or even fall in love with you.

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    1. Nizz

      Hey guys.so what do u do when you touch her then she pulls back??well you would swear she’s enjoying and when you ask her,is there something wrong then she kisses you..but when you touch her she pullz back..AND SHE TELLS YOU SHE’S AFRAID TO FEEL OR GET HORNY..WHAT DO YOU DO??

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    2. JT

      Laughed because deep down she knows it is true, but doesn’t want to admit it. She believes she is too sophisticated! LOL

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  69. Goplay

    I have taken out my office secretary on a date, and slept with her regularly after that. Now, whenever I try to check out a new girl in office, my old girl gets possessive about me or gets annoyed. How to keep having sex with the old girl as well as the new girl?

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  70. givens m

    no ,the consequences have chances of being fatal like 6/10 if you can get away uhhhh James Bond could hardly get away with miss money penny even if he was licenced to kill , for example destroyed half the shrubland convalscent for a simple reason

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  71. Kevin

    I believe this works, but u have got to have humour too.. this lets the girls lower resistance and then when the touching comes it creates a maximum impact.

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  73. marty

    You are not mentioning location. Do this at work/school and you can get fired, suspended or get your company sued. So do you recommend this for where? Bars and clubs?

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      1. Jonathan

        Hey jesse at school theres.this hot chick I like and when I touched her she looked like she was gonna scream rape. But fuck it. Im gonna follow your advice and touch her anyway. Ill keep you uodated…..

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