“Hey, Jesse. I have a question for you.”
“How do I start up a conversation with a girl?”
“You see, there’s this beautiful girl in my class that I’ve wanted to talk to for a while, but I just don’t know how to start things off.”
“What do you recommend I say? ~ Darren”
“Jesse, I see girls walk by all the time.”
“What opener do you like to use to get a conversation going with them? Thanks, Michael.”
Hey, it’s Jesse here, and today I’ve got for you…THREE conversation starters.
Yep, THREE conversation starters you can use to start talking to ANY girl out there.
And I guarantee, there’s at least ONE of these you’ve never heard of before.
Do your conversations look like this…
Have you ever started talking to a girl, my friend, and it just went badly (face) from the very start?
Like the first line out of your mouth is stupid, nervous, boring, dribbling, babble, especially if the girl is pretty. (face).
You’re just a mess.
“Heyyyyy…um…look… you don’t know me. My name is Joe and I just wanted to say hello.”
And most of the time, you just don’t talk to the girl AT ALL.
You’d love to talk to her, but you don’t know what to say to get a conversation really going.
It’s like being trapped by this invisible force field of inaction where you’re not in control of your own destiny.
And that sucks. Balls, my friend.
Be an opening super hero…
Well, let’s see. If only you had that first line, something you could just memorize.
And it got a girl to open up to you every…single…time.
Well, that’s why I am here. I got your back with 7 conversation starters to turn YOU into a conversation lady killer.
A conversation starter superhero.
So that you can talk to ANY pretty girl who looks out of your league and get the conversation going off to a great start from that very first nanosecond in a way where she feels like, “What is going on? Who is this cool guy?”
Where her eyes light up with interest, and her hindbrain gets those tingles of attraction for you.
In fact, what you’re about to learn can change the direction of your life because you can meet that pretty girl and make something actually happen rather than just have her walk on by and lose her forever to some other lame dude.
So, let’s jump right into it.
Type #1. Compliments openers
Conversation starter #1 is to simply throw the girl a compliment.
Like I’ll say for example, “Hey there, excuse me. I know this is a bit random, but I had to come and tell you, that you have a great sense of style. Look at that. Your shoes match your purse. like it.”
Or I’ll say, “Hey there miss. I was standing over here when I noticed you walk by and you exude a really lovely energy that’s quite unique. I’m impressed.”
In fact, I made a whole video just to show you how to give a girl a compliment over here at this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ts8sehfGZoA
You might want to check it out.
Now the pros and the cons of using a compliment as a conversation starter.
Opening a girl with a compliment works better on I’d say more average-looking women…women that aren’t use to getting much male attention or compliments.
And a compliment will usually make a HUGE impression on them.
And compliments work well on women that are getting a little older, and they feel that their looks are slipping away and they’re not getting complimented like they used to anymore when they were younger.
And they really appreciate getting that attention again.
Compliments also set that man-to-woman frame immediately: “I’m a man. You’re a woman. I like you. You like me.”
This isn’t just a friendly chat. There’s potentially a sexual connection here.
Let’s see where it goes.
So, you’re immediately breaking that friend-to-friend trap that so many guys fall into.
Problem with compliments
But, there’s a but here.
Using a compliment as a conversation starter is NOT ideal on really stunning, knock-your-socks-off beautiful women.
You know, the kind of women that are constantly being bombarded with male attention.
Because it’s like to her, “Oh, here’s another guy that’s hitting on me for my looks. Guy #235.”
And in a sense, you’re putting her up on a pedestal with a compliment.
And you’re forcing her to make a split decision about you, whether you’re the kind of guy she should get to know when you haven’t even had time to demonstrate your personality and your charisma to her yet.
So while a compliment can be a great conversation starter—very powerful on certain women in fact—for me, I typically use my eyes and my smile and my physical proximity, my voice, and expressions to create sexual tension instead rather than use a compliment.
I’ll throw the girl a compliment a little LATER in the conversation AFTER I’ve had a moment to demonstrate my personality to her.
And let me know what you think about using a compliment as a conversation starter. Simply say “YES” or “NO” or let me know what you think in the comments below.
Type #2. Information opens
Okay, now. Conversation starter #2 that actually works is to ask the woman for information.
Like, ask her for directions for example.
“Hey, excuse me, miss. I seem to be a bit lost. I know there’s a Starbucks around here. But, I’m just not exactly sure where it is. Can you help me out and point me in the right direction?”
Or you could ask her, “Hey, excuse me, miss. Just two seconds. Do you know where a good place is to eat around here? You see, I’m kind of new around here and I don’t want to end up with something that’s overpriced and not that good.”
Alright, so the pros of this approach is that it’s a very low-risk conversation starter.
It opens successfully close to 100% of the time even on really pretty girls.
It will open even if you’re awkward and shy and nervous and you are dressed badly and because it’s so low commitment, it can be good for warming up if you have approach anxiety.
Or just as an exercise to get over your fear of talking to girls if you have a real phobia.
The downside is that it’s not to man-to-woman and it’s not even friend-to-friend.
So, to make this kind of conversation starter work is that as soon as she stops her feet and answers your question and you’ve slipped your way into her attention in a low-risk manner…
THEN…immediately…you want turn up the heat and throw her the compliment.
Here’s an example:
“Hey, miss, excuse me. Just a second. You’re a woman. Maybe you can tell me where the Sephora store is in this mall. “I’m looking for a birthday gift for my sister’s friend.”
So, she’ll stop. She’ll tell you where the Sephora is.
And NOW that you’ve seen she’s perfectly friendly…
And NOW that you’ve slipped your way into a conversation with her…
THEN you change course as quickly as possible and you hit her with the compliment.
“Actually, you know. I have to confess. I’m not actually needing directions to Sephora. I just thought of that as excuse to talk to you, and that’s the first thing I thought of.”
“And you seem pretty cool actually. You’ve got this nice style I noticed. It looks like you put a lot of time and thought into it.”
And now you can launch into a proper conversation.
Type #3. False Choice opens
The third conversation starter is the false choice opener, 0therwise called the opinion opener.
What I’ve done in the past is that I’d always carry two pairs of sunglasses on me, and I think this might actually be a routine from Neil Strauss back in the day.
But anyway, I’ll have my sleek black sunglasses and I’ll have my red, funky, fun, playful RED sunglasses on me as well.
I’d simple go up to the girl, and ask her:
“Hey, excuse me, miss. I actually need a female opinion. I need the opinion of a woman.”
Now WAIT for her to respond.
Don’t just keep talking.
You’ve created an OPEN LOOP. You’ve created a curiosity cliff-hanger.
She will want to CLOSE that loop.
Out of curiosity, she will want to know what opinion you’re asking her for.
Saying, “I need your opinion on something,” followed by SILENCE…
Gets her to respond, “Oh, what do you want to ask me?”
And when she’s asking you… she’s investing in the conversation.
Anyway, “Yeah, so black sunglasses or red, I need a woman’s opinion on this. Very important question.”
“You see I’ve got my black sunglasses, which I like. These are my go-to glasses.”
“But I picked up these red ones… and red is my favorite color…”
“And I’m trying to figure out how they look on me.”
“So I’ve got black…”
“Which look do you like better on me?”
Pros and Cons
Now, the advantage of using false-choice or opinion conversation starter, just like asking her for directions is that it’s low risk.
It will open MOST girls.
The challenge however is that you need to quickly pivot OFF the conversation starter routine into a more substantial conversation with the girl.
Because the tendency is she’ll tell you, “Oh, I like the RED sunglasses better.”
And your natural instinct will be to say, “Oh thanks, that helps. Alright why thank you! Um… uh…”
And she just walks off.
So asking for her opinion will start the conversation successfully…
BUT…you have to quickly jump directly to the next topical (snap) immediately.
Like jump into doing a mini cold read on the girl.
“You know, by the way, I just noticed this about you.”
“You look rather ethnically exotic.”
“Let me guess. You are from…” and then continue from there.
In fact, if you want my full formula on how to start talking to a girl…
With the exact conversation starter I most like to use…
With a specific breakdown of every line I say…
And WHY I use that particular line…
And the purpose each line serves…
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