“Hey, Jesse, I love your videos, but please help me out with a little problem I’m having. I want to date more girls, but I work long hours. What do you suggest I do? Please help me out, man.” — Bob.
“Jesse, Jesse, Jesse, I want to be meeting more women. But I work long hours. I’m tired, and I just don’t have the time.”
“I just don’t have the time to pull myself together and get ready.”
“I don’t have the time to go to the places where the girls are.”
“I don’t have the time to do all these interactions and find the girl that’s right for me.”
“I got school. I got work. I have my other activities.”
“And I don’t know. The time to seems to disappear. I don’t even know where it all goes really.”
I’m sympathetic to your struggle
So, yeah, this is an argument that I hear quite frequently.
And on the one hand, I’m sympathetic.
You know, we all get busy.
We all wish there were more hours in the day to do everything we want to do.
Our day fills up.
And quite often. It feels like. We just run out of time.
Not enough time is a lie you tell yourself
But the reality is that “I just don’t have the time” is a big fat lie that you tell yourself.
It’s an excuse.
It’s a rationalization.
It’s an excuse you tell yourself, so that you can stay home, where it’s comfortable.
It’s an excuse so that you don’t have to put yourself into uncomfortable situations.
But you know what the right thing to do is, you know that the right thing to do is to get out of the house and meet the girls even if you’re pressed for time.
But meeting women feels uncomfortable.
It takes a lot of energy. You don’t feel like doing it necessarily.
It feels way more comfortable to sit at home and watch some television and just chill out.
So we start rationalizing excuses not to go.
And one of the most common excuses is, “I just don’t have the time.”
You can make the time
But the reality is you can make the time.
If it’s truly a priority for you to get your sex life handled, you can carve out the time.
Your excuse is more about feeling comfortable and doing something more passive like watching video games, or watching television, or spending time on your phone.
And most people can carve out an hour or two a day to go out and meet women simply by cutting out two hours of television.
Or putting down the game controller.
By stop diddling around with your email and social media.
Your time available will stretch to accommodate where you’re actually putting your effort into.
Your time is precious spend it wisely
One way you want to think of it is that your time is quite scarce.
Your time will fly by. In the blink of an eye, you’re going to turn 30 years old.
In another blink of an eye, you’re going to turn 40 years old and coming from a man who is 40 years old, I can tell you that is absolutely true.
And it amazes me how men waste their time, watching television and losing themselves in passive, escapist fantasy entertainment as if they’re going to live forever.
And your time is one of those things that is truly precious and scarce because you’re never going to get it back, and it’s extremely limited in quantity.
So if you want to have the relationship and the sex life you truly deserve, you got to start by replacing all that nonsense by focusing on what’s most important.
And what’s most important is health, wealth, and relationships if you want to have long-term, sustainable happiness.
And if you’re missing out on relationships, it doesn’t matter how much money you make, it doesn’t matter how comfortable you feel in front of the television or playing a game.
You’re going to feel like a major part of your life is incomplete or missing.
Time to stop the excuses
So, it’s time to stop making the excuses. It’s time to stop with the rationalizations.
It’s time to say, “I will stop whatever bull-nonsense habits I’m doing that are not serving me.”
“I will stop whatever activity is monopolizing all of my free time, activities that are not serving me.”
This is the time to say, “I will not just wish to meet girls, but I will take the action and prioritize meeting girls in my schedule.”
“I will carve out the time to make it happen.”
“And I will make it a priority to learn about time management.”
“This month I’m going to read at least one book downloaded to my Kindle or listen to an audiobook on time management, so I can get that aspect of my life handled right now.”