in today’s video, I’m showing you step-by-step my ‘horny handshake’ technique.
The horny handshake is a clever little trick to covertly and innocently touch a cute girl in a way that amps up sexual tension to a 10 out of 10…
Gets her turned on for you, and gets her aroused…
Even in the middle of the day, even in broad daylight, even with other people around…
Where she’ll be talking to you like a friend or she’s talking to you like a random stranger…
And you pull this ONE little move…
And suddenly her brain clicks…
And she gets wet and horny between the legs in just seconds…
ALL for you.
Now, I’m not gonna lie. It’s a ballsy move. It does take a little courage on your part.
And you do it wrong…well, it could blow up in your face.
BUT, if you execute the horny handshake in the way I’m gonna show you how, it works just about every single time to making even the prettiest girls…
Even girls who are “out of your league,” even if you’re not the best-looking guy…
To start seeing you as lover and boyfriend material that they want to attack and jump on.
And if that sounds good to you, then let’s get started!
When to use it
So first, I’m gonna show how the horny handshake technique works.
After that, THEN I’m going to show you WHEN to use the “horny handshake.”
Because depending if you use it earlier in the interaction, or later in the interaction with a girl…
It will have slightly different subtle effects on her.
So first, here’s the move itself.
The Horny Handshake
You’re talking to a girl.
You say to her…
“By the way, I’m sorry. I never introduced myself. My name is Jesse.”
And you reach out your hand.
Now you might think those initial lines, “By the way, I’m sorry, I never introduced myself, my name is Jesse,” don’t really matter.
That they’re not important.
Oh… au contraire… they’re VERY important.
It’s all about your delivery.
You’re amping up the sexual tension BEFORE you do the horny handshake move.
Delivery
So it’s dead on eye contact.
Very sexual.
You’re looking into her eyes while imagining sexually ravishing her.
And you slllloooooowww down your words with lots of pauses.
So if you were talking normally or quickly a moment before, now you shift into a slower tempo and pace.
All with a cheeky smile on your face as you imagine having sex with her. You want to let her feel your sexual desire for her coming through.
So you say, “By the way…”
Pregnant Pause.
“I’m sorry…”
Pregnant Pause.
“I never introduced myself…”
Pause.
“My name is Jesse…”
And then you reach out your hand.
And she should feel that sexual vibe coming off of you.
And if you don’t make eye contact, and talk too fast, that’s NOT gonna work as well, because it breaks the sexual tension.
Close the space
Another thing about speaking slowly with pauses, saying…
“By the way… I’m sorry… I never introduced myself… My name is Jesse.”
If that gives you both time and a reasonable excuse to close the space with the girl, so just in case you haven’t closed the space already with her.
Say you’re standing a bit back away from her for whatever reason…
If you haven’t gotten real close up to the girl yet…
Then NOW is the moment to do so!
“By the way…” pause and take a step forward.
“I’m sorry…” pause and take a step forward.
“I didn’t introduced myself…” pause and take a step forward.
And get in real close to the girl so you can take her hand.
Invade her personal space a little.
And you want to say it ALL reaaall sloooow…with pauses…
Take your time.
That gives you the time to close the space in a slow and deliberate way to close the space in an attractive and masculine way that doesn’t startle her…
But rather allows her to feel comfortable with you closing the space because it’s not done herky-jerky.
The handshake
Now the good part.
Now you take her hand in yours.
Mind you, due to normal, polite social convention, when you hold your hand up like this for her to take it, and you’ve said very clearly to her that you’re introducing yourself…
Girls will automatically give you their hand back, much in the same way that when you sneeze “achoo” they’ll say, “bless you.”
It’s automatic. So this is an easy “give me” for getting a girl to touch you because a handshake is 100% sanctioned by society as being acceptable touch.
So… girls WILL give you their hand, and you want to milk this.
What most guys do is that they take the girl’s hand, and as soon as he feels any uncomfortable tension at all, whatsoever, he lets the girl’s hand go.
He let’s go.
So his handshake lasts just a second or two. Now that is NOT what you want to do here.
Hold onto her hand
Rather you want to hold ONTO the girl’s hand in this handshake, and just keep holding it. You do NOT be the one to break it off first.
And a lot of girls will typically hold your hand for 5 to 10 seconds before she takes it away.
Now the key is, for this to work, to get her to KEEP holding your hand…
You need to KEEP TALKING to her to keep her mind distracted.
You don’t want her to think, “Oh, I’m holding this guy’s hand for so long.” So you need to keep talking to her immediately.
What I do is tell her a little story about my name.
“By the way, I’m sorry…”
“I never introduced myself…”
“My name is Jesse…”
“You know… like the…”
“Gun slinging…”
“Horseback riding… outlaw…”
“Jesse James…”
“That’s how you can remember it.”
What it does
So instead of just saying, “My name is Jesse,” and then being quiet, I immediately KEEP talking…
I keep the attention of her brain OFF the handshake, OFF the fact that we’re holding hands together…
Keep her attention enraptured in a little story, while I’m still holding her hand.
That keeps her hand there in my hand.
And the effect is…
Between my words… my pauses… our eye contact together…
Between our physical touch and physical connection we now have together…
The sexual tension spikes to a 10 out of 10…
And she’ll start getting turned on.
What next
Now some girls, they feel that tension and they take their hand back. Still, they get attracted because you made that move so boldly.
Other girls though will just hold their hand in yours, they’re happy as a clam with the sexual tension, and they’ll LET you keep their holding their hand.
Either way, you’re gonna say this next:
“So tell me…who are you… what’s your name? Tell me your name.”
And she’ll say for example, “Jessica.”
Then you repeat her name back to her.
“Ah…Jessica…Jessica…Jessica.”
Now there’s THREE reasons to repeat her name back to her.
Number one, people in general LOVE to hear their own name repeated back to them. They feel more of connection to you when they hear you say their name.
Second, repeating her name out loud helps you to remember her. The more you repeat her name out loud, the less likely you are to forget it.
And third, because you want to slow everything down to create sexual tension with her. “Ah …. Jessica… Jessica…… Jessica…..”
Saying it slow like that communicates you are not just Mr. Nice Guy…
But that you are the bad boy sexual threat.
That creates sexual tension.
Make a story about her name
Now whether she’s taken her hand back yet or rather kept in yours, you can make up a little story about her name.
“Jessica…that sounds like a Disney princess name. I can picture you up high in a castle tower, with your blonde hair, which you let down out the window hoping for a cute guy to climb up it to meet you.”
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Or if her name is exotic, say, “Tashara”…
Tell her, “Oh that sounds like an African Princess name! Do you have any royal blood by any chance? Am I in danger here?”
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Or say her name is “Valentina.”
Tell her, “Oh that sounds like a sexy salsa dancer name. Shouldn’t you be dancing salsa as you walk down the street?”
“Did you escape from the dance studio? Am I going to get in trouble here talking to you?”
So just make up a quick little silly, ridiculous story or tease about her name, tease her a little.
Something unique to her, something unique to her name.
Remember, as soon as you take her hand in yours for the greetings handshake…
You want to KEEP TALKING to distract her mind.
More moves
Now if she keeps holding her hand in yours for more than 10 seconds, which many girls will do, especially if she likes you, there’s a way to AMP up the sexual tension even more.
You simply begin to caress the back of her hand and back of her wrist with your thumb.
And you can caress the front of hand and wrist with your fingers.
It’s uncomfortable
The point is, to keep AMPING up that sexual tension until SHE pulls away and breaks it.
That’s what gets the girl real aroused, that you were bold enough and forward enough… to make that move and hold it.
Now here’s the thing, holding the horny handshake will ALSO make YOU feel a bit uncomfortable with the tension.
But do NOT break the handshake yourself.
Do NOT pull away your hand.
You simply keep pushing it forward and holding that tension.
Even if it feels a little uncomfortable for you, hold it.
Don’t be the judge of what the girl can and can’t handle.
As the man, you keep pressing the gas pedal, and you let the GIRL be the one to hit the brakes when SHE feels like it, NOT hit the brakes when YOU feel like it.
As the man, you hit the gas pedal.
As the woman, she hits the brakes.
You don’t hit the brakes. SHE does.
Every woman is different
And every woman will be a little different, so don’t try to guess her.
That super sweet, nice looking girl, maybe she’ll hold your hand for a LONG time longer than you would ever guess because she loves it, and she can handle all that sexual tension.
Whereas the kinky looking girl, she pulls her hand away more quickly.
You never know.
So just KEEP holding her hand. KEEP amping up the sexual tension by caressing her wrist…
And LET her decide when it’s enough. The GIRL is the one to pull away first. Not you.
And the result is, you make a HUGE impression on her.
Now another variation
Now another variation of the horny handshake is…
And I DON’T recommend you start with this, but if you have success doing the horny handshake…
Then try this…
When you tell her, “I’m sorry, I never introduced myself. My name is Jesse.”
You’re going to take her hand in your hand like a regular handshake.
But with your second hand, you’re going to put your second hand on hers as well for a double-handed handshake where her hand is wrapped in both your two hands.
I’ll throw up a picture here for you.
This is a WARMER handshake, and your smile and smiling eyes really have to match the warmth of the handshake.
It’s a BOLDER move.
So only try this double-handed handshake AFTER you get the hang of the single-handed handshake.
When to handshake
All right, so WHEN do you make this move?
WHEN in the interaction, do you go for the horny handshake with the girl?
Well, if you do the handshake too early, for a lot of girls, they’ll pull away because it’s too forward, too soon.
So say you approach a girl and you open her, and you pay her a compliment, and then you immediately introduce yourself with the horny handshake.
That’s too fast. It’s too sexual too fast.
She’ll pull away her hand because she’s like, “Wait! Who is this guy?”
On the other hand, if you just wait, and wait, and wait, and you keep looking for signals if she’s ready…
You’re waiting for the “perfect time”…
Then you may never execute it.
When to do it
So here’s the ideal place to do the horny handshake.
You open her. You tease her.
You energy hit her, energy hit her, and get her lit up with charged excitement.
As soon as you sense she is hooked, as soon as her attention is 100% on you and she’s engaged…
And that generally should happen within a one minute to two minutes…
THAT is when you introduce yourself and do the horny handshake.
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So get this…
Girls are far more compliant as their emotions are going UP.
So as her emotions are going up, as soon as she hooks, as soon as she engages….
As soon as she has some charged excitement like when she laughs in particular…
And you can see that excitement in her eyes, THEN go in for the horny handshake…
And she’ll be VERY compliant to go along with it.
And if you’re teasing her right, if you’re giving her energy hits…hit, hit, hit…
You should get to that point very quickly like within a minute or two generally. And if five minutes passed and you haven’t introduced yourself yet…
Either you’re just waiting too long and you’re playing it too safe, OR you’re not generating enough charged excitement fast enough…
And you’re just being the “nice friendly guy” who’s gonna get friend-zoned.
It should happen pretty fast.
Formula
Now for me, I see the handshake as a turning point in a daytime interaction. It’s a marker.
It’s hit, hit, hit… like with assumptions and teases… get her charged up with excitement.
As soon as she’s charged and engaged, then handshake.
And I’m switching now from flirtatious charged excitement into more sexual tension and getting her to chase me and invest more by asking her qualifying questions.
So the interaction has two parts.
BEFORE the horny handshake…
Hit, hit, hit…tease her.
Make assumptions about her. Create charge excitement.
Once she’s engaged and hooked, do the horny handshake. That creates massive sexual tension.
Now begin the second phase of the interaction, challenging her, qualifying her…
Making her chase, making her invest so you’re not the one doing all the talking.
And focus on building even more sexual tension from there.
OR use the handshake to build excitement
Another variation is that you can use the horny handshake to BUILD that charged excitement itself.
So if you’re teasing the girl, making assumptions about her and she just still has that blasé “I don’t care” vibe about her…
You can use the handshake itself as a BOLD MOVE, a bold physical move to wake her up, to get her engaged, to create that charged excitement in her.
So even if she’s not hooked, she’s not hooking…
Instead of waiting for her to hook before introducing yourself and doing the handshake, instead, use the horny handshake as the METHOD to get her to hook.
End result is you should be doing horny handshake in EVERY interaction even with the girls that don’t seem that into you.
Either handshake as she hooks and or if she’s not hooking and engaging, use the handshake itself to hook her and make her engaged with charged excitement.