Most guys however try to show their interest “indirectly” by hiding it.
So is it most effective to approach a girl “directly” or “indirectly”?
An indirect opener is where you HIDE your sexual intent from the girl. For instance, you use an opinion opener, which goes like,
“Hey girl, I have just a second but I need your opinion on something… do you think these sunglasses look cool on me?”
And then, eventually, LATER, you come around to showing your interest in the girl, only AFTER she’s given you some indicators of interest so that you know that she likes you.
Basically, you’re waiting for the girl to be Lovestruck for you, show intent and IOIs for YOU, before you show any sexual intent to her. That’s what an asexual opener or an opinion opener effectively does.
And guys like that because it’s the “safest” most low risk form of opener. There’s no chance of rejection, because you’re just asking a non-investing question that takes no effort or social risk on the girl’s part to answer.
And you can certainly go that route and still get laid. But there’s a problem with not showing your sexual intent up front.
The Downsides Of Opinion Openers
With an opinion opener, you’re not giving the girl much emotional juice to work off of. It’s just flat. She answers the question.
She’s not going to feel much from you.
If you’re not sexual and horny or in love for the girl, she’s not going to feel anything much for you either. She’s only going to feel what you’re feeling, and if you’re flat and hiding your sexual intent, she’ll have no reason to feel sexual intent back.
And hiding your intent is not FUN. You feel kind of lame and wishy-washy, and unmanly.
Hiding your intent to try to get permission first, to see if the girl likes you or not, just feels lame – and it is lame. If you’re attracted to the girl, be a man and let her know and show your intent first and LEAD. The woman will appreciate that so much more than when you hide it and try to spring your sexual intent on her later.
So get that in Lovestruck or horny feeling for the girl, like she is THE girl in your universe and go up to her. And open directly.
How To Deliver A Direct Compliment Opener In A Way Girls Like
A direct opener is just a compliment opener where you state your desire and sexual intentions directly to the woman.
For example, you say, “Hey, my name is Jesse. And you are an angel.”
Or you just say in a club, “Damn you’re hot.”
Or in a bookstore you can say, “You looked so cute that I had to come and talk to you.”
It’s neutral rapport, relaxed and normal paced, positive and with a smile. And look right into her eyes, laser focused into her eyes.
And if you’re in a club or bar, you can even go more with breaking rapport and opening hard. “Hey! You, yeah you! You are fucking cute, who are you???” So it sounds more accusatory, which will put her into a seeking rapport mode in response.
Go punchy, direct, aggressive, masculine charged, and showing your intent from the get-go.
And if you go in with nothing in your head but to compliment, it will feel spontaneous to YOU and to HER and that’s important – it will feel totally in the moment.
Why Direct Compliment Openers Work Well On Girls
All that beaming energy and core sexual intent inside will be translated through you and she will open right up.
And after the direct compliment, you just cut it out with the compliments and immediately start talking about something else. You just plow on with other stuff. So that she can’t hold onto the compliment or object.
Now, here is why being direct right-off-the-bat and showing your intentions from the first moment can be so effective.
Right away the girl feels the underlying sexual tension. The sexual tension is there and you separate yourself out from the other guys.
You’re making her FEEL something HOT right off the bat, even if she’s not immediately attracted to you yet.
It’s out of the way, the cat’s out of the bag, you’ve done the hard work of breaking it to the girl that you want to fuck her from the first moment so that you don’t have to do it later.
A straight up compliment tells the girl, “Hey I’m not afraid to express my desires as a man, I’m not backing down, and I go for what I want when I see it.”
It sets a sexual frame, conveys that you’re confident, and that you have a sense of entitlement to get what you want.
And now she’s met a man who’s not afraid to express the truth, who is being real with her, who’s not looking for her permission to express himself, a man who makes no apologies for having a Dick.
She’ll feel that sexual tingle because women are inherently, biologically attracted to men to take the lead and act recklessly.
And when you fall in love with her a little bit to be attracted to her, or see her as the mother of your children, or feel that she’s that special one –that is one of the reasons a woman can get attracted so FAST, because she rarely gets that vibe from a guy.
So being direct is the most attractive opener for a girl, whether a bar, club, or bookstore or coffee shop.
Direct Compliment Openers Make YOU Feel Happy Too
And when you express your intent, the serotonin “happy hormone” level in your brain increases. Expressing your sexual intent to a woman makes you feel good and it pumps your state.
But when you go in with just say an opinion opener, and you stop expressing your intent to women, you happy hormone serotonin crashes back to a normal level and you don’t get that rush.
So expressing your intent just makes you feel happy and fucking cool.
And the girl will just get that rush too. You’ll elicit the sexual state in her.
Destroy Your Competition
And you’ll have NO competition because 99% of the guys, even the guys doing pickup with other systems or reading the Internet, are too afraid to project that sexual intent and open with a direct statement of interest or compliment. Instead they just bury and hide their desires, and the girl doesn’t feel anything.
So your competition is WEAK and it’s SO easy to beat these other guys.
Direct openers work even BETTER on beautiful girls, because although beautiful women get hit on, it’s NOT done in this kind of direct, no apologies, totally Lovestruck manner. So they appreciate it even MORE.
You’d think being direct and expressing your intent with a compliment up front would be MORE awkward. But in fact, being direct is LESS awkward. Approaching strong feels on the surface more awkward because it’s more “in the girl’s face” – but it’s actually LESS awkward because it sparks attraction right off the bat and you don’t need to break the news later.
Conversely, using an opinion opener and hiding your intent, on the surface seems easier, less awkward, less risky – but in reality, it causes all sorts of weirdness as the minutes go by, because the girl isn’t into you, she’s not feeling anything from you, and the interaction stales out unless you spring your true desires on the girl which then can seem weird.
You’ve got to let the girl know at some point that you’re a sexual guy and that you like her at some point, she’s got to know that. So, let her know straight away and you just make it so make it so much easier for yourself!
So that’s just a basic primer on how to show masculine sexual intent.
Your mission then, is to start approaching women feeling that intent, that love for her, that sexual urge for her, even if she’s not your type, even if she’s just a 7 or 6 out of 10, and then opening with a direct compliment, and then plowing on with whatever else!