The fact is, any red-blooded 85 year old man would make love to a teenage, 18 year-old girl if given half the chance and given her blessing.
And yes, it’s perfectly NORMAL to desire far younger women.
Any guy who says, “Oh I wouldn’t ever sleep with an 18 year old,” is either lying out of fear of being judged, or because societal reprogramming tells him to react that way.
Because from a biological standpoint, men are driven to mate with the most sexually fertile women.
And women are most sexually fertile when they hit puberty at around age 14, and continuing into their early 20s.
As a man, you’re programmed over millions of years to be attracted to young women coming right into puberty, with their budding breasts and widening hips.
And most men, regardless of their age, are exclusively attracted to younger women.
You’re not going to see Hugh Hefner cavorting with 40 year olds, even though he’s over 80.
So it doesn’t make you “bad” or “creepy” to desire far younger women. Men have always secretly desired very young women and they always will, regardless of what others think of it.
Yet many will label an older man “a pervert” for even admitting he’s attracted to younger girls.
That’s ridiculous.
Advertisers rub hyper-sexualized, young women into our faces non-stop to sell products, and then society tells us it’s wrong and shameful to admit our desire for them.
If 18 year-old girls were attractive back when you were 18, why wouldn’t you still be attracted to them because you’re 40? Or 60? …or 80!
So ignore those who think there’s something wrong with being sexually attracted to younger women, even ‘barely legal’ women. It’s both natural and normal to sexually desire them, and you shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed by your natural desires as a man.
Instead, EMBRACE your God-given sexual desires and embrace your male sexuality. Make no apologies to anyone for it!
What Younger Girls Really Think About Older Men
And here’s why, as an older man, you can actually pick up younger women, far younger women like 15 or even 25 years younger than yourself, and why women actually like, and in many cases are looking for, older men.
Or when if you’re a younger guy, say 25 and you are attracted to that 18 year old hottie, you shouldn’t be self-conscious about going for her, or even if you’re 35 or 45 you can make it work.
In fact, it’s very normal for hot young girls to date older guys. And most women are dating or are married to older guys, and sometimes much older guys. This is fact. This is reality.
Because the attraction switches are different for women than it is for men. We’re looking for youth, appearance, looks in women. But women are attracted to a myriad of factors. They’re looking for a guy you leads, who can get physical with them which means your confident, and they’re looking for indications of status and power.
And looking older, particularly if you are still eating healthy and you workout and look halfway decent, is an indication to women of status and power. Age indicates maturity and decision making ability. And women are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability, and emotional maturity.
And every woman’s secret wish is to be taken care of. I don’t mean just economically, but to find a guy that unconditionally loves her, is faithful to her, gives her attention, and is dedicated to her and making the relationship playful, fun, and make it work.
And that’s not something most younger guys are really in a position to do. Younger guys are still sleeping around, aren’t faithful, aren’t into self-development or figuring out how to make relationships work. So most young girls are very disappointed in their relationships with young men. It’s full of drama and disappointment.
And these young girls feel an older man won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.
Why Young Girls Are Easier
And most older guys who are say 25 to 50 years old think of younger women as being age 25 to 30 or so. But actually, the very, very younger girls like ages 18 to 22 are sometimes the MOST attractive to older men.
In fact, a girl in her early 20’s is often easier to game than a girl in her late 20’s or early 30’s.
Because a 21 year old girl is just out to have fun, she’s looking to have new experience, and dating a much older man is just another one of those experiences she’s looking to have. She’s in that experimental age and she wants to explore.
But by the time a woman hits 30 and she’s still single, she’s feeling that biological clock ticking. They feel the pressure that they’re not so young anymore and that their beauty is fading. A woman is 29 or 30 or 31 is looking more for a man who’s closer to her own age because she’s more desperate now to settle down and get married and have kids.
So actually, if you’re an in-shape 45 year old, you can actually get more interest in many case from a woman who is 21, as opposed to a woman who is 31 who feels her youth slipping away and is more resistant to older men.
And as far as the younger girls, you know some of these girls ONLY want a guy their own age.
BUT these girls tend to not be as feminine and have lower sex drives. The more sexually open, sexually driven, crazy-for-experimentation driven, and hyper feminine and sexual girls tend to go for older men and bad boys. They tend to like older guys, and that type of young girls also is much better in bed.
So usually you have better luck with the more feminine, hyper sexual girls than the young girl who is more frumpy and unfeminine.
Older Men Are Better For Younger Women
And really, objectively, younger women are generally better off with older men.
You’ve got more to offer her. Maybe you can’t have sex 3 times a day like you did when you were 21, but you offer stability, wisdom, comfort, meaningful companionship, more varied sex… far more so than a young guy who isn’t developed.
In fact, studies show that the relationships that last, and marriages that are least likely to end in divorce, is when the woman is 10 to 15 years younger than the man. When the woman is 10 to 15 years younger than the man, relationships tend to be more stable.
So if you’re an older guy, and you take care of yourself physically, you’ve actually got some big advantages when it comes to getting far younger girls and you’re most likely a better fit for a younger girl than a boy her own age.
So don’t feel shy or shameful about desiring or seeking out younger women, it’s perfectly natural, good for you, and good for the girls too.
Older Guys – Avoid Being The “Nice Guy”!
Older guys especially get wrapped up in doing “Nice guy game” with younger women.
Nice guy game is looking for indicators of interest from the girl before you’ll talk to her or move forward.
Nice guy game is looking for permission to do anything with the girl.
Nice guy game is being too much of a sweet, sweet grandfatherly gentlemen to the girl.
Nice guy game is all light conversation, asking her questions, but there’s very little conversational leading or getting physical or touching the girl.
Nice guy game is all about reacting to the girl instead of physically leading the girl, or leading the conversation.
Nice guy game is all about trying to impress the girl by not doing anything wrong, instead of not giving a fuck what the girl thinks.
Nice guy game is all about being super friendly with a big smile on your face… but in a supplicating, kiss-her-ass kind of way.
And that’s the problem with older guys in particular, is that they’re too nice, they’re too permission seeking, they’re too approval seeking, they’re conversational but not physical, they’re looking too much for permission and IOIs to escalate or continue.
And they’re just that nice older man to talk to, but ultimately kind of boring to a younger girl because it’s too much like their Dad and not enough like a bad boy.
Basically, you have to run the same game at 35, at age 45, at age 55, at age 65, as if you were the bad boy kid at age 25. The game doesn’t change based on your age when you’re hitting younger girls.
And that’s why there’s really no special “trick” or line or routine for an older guy to pickup younger girls. Because this is a strictly inner game issue.
You’re not going to find any lines or outer game routines that makes it okay for you to approach younger girls. It’s all core attitude, beliefs, entitlement, vibe, and manhood that attracts both younger women and older women to you.
Don’t look for IOIs either
Particularly this waiting for permission or waiting for IOIs from the younger girl will just sink you completely.
And that’s because, although younger women are attracted to older guys for what they can provide, like more maturity and experience and status and power, younger girls will generally NOT approach you or give you indicators of interest of permission. They make you do ALL the work.
And that’s because what holds a younger woman back, is not what she thinks of you being an older man, but fear of judgment from her friends and peers.
In the same way women fear being labeled sluts if they like to have sex, so they don’t act overtly sexual, they don’t want to be labeled negatively by their friends if they blatantly go after an older man by giving him all sorts of IOI signals to come on over.
So younger girls will generally HIDE their interest from older men for fear of being judged, even though it’s something they’d secretly like to try.
That’s why, as an older man, the ball is completely in YOUR court to go up and talk to the girl, to lead the conversation, and to lead her physically because the much younger girl will in general do nothing to help you. It’s all on you, and being the super nice guy, waiting for permission, light conversation man will generally get you nowhere with younger women.
This doesn’t seem like good advice…I’m a 25 yo girl interested in older men because of the things you stated earlier in the article: no drama, stability and power. But then the article later tells you to be dishonest and play games. Definitely nothing wrong with being a “nice guy.” In fact, I feel incredibly horny specifically if I know an older guy is nervous around me because it makes me feel special-like the hottest he’ll ever have. I like watching them sweat. Even better if I feel in control in that way, and then once you finally get intimate, he surprises you and takes control and completely switches roles. So, idk. Maybe this advice works for some but I’d be willing to bet a lot of women feel the same as I do.
I would like to read about younger men chasing after older women or should I say – cougars.
In my opinion, most younger women are going to be interested in older men who have:
– charm
– money
– swagger
– experience with talking, sleeping, etc. with women in general
– high paying jobs or successful businesses that are worth $100K or above
– great health
– younger appearances despite of their ages
If an older or middle-aged man does not have any of the things I have mentioned, he would have a hard time in attracting younger women.
Thank you for writing this awesome post. I was feeling down today in the morning and then I read your post. All of a sudden I was looked at differently by a lot of 18 year olds – in an awesome way. I will reread this more often.
Good article! I am a 92 year old man, and i am dating a 17 year old girl (legal in my state)! It is great!
Then who’s the little boy in your profile picture???
Sir you are great, any idea
I am a 40-year-old white guy, about a year out of a mostly sexless, 13-year marriage with a woman my own age. I started the online dating game a few months ago, again, looking around my same age, and ignoring my desire to hit up the beautiful young women, 18-24, for fear of being called a creep, a perv, etc…
One day, I said, screw it, I’m going after what I am desiring. I started chatting up the beautiful women I’m dying to be with, particularly young, trim and athletic… which I’m not. In the past month alone I’ve been with three women I thought were WAY out of my league. Two 18-year-olds and a 19-year-old college athlete with a body that would not stop! One of the 18-year-olds is in freaking high school and things are getting serious enough emotionally that we’re considering exclusivity. She is HALF my ex-wife’s age, and when she finds out, I think that might be the greatest revenge of all. It may not last forever, but damn it will be fun while it lasts!
That’s awesome, guy. Way to go! I have the same situation, more or less.
uow, muito bom a sua reflexão Jesse, é verdade que a sociedade meio que condiciona nós homens a acreditar que é errado quando se é mais dos 40 a sair com garotas mais novas por volta dos 18 a 20 anos, e acho isso uma bobagem, como você disse é natural o homem sentir atração por mulheres mais novas, pois está em nossos genes, atrair por mulheres mais férteis e mais novas.
I am a 40 year old in a senior position at work. Recently a young (21) super hot girl applied for a position in our finance department and the fellas were going crazy over her. I admit to suggesting to the finance manager to appoint her (in jest)…and sure as hell she got the position. Not long after I invited her for drinks after work and it was a flirty affair. I knew she was interested when the next morning my secretary said there was a surprise on my desk and winked with a smile. The hotty had bought me a snack and orange juice for breakfast and left it on my desk with a thank you note and a xxx..
Needless to say it went all the way in the weeks to come. Absolutely fantastic!
The original article is spot on. I have 5 or 6 hotties between the ages of 19 and 26 a phone call away. They love status, money and a sense of humour. And boy, at my age they just seem prettier than in 1993. Dont hold back boys. Get in shape and let the good times roll.
Thanks for the story. I have been in a relationship for a year with a beautiful sexy young woman 20 years younger, I’m 44 and she’s 24. You are absolutely right in the fact that we are in different stages of life and it works out great! I keep in shape and look younger so I know that really helps not only with appearances but sexually. She is very interested in my “experience” and is very eager to please me in bed. Thanks again for your story, it has helped reassure me that my desire for her is normal.
I let a 15 year old have it once, beautiful with a super body, next thing I knew she was coming over almost everyday for more lasted 2 years!!
See, that’s you’re not supposed to bone your cousin LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
man I’m dying to smash this 16 years old girl she is 6″ and so hot
I hope this works cause there’s an 18yrs old girl I so want to lay
Just a mere kiss to my lips makes me feel important.. i miss my older guy he’s 58, gentlemen
its true, i don’t know why he’s a magnet to me even thou were not having sex
Cause he wants to duh
I’m a 77 year Englishman. I’ve had very little sexual experience with women. Too much to explain why – basically psychological. When younger, I always mistrusted/misinterpreted the signals women have been giving me. It’s only recently (Last 7 years) that I got an education on the internet. Body language/flirting cues etc. That allowed me to see just what is on offer.
It may sound odd, but I’m regularly getting ‘come on’ from girls in their twenties and younger. Partly its because I don’t hide my admiration of them. Problem is I’m not converting the interest into actual sexual relationships. It’s almost like I know/think, there will be another one along in a short while. And if a girl really comes on strong, it doesn’t work well with me. Sigh!
This website is stuffed with great advice. I have been/am, the ‘nice guy’ You nailed that!!!
Thanks!
Now, I’m aware of all the
Jesse! From your experience where is the best place to find the largest number of interested potential female relationships? I would think online but what is your experience say? Thanks in advance!
Men who are older and want to attract young girls, doesn’t have to feel disadvantage being an older man because your maturity, experience of the world, and depth of knowledge is sexy and attractive.
Women half my age act as if they were too old and washed up for me to show any true interest in them. The women I consider too young to be appropriate are precisely the ones who make prolonged eye contact, with pleasant smiles across their faces. They are the ones new to the sexual game and they are out for experience with whom they assume is the best source; the older male. And yes, they want an older male who is in seriously good shape as you’ve stated. And older male with a younger males body. Not many of us around, either. I thought I was too old when I was young. It’s taken me a long time to get all of the deceitful, destructive nonsense that was programmed into me out of my head. When I was very young I thought women were completely screwing with my head when they were out to seriously seduce me. I thought they were playing a game and were going to accuse me of being a sick creep the moment I began to show sexual interest in them so I’d reject them out of hand. It took a long while to understand that they were genuinely interested in sex and in partnering with me in particular. I used to see women rejecting men and wonder why the same woman was so eager to submit to me and none of it made sense to me primarily because I never compared myself to anyone else. I couldn’t see what made me distinct. Now I can. Most of the guys I’ve ever met in life have tried to cut my social standing down to nothing with harshly negative comments. And alot of people happily buy into it. But they are of the same mindset, naturally. I have slept with hundreds of women all around the world. I have had 14 opportunities to marry. I’ve been to Africa, Asia, Alaska, the Carribean, the Greek Islands, Northern Europe, Southern Europe, the Middle East, Latin America, etc. Guys I grew up with who have never been outside of the States and who married women the neighborhood tell me and talk to one another about what a timid creature I supposedly am. When I was a kid they said much worse in an effort to destroy my self esteem out of envy because all of the girls in the neighborhood had the hots for me. I am quite happy to lick the sweet syrupy nectar from 19 year old gash while my peers pay fat alimony to their lying, cheating ex-wives or to the chunky monkeys they haven’t f***ed in a decade. When I see their faces contorted with anger and twisted with envy I simply give them a condescending look which says, “Oh, but you aren’t happy with your life / wife?!” 😉
great comments, thanks for posting Harry
You, sir, are an american hero!
i have seen that some guys just tell something in ears of girls suddenly they fall in love with these guys actually what they are telling please help me i am so sad bcoz i don’t have girlfriend.please tell me how to make them fall in within few moments. i am good looking guy with fair color but i don’t know how to make a girl fall in love
Lift & say fuck Love all together just..play! Literally you will get em faster that way females just want to have fun n play hard in bed. When they arebmiddle aged that’s when the fun goes away and stability is a nisesity I’m only 26 but I have been with women twice my age n I don’t believe playing hard ever goes away.lol 😉
Hi
dat was hilarious!!!
Btw women do love circumcised men …cuz it look prettier and cleaner…. 😀 😀 😀
Not sure where that’s coming from, thanks for the comment tho 😎
Watch onision. Circumsised = ?
Hey Jesse…!!! herez my question
Is uncircumcision help prevent premature ejaculation?? or is being circumcised do help ?? kinda confuse 🙄
hehe, why are you considering to get circumcised so that you can last longer? Seems like an extreme measure… 😯
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good article . I am 65 and looking for dating a girl