Real Reader’s Story #1: Katie
Katie: Jesse, I have been this guy’s girl for 5 years. I would get so irritated if he would try to have sex with me, I started being mean to him even. He started getting to the point where he was just being overly nice and would do anything for me. I liked that part, but was overall annoyed by him.
Then one day I am doing my makeup and had an attitude with him. He came in grabbed me by my hair and said in my ear “Did you forget who’s the man and who’s the woman here?” I shook my head no.
He said “huh?” I said “No I didn’t forget”. He told me to get on my knees. I did.
Then he made me look at him and say sorry for talking back to him and I won’t do it again. He made me say sorry with his dick in my mouth and said he couldn’t hear me. I tried to say it clearly so he could hear me but every time I tried he put his dick in my mouth again. He would put it as far as he could and hold it there then give me a second to breath. Then he came on my face and told me to lick his balls and dick clean.
When I was done he told me to go wash my face and don’t forget again that I am his. He made me tell him I understand all this while I was still on my knees and look at him when I said it. Then I washed my face and never denied him again.
I’m waiting for him to get off work right now because he always likes dinner ready and oral sex while he eats his dinner. So I am about to touch up my makeup.
He ALWAYS respects me in front of others. No one would live to see the next day if they disrespected me in front of him. But I can’t help it now. I have to do whatever he wants! He always makes me tell him that while I’m on my knees in front of him while he’s sitting on the couch. And I have to look at him while I say it.
#2. “She was kneeling at my feet taking my…”
Anonymous: Jesse, I have to admit when I first got your stuff a long time ago I thought it was bullshit. But I kept thinking about it, and all the things I wanted to change about my relationship. My girlfriend had recently moved in and she had all kinds of habits I didn’t like and it caused a lot of arguments. So I decided to give it a try.
I started telling her rules and correcting her when she didn’t follow them and reminding her of the rules. When she did something I liked, like working out or cleaning/cooking, I praised her and told her what a good job she did following the rules and how I was proud of her.
Initially I didn’t think it was going to work. She’d just get mad and tell me not to tell her what do to. But I just kept at it. I also made sure a few of the rules were things she loved doing, that way she’d follow some rules anyway. Then when she did them I didn’t just thank her but told her how proud I was of her for following the rules… making the praise about her obedience and not what she did.
At first she laughed it off but after a couple of weeks I stopped… and noticed she seemed upset I didn’t tell her she’d done a good job. That’s when I knew it was working and all your tips were right on.
I told her I was glad she followed some rules but I would only be proud of her if she followed them all. It was slow going but soon I noticed she was starting to follow more of my rules, even the ones she didn’t like, like super high heels and slutty clothes at home.
Once I felt she was trained to be fairly obedient I started introducing other things like deep throating and anal… things she’d previously insisted were degrading and she’d never do.
I was sure to tell her they were new rules and how proud I’d be of her. Before long she was kneeling at my feet taking my dick down her throat like a champ and letting me fuck her up the ass. Then I worked her up to expecting it more often and getting rougher with her until I was finally able to be a bull and just fuck her however I wanted.
It’s been a difficult thing, training her, but once she responded positively it was pretty smooth sailing from there. Now my girlfriend is a real mistress…sucking my dick on demand, taking rough anal and dressing sexy to serve me dinner. Now I’m the boss and she follows my lead.
I’m sure some people will bitch and say it’s not in a woman’s best interest to be trained like this…well that’s not what guys care about… it’s in OUR best interest as couple.
#3. “A girl in sexy lingerie wanting to serve me dinner…”
Matt: Jesse, I’ve used tons of your techniques, especially the ones about dominating your girlfriend and introducing rough sex and anal. It’s taken quite a while and lots of training but I have the perfect mistress girlfriend now.
She works in a high stress job and used to come home stressed out and sex was more about her and only when she had time. Now she regularly leaves work early and I come home to a girlfriend in sexy lingerie wanting to serve me dinner. She goes to her knees whenever I say I want a blow job and she knows sex is going to rough and she’ll be taking anal when I want her to.
Your ‘training’ tips have helped me teach her submission and lets me channel my male aggression and dominate her. We’re both happier now
#4. “His every sexual need is met…”
Anonymous: My boyfriend didn’t tell me about your site when he first discovered it. Once he felt he’d “trained” me enough he showed me your site. It’s amazing, so many things on here my boyfriend uses regularly.
My boyfriend tells everyone about your site. I’m so different from how I was when I first got together with my boyfriend and so is he. He’s a real bedoom bull now, regularly insisting on things like anal, deep throat blow jobs, very rough fucking, etc… things I never knew women needed to do for their man often.
I would have never thought of myself as submissive until my boyfriend “trained” me…now I can’t describe the pleasure I get from knowing his every sexual need is met. Submitting to anal, getting on my knees for him and taking him into my throat, dressing in sexy clothes and serving him dinner… it all makes me feel proud that I do a good job of meeting his needs.
In your article you write, “You show women your masculine aggression. You throw women down on the bed and ravish them without regard for her pleasure. You talk dirty to women while you roughly take what’s yours and fuck them.” This is exactly what makes a woman understand her own needs… her need to be with a bedroom bull that takes control.
You’re teaching men how to introduce women to their real needs. Keep up the good work.
#5. “Train me into being the mistress he deserves…”
Emma: Jesse, in response to your article that a woman should cut back on her work hours to sexually please her man… my boyfriend and I decided to give this a try.
I quit my high-stress long-hours job about 8 months ago. We do have less unneeded toys (due to less money) but we’re so much happier. Now I have a small part-time job I love and great hours. I’m able to take care of my boyfriend in the mornings before he goes to the office and I’m home several hours before he gets off work. It leaves me the time to keep the house nice, get all the chores done and work out to stay in great shape.
I find myself thinking of ways to make sure my boyfriend is happy. I make sure to have dinner ready when he comes home and he loves coming home to me in sexy lingerie ready to serve him dinner and eager to meet his sexual needs. And his self-esteem is through the roof as he feels like a provider and respected for his dominant role. My self-esteem is even better now too.
Needless to say our sex life is amazing and way more active. He is so dominant now; he’s really embraced being a true bedroom bull (and not just in the bedroom). I find myself so much more submissive now. Seeing how hard he works to provide for us makes me eager to show him my love and my respect for him.
This obviously isn’t for everyone (and that’s fine, to each their own) but I say give it a try. I never thought I’d love focusing on making a nice home for my boyfriend and focusing on his sexual needs instead of a career until we gave it a try.
Before my boyfriend discovered your site and your training methods I used to laugh at women who were all about their boyfriends or husbands and didn’t want their own career… now I’m one of those women, focused on my boyfriend’s needs as the most important thing.
I find it so much more emotionally satisfying than any relationship I’ve ever had.
The change in my boyfriend is amazing too. He’s now so confident, dominant, and sexually commanding. He says he’s never had a happier relationship, never been able to let go and channel his natural male aggression into a sexual relationship before. He was one of those guys that were taught to never be too rough and to always put a woman’s desire first instead of putting his needs first and taking what he wanted. Now he’s confident in his ability to take charge, lay down rules and be the boss.
And I have to say, the look on his face when he looks down at me when I kneel at his feet to take him down my throat… he looks so powerful and confident that it just spurs on my submission (which I never knew about myself until he started with your training methods).
I know we wouldn’t have gotten to this point without the complete change our relationship went through when my boyfriend discovered your methods to train me into being the mistress he deserves.
#6. “Women really do crave it…”
“Your job as a Bedroom Bull is that of the boss and the enforcer, and to make your woman feel discomfort and pain in the process – but to enjoy it overall” —Damn straight.
My girlfriend was against anal so I started with your affirm training tips, getting her to agree and beg me while fucking her. I moved her up to rough sex, again training her to beg for it. That’s when I started talking to her about anal, while I was fucking her and teaching her to beg for it. Once I felt she was ready I moved on to anal sex, reminding her how she’d begged for it.
Let me tell you, women really do crave it. It was fucking amazing for me, the best feeling of dominance ever. And being fucked up the ass made her totally submissive. I make sure to do it often so the lesson of submission stays strong.
#7. “Women love a man to take charge…”
Paul: Hi all, I’ve been a dominant man for a long time and I’ve turned every “normal” girl/woman I’ve been seeing into a submissive and I’m not kidding every one of them says I’ve changed their lives!
Don’t get the wrong idea I love and respect women and treat them with the respect they deserve and show them love affection.
But then my darker side comes out and I’ll tie them up, spank, whip, cane, gag them, talk dirty, spit in their face, (def ask about the spitting before hand!)… not for everyone but a big humiliation turn on for others. I advertise myself as a master looking for submissive women to train and I’ve not been short of takers! And they love it time and time again coming back for more.
These are women who are intelligent and good jobs, even dominant in their work place, but love a man to take charge and punish them. Password for safety is a must and makes them feel safe and like another said you must stop at that point. Good luck all and play safe!
#8. “She adores the treatment…”
Anonymous: There is nothing like getting your girl into some sexual spanking, if you manage to have them in the mood, she ends up loving it as much as you. And then, the sky is the limit…
With my girlfriend we have games if she’s behaving wrongly and then I have to punish her for the misbehavior. It’s natural at some point so she accepts me as some kind of jury.
When she wanted to be on a diet, she even suggested me to control her, so we agreed on a weekly target. We made a ritual of the scale moment, women love this kind of stuff. She has to paint herself, pink as primary color and use a micro dress, and an exceptionally short skirt.
If she passes the mark, I invite her for dinner, if not, she is my submissive slut. She doesn’t feel guilty with herself, so she adores the treatment.
#9. “My man takes what he wants, however he wants it…”
Emma: My boyfriend took me shopping and bought me an outfit, a tight slutty hot pink micro-dress and super high platform heels. Sometimes out of the blue I will dress up to the nines… the micro-dress, super high platform heels, hair/makeup/nails. He comes home to find me waiting to serve him dinner dressed like that.
It’s not often we actually make it to dinner… I’m more likely to end up face down over the table getting the roughest fucking of my life!!! The outfit is like a signal to him that he has total control and believe me he embraces that. He totally loses it… he’s so rough and dominant, taking what he wants, however he wants it.
I feel so thoroughly dominated and used when he’s finished and more often than not I’m concerned the next day that the neighbors heard me screaming in pleasure!
It’s also a great code for your boyfriend to let you know he wants it rough. When he has a hard day at work he will call me and tell me ‘be in the pink dress when I get home’ and that lets me know what he wants and I can be ready and waiting.
#10. “Making her beg for it…”
Matt: I did the following with my girlfriend every time I fucked her; got her in the habit of saying yes to everything I did, making her beg for it. Once I felt like it was natural for her I moved onto rougher sex, again making her agree and begging for it. Before long she would give in to rough sex with no hesitation. Once I introduced anal she hesitated but I kept reminding her she begged for it and soon it was a regular for us too.
Needless to say I now have a nice little sexually submissive girlfriend who knows my sexual needs always come first. Making your girlfriend affirm and beg for your cock is a great training method.
#11. “Surrender yourself completely to me…”
Simone: I have only just, for the first time in my life, fully discovered and admitted I’m a submissive woman. I met a guy online and had sex on a first date – that is something I have never done before! All because it became very clear, very quickly that he was an experienced Dom and ‘brought out’ the slut in me!!
He said on our first date “If you go into the rest room, take off your panties, give them to me, across this table, you will be surrendering yourself completely to me and I will own you for the whole night.” How hot is that?!?! Needless to say, I did just that- the sex was amazing and I’ve never looked back! No more vanilla for me!! Who knew?!?!
In response to your article “How To Get ‘Good Girls’ To Agree To *Anything* In Bed!”, this is all true- or else why would those crap “50 shades books” be such best sellers? All women deep down, want to be dominated in the bedroom! Read any women’s erotica- it is 99% Dom/Sub stuff! We just need to acknowledge our male female gender differences and celebrate them! Great site Jesse!
#12. “We rarely argue anymore…”
Anonymous: Jesse, I had my girlfriend read this article for me. She was really surprised that a man’s #1 need is sexual fulfillment. I was totally honest (one of the needs for her) and told her about my sexual wants and how I wasn’t satisfied with our sex life. We ended up reading through other posts together and she was surprised by how men need to be a bedroom bull but admitted the idea turned her on.
She’s learning how to deep throat, and getting pretty damn good at it. She’s also learned how to take anal and understands that even if it’s uncomfortable it’s important for a man’s feeling of dominance. The post on sweet but painful sex was a real help. She now regularly submits to anal and rough sex and I’ve never been happier with our sex life. And she’s so sexually satisfied (and worn out) that we rarely argue anymore.
She’s even started doing things like making nice dinners and dressing super sexy for me 🙂
#13. “Grabbing her pigtails and shoving down her…”
Nick: I love to do this to my girlfriend. I have her dress in a bubble gum pink, super short see-thru dress that barely covers her ass, slutty makeup, 7 inch platform heels and her long hair in pigtails. She knows when I have her dress like this she is submitting to everything I say.
I have her serve me dinner and then afterwards kneel before me. I roughly fuck her face, grabbing her pigtails and shoving down her throat. I end the night with her in doggie position, holding her head down on the floor, while I roughly ass fuck her.
It’s amazing. Makes me feel totally dominant and in charge! She doesn’t take the initiative and dress this way herself but when I tell her to she does without question. And she falls into submission beautifully.