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Hey girls and boys it’s Jesse charger here coming to you from lovely Florida.
In this video I want to talk more about how watching pornography scrambles your brain in a negative way that really decimates your inner game and motivation in terms of meeting real women.
You see after watching porn over a long period of time your brain associates having pleasure with watching porn, and it doesn’t associate anything with real women any longer.
Over time your brain associates having sex with watching porn, it doesn’t associate having sex with real women.
Over time your brain associates your own reproductive success with watching porn, and doesn’t associate reproductive success with real women.
Over time your brain associates sexiness and femininity with watching porn, and begins to associate of boredom with real women.
With time, real women in the real world quit being a sexual turn on, and you only become turned on by porn.
How You Lose Motivation
Porn, in effect, tricks your brain into thinking it’s having all this great sex, and all this reproductive success, watching the computer screen. So much so, that the very idea of all the effort and time you need to put into meeting real women starts to feel like a chore or a waste of time.
Because when you associate reproductive success with watching computer videos, the effort put into pursuing real women feels like time taken away from the easy gratification you can get just by watching a screen.
Or even if you like the idea of having sex with real women, or you like the idea of getting a real girlfriend, wishing for something is not enough to get it.
You wish for it, but you don’t feel motivated enough to take the actual steps necessary to have sex with real women or get yourself a quality girlfriend. Because your brain already perceives as having all this reproductive success and sexual pleasure ALREADY… as much as it wants in fact, whenever it wants, with whoever it wants.
Your brain already perceives itself to be getting sexual rewards, getting reproductive success, and getting big payoffs of pleasure with very little risk taking – in fact no risk taken at all.
So why go through the time, all the effort, the risk of meeting real girls? You don’t!
It’s just easier to stay at home and you don’t take action. You lose your motivation to take real action in the real world on real girls.
And your brain wiring and circuitry becomes changed. So that you no longer associate reproductive success with you putting your own penis into a real live girl. Instead, you associate reproductive success and sexual pleasure watching other people have sex in a video.
Soon Your Brain Craves Only The Visual
Your brain circuitry changes to thinking that sex is purely visual. That great sex is something that you see, is a face that you see, or is a hot body that you see, or the hot outfit that you see, or is a physical position that you see.
When in fact real sex is more about feeling and touch primarily, and is about the five senses together; touch, taste, smell, sound and also visual as just one small part.
So real women cease to be seen as sexual creatures in your mind, and instead become asexual beings that are ultimately too much time and too much energy to really bother with. Why? because they’re not dressed sexy or naked as in porn, they don’t give you instant gratification on command as in porn, they don’t have the exact body type that interests you in that particular moment as in porn… so your mind just starts to see regular girls as other asexual people that happen to be there. And in effect, you become neutered and asexual to real girls.
Porn Should Make You BORED
So instead, you want to get to the point where you’re only interested in having sex and getting sexual pleasure with real women. You want to get to the point where videos and pictures of light and pixels bore you.
Where watching other people have sex BORES you.
Where you’re only interested in you yourself having real sex… where you yourself have real reproductive success… where you yourself have real pleasure with real girls. So that when you look at a video or a picture you think to yourself, “well I’m not there having sex watching this, it’s not me there having sex, so I’m not interested.”
A Note On Fetishes
And even if you have a fantasy, driven by watching porn, like you’re really into watching a guy have three girls at once, or you’re into watching two guys on a girl, or you’re really interested in interracial sex, or you like cheating wives, or whatever it is, whatever fetish really gets you off, understand that that fetish typically comes from a lack of going out, from a lack of social interaction, and from a lack of real sex with real women.
Once you start going out and meeting real girls, once you start getting a lot of social interaction with real girls, once you start having sex with real girls, a lot of those porn driven fetishes fall away to the sidelines.
And you become much more satisfied and much more interested in having one-on-one sex with the real girls you meet, where it’s about feeling the sex through touch, where it’s about experiencing the sex with another person in her personal reactions and her own personal qualities.
And those old fetishes that were driven from social isolation and watching porn, cease to interest you.
You Need To Retrain Your Brain
The solution is you’ve got to retrain your brain to stop associating sexual pleasure and reproductive success with pixels and light and videos, and retrain your brain to start associating sexual pleasure and reproductive success with real women.
To do that, you have to stop having orgasms watching other people have sex on video. You have to retrain your brain to associate sexual pleasure and reproductive success by FEELING real women through touch instead of visually watching others have sex on video.
You have to retrain your brain to find looking at real women, clothed women, as arousing and titillating.
You have to retrain your brain to find porn boring, because you’re not the one having sex in the porn.
You need to retrain your brain to stop seeing women as boring and asexual, and start seeing women as arousing sex objects.
My 4 Steps Solution: #1. Get Pissed Off
So here’s the solution to get un-addicted to porn in four quick steps.
First, you have to get pissed off.
Pissed off that you wasted so much time masturbating to photos that have tricked your brain.
Pissed off that porn has kept you unmotivated and sexless.
You need to get pissed off that you’re not getting the girls you want, that you’re not getting the girls you deserve, because porn has sabotaged your life up to now.
You need to get pissed off realizing that life is short, that you have a limited amount of time on this earth, and with that precious time you need to make the most of things. And that porn has stolen your time, that porn has stolen your relationships, that porn has stolen your motivation, and as a man who moves toward success, you don’t have time for that bullshit.
You need to get pissed off enough that you want things to change and you’re willing and ready, right now, to take immediate action to do whatever is necessary to eradicate porn out of your way.
#2. Delete Your Porn Collection
Second step. You have to throw out your porn collection. You have to delete it forever.
Maybe you have a list of links or your favorite videos. Maybe you have a database of videos you’ve collected.
You need to completely wipe those out.
As long as you have links or a database of any sort, that collection represents an investment. And if you hold onto that investment by keeping it stored away someplace, it means that you have not yet let go of porn.
Whether you have a collection of 10 videos, or 100 videos, or one thousand videos, whether those videos are categorized or not, the whole collection needs to be irrevocably eradicated and erased for good.
You must start with a clean slate, with no sense of previous investment, and with no avenues for temptation.
As long as you have a collection that represents an investment, you’ll feel a temptation to continue collecting or to go back into your archives. So it must be deleted completely.
#3. Stop Masturbating To Porn With A Blocker
Step 3- After your collection or archives have been completely eradicated from all computers and all sources, the next step is to stop masturbating to porn.
No porn whatsoever.
No masturbation to pornography or videos.
It’s fine to masturbate to real girls that you’ve met in real life or seen in real life using your imagination. That can be part of the process of retraining your brain to find real women arousing, to find real women titillating again.
But no masturbation to light and pixels.
And because the Internet offers such an easy temptation to an easy payoff of sexual gratification without risk, it can be very difficult to rely solely on willpower alone to stop.
That’s why it’s so important to get good distraction blocking software.
For Windows I recommend a software program called focus me, which you can download at focusme.co. The program will shut down any window with the keywords you choose. So you can put in a list of keywords like sex, teens, mature, tube, XXX, and your browser will automatically shut down if any of those keywords appear.
You can also set an “unlock level” where you must type in a long string of characters to unlock the distraction protection…
Having software like focus me is like taking the cookies out of the kitchen. Because when the cookies are in the kitchen, at arms grasp away, it’s just too easy to give into temptation, as your natural willpower will not be that strong.
So even when you get that desperate urge to watch some video porn, the software will simply prevent you from doing it.
#4. Practice Seeing Real Women As Titillating Again
The fourth and final part of the solution is to start practicing seeing real women as sex objects again.
If you’ve watched a lot of porn, real women will seem like unsexy, asexual beings that don’t really turn you on much anymore.
You need to start watching real girls walking, clothed girls.
Look at her as you imagine bending her over and mounting her. You need to look at that girl sitting down and study her legs and study her lips and study her breasts.
You need to start imagining what her hair would feel like. You need to start imagining what kissing her lips would feel like.
You need to start imagining her looking at you, with her big eyes, with her mouth wrapped around your you-know-what.
You need to start practicing imagining undressing real girls with your eyes. You need to start imagining how they react in bed. You need to start imagining how they pleasure you in bed.
You need to start seeing real women as sex objects again, as the source of your motivation to get up and take real action in the real world.
(And for more tips on doing that, check out my Nonverbal Sexual Mind Control program by clicking here!)
Recap Of The Four Steps
So that’s my four-part solution for getting porn out of your life, for eradicating it, and getting that sexual motivation and sexual drive for real women again.
Number one, get pissed off to the point where you will take whatever action is necessary to obliterate porn once and for all, even if that means reframing porn to be an evil influence that is stealing away your life and your time and the women in your life.
Number two, need to burn, destroy, and obliterate whatever porn collection you have so that it is irrevocably erased forever.
Number three you need to stop masturbating to porn completely, understanding that your willpower will probably not be strong enough, and you may very well need the help of a good distraction blocking software or porn blocking software.
And number four, you need to start seeing real women as titillating sex objects again, by engaging your imagination and actively strengthening your sexual imagination with practice.
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Thanks for listening, thanks for your time, I had great fun recording this, my name is Jesse Charger, see guys later.
I olredy stopped watching porn a long time ago but Imy still not motivated in of so I’m working on stopping mastrubate in all together
My guy, you’re really doing a great work here but I couldn’t find the link to the free course.
This is indeed an eye opener. Please what program could stop watching porn on an Android device
lots of good tips here, some people can handle having porn available, sadly others cannot
Firstly I did not get the link for the free course while watching this video on Seduction Science.
Secondly I enjoyed the video and as a porn addict cant wait to stop watching porn and doing and sharing my fantasies with my wife.
Thanks
Wow believe it or not I did these,exact steps about a year ago before reading this. It is the exact way to stop and exactly how,I felt. I was,addicted for years very sad to say as I was in bandage but thank God he broke me from it. I got rid of all of it deleted started getting my life back right with women again. I felt lonely and aweful. There is nothing like having the smell touch and pleasure of a real women. This helped me and gave more more motivation to continue uez not too anymore. He is right it’s all in the mind you get lazy and sluggish and don’t even care about your looks or self sometimes. It does take more time and effort but so worth it. They say patience is a virtue and unfortunately we want instant gratification and porn does that for a while but its,like last which is never satified. I wanted a healthy relationship with a real women and now I have that. It’s a great 4 step plan discipline is a,must or you will need error get away from pornograhy. It’s difficult at first but the longer you stay away the easier it becomes and the less you desire it until you do not more. Great job and thank you it was a pleasure reading it. I I am a changed man because of it.
Good advise
What are your thoughts regarding online erotic literature stories?
I’m glad I saw this video of yours, it made me realize that I can stop this porn step back. The reason why I started to watch porn, I have cerebral palsy and women say that I’m ugly im not wheel chair bound and can’t even get a escort. Give me any advice that you give me to get women to notices me I have a speech impairment and very tight tongue when I try to talk to them. Thank you for taking my comment.
this is the most accurate blog i’ve ever read about quitting porn! well done jesse!
How can I attract dominant women?
Jesse,woody pls help me to atract oldr women,pls
Thank you jesse, it really helpfull.
Hey Jesse…I got the point and now I’m gonna try my best.
That’s why I understand that I am not able to look girls for even 8 secs! I straight away move my eyes away quickly…
This helped me a lot Jesse. Not just for women but my LIFE.
Thanks man
Thanks so much for this. Life saver.
Im on point jesse. Thanks for the article. I’ve been watching porn since 12. Now at 29 I wish I never watches porn. I lost a lot of myself and my confidence. Trust. Relationships. Now I finally see a better life now that porn is out of my life. I do get some urges but I can contain myself because I have a beautiful woman who is my own porn star ;).
Jay
Thanks for making this video.
I’ve been deleting my porn stash since about halfway through, and will overwrite it with prejudice so I don’t recover it like some chickenshit fool.
Many roots to you Jesse 🙂
Thanks I didn’t realize how much porn has taken from me
What about if I am ugly and real girls do not like me?
he looks like a gay
Thank you Jesse for sharing these two videos with us bums living in a fantasy world. I can attest to the fact that porn has sabotaged my potential to have healthy enjoyable relationships with women. I’ve given up porn here and there anywhere from a week to one time over a year, yet some how I would convince myself it is okay to go back and just look for a few minutes (cheat day/everybody does it mentality) which can turn into a few hours each day for several days at a time, sucking me right back in and deflating my self esteem and desire to be around real women. Everything you said is so right on. I always knew these things inwardly, but you put it into words that clarify it so that it all makes sense and leaves on again off again porn addicts without excuse. I really wish that I never discovered that dam penthouse magazine under my parents bed. My mother who was a hotel maid brought it home for my father to look at along with many others I discovered under the mattress that got me on it at 13. Now I’m one of those non productive guys with no kids or wife 33 years later on the verge of having as you said in the video my lineage snuffed out. Very ashamed of myself in comparison to my brother, other male relatives and friends who are successful. All the advise you gave us it excellent, but knowing how my sex drive can flare up at any moment and because I don’t trust myself I’ve decided to get rid of my computer in the next few weeks as I’m about to move. Since I really don’t need it for work, I can always go to the library if I need to do an important email or whatever. It’s the only way I can guarantee myself into retraining my brain permanently away from porn. The only thing I disagree with is you encouraging those in transition to masturbate to woman they have seen without pixels, because that may become addicting too. You seem to know a lot about how the human mind operates, if you read this message can you let us know if you think woman have an intuitive sense knowing or suspecting that men have been looking at porn and are all perved up or momentarily sapped of their manhood there by turning them off. Thanks for all of your great advice and help. I’m all in. George
Okay I got it but i want to know more about ways to get girls. Not really ways to stop watching porn u know. Please
I have gotten pissed off watching p8rn. That should be me experiencing that fun, dammit! And porn is so staged, I see it now more than ever. The girls watch themselves doing what they’re doing. They truly do it for fun, money and run.
When I download anything, the anticipation builds. I open it, the excitement just dies on the spot. I delete. Then desire re-emerges.
I crave female.
And this has gone on before reading your four step recommendation.
However, your post validates what I am naturally doing on a subconscious level. It’s time to kick my ” hide my activity from mom” habit. It’s held me for so long.Now, I have “it” to kick to the curb.
And now the new social problem, facing pretentious feminists, bisexuals without morals, passion-less married woman.and clueless twenty-somethings.
Hmm, well, this just means my personal path will get more attention and my natural seductive side will come out to play when I discover a woman who’s ready to explore the possibilities of responsible “fun and genuine connection.”
Thanks a bunch for this post. It solidifies my mindset.
The main focus here seems like it is the cold turkey approach. That is one method, and you will need a support network for the irrational behavior and emotional swings when going through withdrawals if it is an addiction.
Another position could be continue to watch porn, instead of the movie/scenes usually with the bad plot or dialog, why not spend time looking at the behind the scenes footage. It is unscripted and more realistic of what life is like. It moves from the point of instant gratification a scene in a movie produces to a subtext focused more on communication. The starlets will usually be naked or semi-naked through most of it.
Doesn’t matter what direction you choose, a support network/friends is critical in breaking an addiction. A point not even highlighted but is assumed there is one. A support network is for encouragement and correct social etiquette’s, they don’t need to know the issue for redirection.
Very Good! Thanks for posting. Women can tell when they are dating a guy who is into porn… it’s not as attractive. I want to be ravaged by my man. Keep the sexual energy for your woman… 😉
And if one is already married to a woman who is more spiritually satisfied and less sexually driven, the husband is painted into a corner. This is because he is with dealing with his most basic need being denied to him on the basis of “a wife’s holy behaviour.” Even if he has improved himself to a point where he is sexually desirable and magnetic he still finds himself in the same “sexually denied” situation. Something has to give. So when the appeal of porn has reached a low point where it is merely a cast of players catering to the voyeuristic tendencies of the sexually deprived, then porn’s been exposed to be what it is at its most basic selling point: it’s a lure to destroy a man from within and out of his money, teasing him to think he is getting satisfied vicariously, but he is not. After which, life becomes a dull act. And unless there is a life mission to re-direct such a man, he is doomed to an appetite that will never be satiated. He might as well self-castrate to bear out a dull marital commitment or cut his losses, divorce, expose his life to maximum social vulnerability and begin again.
Hey jesse ive got to a point where i get mad often is there anything you would do
Right on the button my friend.
Jess charger I’m on day one its tough but I’ve been keeping my brain on other stuff it is the weekend mom was home and I was with her all day fighting the temptation to do I’ve done and its getting easy I deleted my photos yesterday when I found this video and by the way man you sent me the video link again so I’ve watched it twice but the second to.e the whole way through but anyways thank you for the help next step is putting my motivation back into play and getting out and dating girls again they reject me but I guess I will have to find away around if I can do this getting a girl will be easy for me
I have a hard time. finding me a Girl friend. at my age. why is. it so hard for a man to find. a Girlfriend.is it . our age or is it. how we look.
What you say about porn is true. It produces wonderful orgasms without any of the risks (legal/financial/emotional/physical) involved when pursuing real women. Call me crazy, but why on earth would anyone want to change that? It’s like abstaining from using a car because it takes you away from walking. Or abstaining from using a calculator because it takes you away your motivation to do math problems by hand. So what? What is so great about real women and real sex?
I am 59. I was married to a hot Filipina for 11 years. The sex was great, but absolutely NOT worth the emotional & financial abuse. I have had many hot girlfriends since I divorced her. However, porn is always there for me. It never judges, never demands, never asks for money. It is better in every way.
I understand your motivation in making this video. Get men to stop using porn and pursue real women again. Only then will they need your seduction course. Personally, after experiencing a lifetime of real women, I prefer porn. I am a MGTOW and MRA. Porn has set me free from the need for women. The orgasms are better and they are hassle free. It is wonderful.
Excellent………. it is the demand of time. Everyone should watch this video. n we should fight against this web aggression done over the mankind in the name of “:FREEDOM” !!!
Thank u very much Jesse.
pornography isn’t an addiction, it’s a COMPULSION. an addiction is a disease. a compulsion is an emotionally-driven habit, and as such it can be stopped at any time.
two. getting pissed off is NOT going to help anyone. your subconscious mind resists self-recrimination. don’t get pissed. just be wise to the game. realize the message that your mind is sending you (it wants pleasure and will take it if it isn’t given), thank it for giving the message in its own peculiar way, and tell it that you want it to help you get what you want by making more effective and socially acceptable decisions. your mind will work with you if you work with it.
three. the porn star onscreen is being controlled by a film director. when you watch porn, you are being jerked off by another man who is telling an image of a woman what to do to you. the woman is not turned on. a lot of the times she’s in pain. and you’re not enjoying it, you are alone and lonely in your room. the only one who enjoys the whole deal is the director. he gets to get you off and humiliate the women, plus he gets paid. the woman gets a bad reputation in the world, and you get depleted of your sperm and will to live. understand that sex is the dance of dominance and submission. the dominant who gives orgasms is in control. the submissive who is turned on is being controlled. when you watch porn, YOU are the submissive and your dom isn’t even the porn starlet, it’s the director who is a MAN. think about that whenever you watch porn: you are volunteering to be molested by another man. take a higher view in it all and see your place in the hierarchy. when you realize what is going on, you will refuse to be a part of it because it humiliates you and takes your power away. that is why you stop, not from guilt or shame.
four. your porn stash tells you what turns you on in a woman. use that info instead of having it used against you. most of those girls are on social media. they are actual human beings. instead of watching them on camera, why not follow their instagram or tweet them hi? it’s not a huge step but at least you are interacting with a human being.
five. get a copy of mantak chia’s book the multi-orgasmic man and do the exercises in it for a few months. masturbation without ejaculation builds your stamina, self-control, and general vitality. when you ejaculate, you slowly lose your power and will to live. be smart about your sperm.
six. read erotica instead of pornography. some erotica is genuinely great literature (tropic of capricorn, the story of o, etc), and it teaches you what women really want, which pornography does not. erotica is way more useful than porn and more interesting too.
some guilt-free shame-free and non-insulting reframes to get you going.
thank you the this video… i will do everything you said to stop my addiction ,,,
excellent stuff..it works.
Jesse, I never realized how destructive this crap was until someone put it into language that I could relate to. Thanks.
I will implement these steps into my life today and see how this experiment works. The info makes perfect logical sense. I appreciate the scientific approach to seduction as my mind can understand it better. Thank you for this info!
Jesse..i really liked your article. But is masturbating to, not porn but hot images of actress wearing
sexy dresses(not naked) is also harmful as masturbating watching porn. Is their any chance of addiction or someting else?? Please help….i like it but sometimes worry about it, i don’t know why?
thanks, i just deleted my porn collections..
its really great advice ..i will work on it to get real women
its really great …
Jesse ur the god who saved my life
nice one bro..will definitely try it
One awesome way to get your mojo/libido back is to do intense short bursts of cardio. For example, I do a 30 second brisk walk and then a 30 second sprint. I do three to five reps.
Then I lift weights. I lift heavy and do high intense training. Look up high intense training. If you do those two things then you will see your libido go up. Plus this is an all natural solution.
you’ve really done a great job with this video. helping any man overcome the temptation of pornography which is something pretty powerful & can make an impact on improving men in their dating community. I appreciate that.
this answers my question
Jesse I see this girl every day and she always looks at me and when I make eye contact she looks away. She is smoking hot and I have her number but I can’t seem to hold a conversation with her over text. By the way she looks at me I feel like she’s curious about me but I don’t know how to make a move can you help man?
What would be the software designed for apple ?
THANX FOR THE SUPPORT IN AND ABOUT PORN, JESSE
Thanx man…i admire u.
thank you. very helpful. yes, it worked
Hey jesse i m a bad porn addict…i watch porn in cell phones plz help me in avoiding it. Suggest some blockers for mobile porn surfing?
I have a husband who I think relies on porn too much, instead of me- and I hate that I feel more like a obligation to him…how can I bring this up to him again without him getting horribly mad and how can I lead him to your site? Any advice?
Excellent videos but ironically your site is full of triggers and pornographic material…
If you live in a place like Washington DC is much better to use porn than bang a lot of broads you regret being with 20 minutes into it knowing you will never see them again because they make your skin crawl
i also wanna join your free course 🙂
hey jessy you dont know what you have created ! Its amazing. I loved each word of yours and I can see a new way out. You are amazing. I am going to apply all.
One Q: I am not getting married soon and I have my studies ahead and also I do not meet many girls and I cannot make a girl friend due to my study timings.
So should I just go out and see and try some titillation ? I dont want to get back to all porn stuff so I want some motivation from you on this. Please reply.
Hey Jesse I would like to thank you for making this video. I have watched porn when I was teen quite often now when I think back I realised how addicted to porn I was. I have always felt guilt after watching porn I had this feeling of disgust of watching porn but I kept on watching. Before I used to watch porn on and off sometimes once a month sometimes once in 3 months and so on. I have read many websites on addiction to porn which said that porn damages your brain the way you think about woman etc. But then I came across your website which seemed to helped me a lot. I am following these 4 steps now. My favourite step is to get pissed off on porn because its true about what you say that porn stole all my opportunities my motivation and I am really pissed off :D. So thanks for pointing that tip out I am really thankful you. Porn is a horrible addiction.
Jesse, I will bet you did well in science lab. Thank you for distilling the energies we mistaken for pleasure. I want to take the course to experience the difference between ‘trap me facsimilie porn’ and genuine exchange between another of the opposite sex.
Hey man! I’m reading you from Colombia. I have to admit that I was accepting the idea of just masturbating instead of going after real women (specially because I must be very dedicated these months to a work project), but you’ve convinced me: porn is a waste of life. It is going to be hard because it’s a habit I’ve had for years, but it’s time to let it go. Also, I’ve also experienced the E.D. and it is definitely related, in my case, with porn addiction. It is kind of scary to look for sex when you know that can happen again, but I guess that’s the challenge. Thanks a lot for the push!
Thnx for great video..
Nd for great tips..thnx
Hey Jesse,
This article seems to be more geared towards older men. I am a high schooler and am trying to overcome this addiction of porn i have. Any suggestions?
You’ve got me curious.
Great article/video Jesse. I’m just wondering though, does Step 2 include deleting things like “2 Girls Teach Sex” training videos or a library of nude photos for life drawing? I’m inclined to think the former are educational and thus beneficial once used responsibly but the nude photos could probably be replaced by images of real women from my own life.
Mike… you’re right, those are educational. Back in college I did a lot of life drawing on live nudes. Perfectly acceptable. Keep ’em.
how do I masturbate, or train my dick take longer to climax, because I know girls want to stick around for a while, but I cum so fast and thats just masturbation not even having sex, which its been over a year now
Hi Jesse,
I came into the point in my life that, I thought exactly the same way. I was pissed to myself and saying stop watching other men’s dick f..king other women, go and find one! Although I have a relationship with a hot women, I couldn’t stop watching porn because I did not wanna cheat her. Then this is what I remembered. My best 3 months in my life, that I was in Hawaii. I watched 0 seconds of TV and spent 2 hours at most with internet just to say family that I am doing great. This was when there was no social media. We are spending too much time in front of a screen that we don’t realize we can’t do without them. I don’t mean everyone but ones like myself who always online with smartphones, tablets, etc.
We should limit the time we spend in front of a glass and get in to action, go outside be Active!
Speak it brother !
Thank you for your help there arent a lot of people who care for others by doing this you are giving back to the universe
Sugar love
I went 2 weeks without but then I smoked weed one night and woke up the next morning insanely horny. So another word of advice is to try to avoid other stimulants that could bring a relapse. It is very tempting when high to just give in to the easy pleasure.
good tip. or just use your imagination instead of videos
Hi Jesse, Overall that was a great video that I can strongly relate to with all the insight you share on porn with us. I can honestly say that there is also some type of Cosmic force that has kicked my ass in cooperation with my own self sabotage. I noticed that after I have gone anywhere from a weeks to a few months abstaining from porn, I become a lot more interested and aggressive (in a healthy controlled way) towards woman that interest me. It just feels natural and without much thought. However, there were many times over the years that I was on the verge of establishing something meaningful with some very attractive women even though I lacked game when the porn bug got me and as soon as I would go back to my old ways the very next time I would see the chick who may have been interested in my one of several things would happen.
A new guy would come out of no where and I would find myself obviously forgotten in a flash, or the girl would simply lose interest in me, or I would lose interest in her. It was either obvious or a vibe of failure and sense of shame that accompanied the let downs. Not to get religious but you can call it chastisement from God, Karma from the Cosmos, or the natural laws of nature ect. but it never fails as though something or someone was trying to tell me something.
Despite all of the great advice and a well needed video to call this problem out which so many many of all ages suffer from (I’m 99 going on 19) you are doing your brothers out there a dis service out there telling them to masturbate to real women because over time that can compartamentalize the behavioral patterns again the only difference without the pixels. If you are going to do it do it right breaking free all the way.
You may also in a future video want to discuss the other pros to porn that influence all the lonely dudes out there which is no fear/chance of rejection, no money, and no drama. These are some other reasons why men escape into porn. Sorry didn’t mean to take up half the web page, but it is a very important topic that a lot of guys wrestle with. 25 days without porn and counting. Wish me luck!
Thanks for writing me half a page. Kudos on making it 25 days. Make sure to get a blocker– once you get passed a few months, you won’t even care anymore about porn.
jesse,
i am your big fan but i want to know that i am in India you know india?
can i make sex with beautiful real girls please guide i am your like brother.
i have quit porn from your previous video based on quitting porn forever.i love your videos you opened the eyes.Now i want to sex with real girls.
please tell how long time to get girls and retrain my mind for the real gratification.
your lovingly,
Manny
Manny I don’t know India… but I feel you’re my brother too somehow 😯
great
Jesse, you have basically changed my life. All the porn videos on my computer are going to be deleted A.S.A.P. You are a gift from the heavens. Thank you for opening my eyes
Great for taking action man. 😛
I agree, however I will put porn collection in garage and save for future lover, just in case she would like to watch together. I WILL ONLY WATCH WITH AN EAGER LADY TOGETHER.
(JESSE, I AM A FORMER HEAVY DRINKER WITH A FULL LIQUOR CABINET IN MY HOME *EASILY ACCESSIBLE*
AND I HAVEN’T TOUCHED ALCOHOL IN 5 YEARS!
I TELL THE LADIES THAT MEN DON’T NEED ALCOHOL!)
THANKS FOR THE THOUGHT PROVOKING VIDEO,
TELLING IT LIKE IT IS!!!!!!
Congrats Rik on kicking the alcohol habit. 🙂
Great stuff I’d like to get the free course….
It’s hard to have fun meeting so called real women, if the only type you meet are fat and ugly or self centered and bitchy.
Definately sound advice.My uncle is a doctor in San Diego and he is starting to see 19-30 yr olds that have E.D. , because they masturbate to hours of porn each month and then become so desensitized , that when they finally do land in bed with a REAL naked girl, it takes them forever to get hard/erection…….Chicks hate that and usually leave the bed quickly..Only thing missing from your video, is a hot chick in a bikini walking in the background by the pool, while your talking away……Joel
haha… shot that at 6:30 AM in the morning to get decent lighting. Ahh well.
What helps me avoid porn is porn blockers, leaving the house, and simply knowing that porn doesn’t get you anywhere as its a false reward.
Watching porn is, in reality, sitting infront f a computer screen and clicking the mouse. Not much else is going on, and real winners don’t sit around.
Exactly ! And guys, porn blockers are really recommend, like Focusme.co
SO TRUE MAN THIS VIDEOS GO HARD AND HELP ME THANKS.
No problem 😉
Very good!! post.
Thank you for that
I think that little video would even be
Popular with women
kickass stuff …
These video is gold! Thanks Jesse for trigger these subject.
Porno on internet can make you hook easy!
Absolutely very good point Jesse!!
Thanks Ken–
thanks, I hope there is hope for me yet!
Great video!!!! one question? So it’s okay to masturbate but not from porn but through imagination?
Exactly– you can masturbate to the real girls you’ve seen. That can start to train your brain to find regular girls sexy again
Great tips…I wonder how many guys use porn instead of cheating on their girlfriends?…..As you say it tricks your brain into thinking you have new stimulation…..but you don’t jeopardize your real relationship by actually going out and having sex with many different women apart from your partner…..
This article kicks ass. Excellent!!!. Keep up the good work.
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