https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oz8JsR2t4cU
I want to talk about the word, “sluts.”
Now here’s the thing: losers whine about sluts. Guys who are insecure like to shame women for liking sex. Now these guys don’t want girls running around having sex, but they want them just to wait around for the right guy.
Who does that right guy happen to be? Well, of course they believe themselves to be the right guy. They happen to be the right guy. He doesn’t want her out there getting laid, meeting other men. He wants her waiting at home for the right guy, which happens to be himself, to take her flower.
Not only that. But despite that this woman has never taken an interest in sex before, now that he has come, he’s awakened her sex drive, and all of a sudden, she’s the kind of girl that fucks you amazingly.
What guys do is they make these little undermining thoughts in their heads about women.
They call girls in bars and clubs sluts.
They shame girls for the number of past boyfriends or lovers they’ve had.
It’s this little poison drip of negativity that affects your mind that also causes women to see you as a sourpuss and you end up losing girls by pushing them away and by being judgmental of them, and these guys they put women into this impossible situation.
The Impossible Situation Girls Are In
Just try to imagine this: try to have some empathy from the girls’ point of view.
Let’s take this from the girl’s perspective. For a really hot girl, on the one hand, bitch and complain that they can’t get her to bed, that she has this terrible bitch shield, that she has an attitude, that she’s not easy enough.
Now on the other hand, when she fucks guys, they call her a slut and a whore, but the thing is what does he want from this girl. He bitches and complains when she’s hard to get and he bitches and complains when she is easy to get. But all the bitching and complaining really comes down to the same thing, that he’s not having sex with her.
Now what men have to accept is that the hotter the girl, the more likely she’s going to around hot and attractive guys. The hotter the girl, the more likely she’s going to be experienced with other men.
Make A Choice
So as a man, you have a choice to make:
You either like beautiful women who are cold-out sex, that likes sex, that look hot, that are most likely experienced in bed, that are not going to probably respond very well to slut shaming.
Or you can go for more unattractive girls, which is fine. They are more likely to be inexperienced.
They’re not going to have as much male attention on them of course, so you can feel secure about the size of your cock because when you think of girls as sluts and shame them, again it’s this little poison drip that just poisons your mind as well. It causes women to see you as this no-fun sourpuss, and you end up pushing girls away.
Another way to look at this is that high-status guys that are getting laid a lot and have a lot of options are not all up inside their heads judging girls for liking sex. Hugh Hefner isn’t crying in a corner, weeping to himself, you know, “It’s just terrible, terrible. All these Playboy bunnies are just worthless sluts and I can’t meet a good girl.”
No. He’s like, “These are some amazing girls. I’m having so much fun and you’re saying she’s a slut? All right, bro, look, I’m going to go back to enjoying my time with these girls.”
But for a guy who isn’t getting laid, when a guy if failing with women, you know it’s very easy to tell excuses to yourself like I don’t want to fuck these sluts. I’m not getting laid because my standards are too high. I only take a knockout girl that has no interest in sex until she meets me. She’s just waiting for the right guy to come along who happens to be me.”
That attitude isn’t really going to get you anywhere, so you got to stop being butthurt.
If that’s you, you got to stop blaming girls for being human beings who like sex too. Just work on improving yourself and be cool. Stop blaming girls for your problems and take the initiative.
The High Value Man Attitude
Stop being in a victimhood mentality, sitting around and making excuses for why you’re having trouble getting laid and instead switch to a mentality of thinking, “You know what, I enjoy girls. I enjoy sex. I enjoy girls who enjoy sex. Cool girls naturally have sex with cool guys. Sex is natural. I’m not here to judge anyone.”
Then you’re switching from the frame of being a stick in the mud to one of having fun, and that the girls can feel comfortable being around.
Then you’re going to elicit that adventurous side in the girl where she feels confident, that she feels good emotions around you and can feel free and uninhibited to have wild sex with you.
That’s the attitude of high-value guys because high-value guys do not give a fuck.
Yeah, I know that’s hard to do. It’s hard to let go of the whole slut shaming, Madonna whore dichotomy where you’re blaming your problems on external factors. It’s hard to let go of that and pinpoint that magnifying glass back on yourself and take responsibility for getting laid yourself.
Blaming yourself on the other hand feels incredibly painful while making excuses feels so fucking good.
So just to sum things up: leave the slut shaming to the losers, to the men that repel women, and you’ll be in that top 1 percent that is getting 90 percent of the hot girls.
Am I a loser for sleeping with a woman who’s been with 300 other men?
no reason to ever try to shame anyone imo
I’d be interested on your take on ‘man shaming’ – ie. a women trying to shame men who are looking to begin relationships with women or lay them.
One thing about being single and ‘gaming’ is the negative way in which women will react to my own sexual agency. I’ve found that being tactful but moving things forward is quite effective – this allows women to enact their own sexual agency in the process which I lead. However I’m increasingly seeing that it’s often women who are actually taking the lead in subtle ways when I observe other people around me – in fact going out tonight – the majority of approaches I saw were made subtly by women – there were literally only myself and a couple of other guys doing real approaches. The crowd was very young so maybe it’s a generational thing – younger women are approaching more and more.
Occasionally I’ve gone more direct and it is either a spectacular success or a total failure and the girl gets almost physically hostile to me – again for some reason younger women seem to take much more tact and ‘game’ than women in late 20s/early 30s. The thing is even going a bit more direct I’m not doing anything wrong or anything that would be seen as inappropriate usually.
The times when I get very bad reactions do affect me somewhat – like if a woman is extremely rude to me – waves in my face or becomes confrontational. I keep my cool and maintain civility – usually trying to push through the girl’s resistance – but if I get a very rude or obnoxious rejection – I end up getting quite pissed off. It’s not the rejection, but the disrespect and rudeness of women who behaves in such an obnoxious way. I’m finding that this type of behavior is increasingly common among Western European women. It’s one thing to be rejected – another thing is to have this type of bad behavior directed at me.
Do you have any thoughts on this Jesse? Is it just that some women lack the social grace to reject men in a lady-like way? Any tips for controlling that pissed off feeling that comes up ? Should I try to laugh it off?
Many women are not socially calibrated well, and of those there will be a segment that respond rudely.
You really shouldn’t get pissed off though, because you’re allowing other people to control your own state. You’re giving them a lot of power over you, and good game, a lot of it comes down to just being in control of how you feel and not over-reacting to bad reactions or to good reactions.
If a girl starts to get outright rude, just politely excuse yourself right away rather than persist. Even sometimes you can re-open her again 10 minutes later (but re-open in a more gentle way), and she will often be far more friendly.
As for the shaming of men, yes that is a problem too, but at least it’s the woman’s problem in her head, it’s not your problem. You don’t have control over what other people think or do, so focus on what you can control, which is what you think and do.